Welcome back to Marriage Monday! I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.
That is how I introduce this series every single Monday. Yet today, I can't read those words without tears in my eyes.
My heart has been heavy since the news broke on Friday. It was not unexpected, and yet, I'm an eternal optimist, always hoping for a miracle . . .
With this new blow to biblical marriage, I cannot bring myself to continue with my series on the Model P31 today. I'll get back to it in a week or two . . . but right now my heart is too heavy. I feel I must weigh in on the recent Supreme Court ruling . . .
I know, you're probably tired of hearing about it and reading about it, but that's what bloggers do -- add their opinions to the mix, just because they feel compelled to share what's weighing heavy on their hearts. It's our therapy of choice! :)
I spent some time early this morning reading some of my older Marriage Monday posts. I revisited some of my earliest posts, where I explored How One Became Two and Two Became One and the Four Purposes of Marriage: part 1 and part 2.
In spite of what our world thinks today, marriage is not man's idea. Man did not create it and cannot recreate it on a whim. Marriage is purely God's design and fulfills His purposes. He has every right to establish the rules governing marriage! And while man's opinions may change, God does not change - He is the same, yesterday, today and forever! (Hebrews 13:8)
I'm thinking my grandparents would be totally shocked that I'm even having to defend a biblical view of marriage!
Do you ever wonder how we got so far off the right road?
That one's easy -- we threw away the map!
The Holy Bible and prayer were removed from our schools back in the early 1960s and have been being removed more and more from public life since that time. If you look at the statistics, you'll see that various positive aspects of our society, including things like student test scores, have been on the decline ever since that point, while negative things, such as teenage pregnancy or violence in schools, have been rising since that pivotal point in our nation's history!
I have news for you -- the sanctity of marriage was not destroyed in a day or a decade -- it started well over 50 years ago when a generation arose that rejected all authority and rules and moral laws and embraced the "sexual revolution." It's foundations were destroyed when man elevated his own opinions above the mandates of God and His Holy Word. It suffered irreparable damage when the average person started to believe that we evolved from monkeys instead of being created by a Holy God. Animals follow their instincts; they can't help but fulfill their base desires.
If Christians had stood their ground against such societal changes, biblical marriage would have prevailed. But, when the Church became just like the world, embracing a woman's right to limit her family size via any form of birth control that seemed convenient to her, including abortion, extolling self-fulfillment vs. sacrificing for the good of the family, accepting divorce and remarriage as the norm, endorsing extramarital "affairs" and living together before marriage as acceptable lifestyles, the destruction of biblical marriage became inevitable!!!
The seeds were sown . . . and we are now reaping the harvest.
As I ponder the situation, I find it ironic that I used this picture for my early Marriage Monday posts:
Those of you who have seen the movie, Fireproof, will understand the significance of the salt and pepper shakers perched atop the wedding cake. But, today I realized something more.
Matthew 5:13 says: "Ye are the salt of the earth; but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men."
Salt is a seasoning that brings out the flavor of foods and is used as a preservative. When Christians ceased to live holy, set apart lives, they became just like the world, they lost their ability to bring a Christian flavor to society and to preserve our society from the moral decay that sin brings. And so Christians became worthless, their views were cast out, and their beliefs trodden under foot of men as archaic.
And that is where we find ourselves today. We have a nation full of "savorless Christians" who were afraid to stand up and speak out and be different, because someone might call them "judgmental," "narrow-minded," "holier-than-thou," "homophobic," etc. So, we blended in. We conformed. We compromised biblical standards to be politically correct.
And now we have a nation that has fully rejected God and His ways. We are a modern day Sodom, a nation that has been "given over to vile passions." (See Romans 1.)
What do we do now? Is holy matrimony an icon of the past? What is the future of marriage??
I love this quote from The Southern Blog:
The first marriage was between a perfect man and a perfect woman. The last marriage will be between a glorified man, the Lord Jesus, and his sanctified bride, the church. Between those two weddings, humanity has marred and defaced the institution of marriage in many ways, including this new way. But the Lord Jesus will have the last say. Until then, I am doing all I can to make my marriage reflect the love of Christ for his church and to share the gospel of grace with everyone.
I encourage you to do all you can to make your own marriage a God-honoring marriage!
I encourage you to teach your children and grandchildren that God's pattern for marriage is one man plus one woman for life!
I encourage you to stand boldly for the TRUTH every chance you get, even though you may face ridicule and persecution.
I encourage you to ask God to help you love those who hold a different opinion or a different lifestyle, even though they are hard to love! Hate only pushes the sinner farther away from God and causes us to grow bitter and hard. Remember: God loved us all while we were yet sinners! (Romans 5:8)
I encourage you to offer Hope to those who are trapped in sexual sin. The only way to Truly Love them is to share the truth that sinners will never inherit eternal life . . . But, God can forgive any sin when we REPENT from it and are covered in the righteousness of Christ! True Love is not approving them in their sins, but showing them that God has provided a way of escape!
Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God. ~ 1 Corinthians 6:9-11
And finally, I encourage you to not give up! Fight for the future of our nation and the future of marriage . . . for the sake of the next generation!!
I think you'll be blessed to read the passionate words of my young friend, 16 year old, Dianna, and aspiring writer and world changer!! You can read her fiery post here!