Monday, April 21, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Sympathetic Wife {Link up}









Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards!


Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at various characteristics of the godly wife. Today I want to focus on a quality you may not have thought of -- the sympathetic wife.


Have you ever heard this quote?





While that statement may seem a bit archaic in our culture today, it actually contains much wisdom.  I remember reading a book a number of years ago that contained parenting wisdom from yesteryear and learning this secret to child training:  When we show sympathy for our children and their childish problems, hurts and disappointments, we win their hearts.  However, if we make light of or make fun of the trivial (to us) things that break their little hearts, we are sure to cut the fragile heart strings that tie our hearts together and do irreparable damage to our relationship.  I believe that this wisdom applies to the husband/wife relationship as well.

What does it mean to be a sympathetic wife?  Having sympathy for your husband means you feel compassion or concern for him; it means you desire his well being even above your own; it is being able to put yourself in his shoes and feel what he is feeling; it is understanding the pressures he is under as the primary provider and leader of the home.

What are some practical ways that we wives can demonstrate sympathy to our hard-working husbands?

1.  Give your husband some space when he first gets home from work.  Let him change clothes and unwind a bit from his day before telling him everything that broke that day, expecting him to take over with the children, or telling him every naughty thing that his children did that day!  ;) 

2. Take time to truly listen to your husband when he is ready to talk about his horrible day at work, how unfairly he was treated by his boss, his concerns for the future, a big decision he must make, or financial pressures that are weighing him down.  Put down your phone, your book, your laptop, and give him your undivided attention. 

3. Don't make light of his problems, or try to outdo him by sharing how bad your day was, indicating that his hard day was nothing compared to yours! Just listen and commiserate, showing sympathy and compassion.  Yes, you have problems and needs too, but a biblical response is to put the needs of others above your own. Philippians 2:3-4)

4. Don't try to solve his problems. There is nothing wrong with offering suggestions at a later time, but when your husband first confides in you, he really desires your sympathy, not your advice. You win his trust by really listening and understanding and showing you care. In time, you may be able to share your insights into a situation and offer your suggestions.  Women often look at people and problems from a different perspective than men, and can be a valuable asset to their husbands as they share a different viewpoint or a dose of womanly intuition.  However, here's the thing:  it builds your husband's confidence more if he comes up with the solutions to his problems himself, rather than feeling like his wife has to always solve his problems.

5.  Make sure he knows you believe in him.  Men often come across strong and (over)confident, when in reality, their male ego is quite fragile. It is crucial that they know their wives are behind them, believing in them and cheering them on!  The world is a vicious place!  When our husbands come home tired, discouraged, weary and beaten down, it is sooooo important that we are there to encourage them and build them up!  (I think this is one advantage of a wife being a worker at home.)

6.  Let your husband know that you appreciate him and the huge load of responsibility that he carries!  Sincere appreciation and admiration go a long way in comforting and encouraging our husbands and inspiring them to go at it another day!

What other ways can you think of to be a sympathetic wife to your husband?


To learn more about some specific ways we can bless our husbands, click on the following links to read the other posts in this series:


The Abiding Wife

The Respectful Wife

The Accepting Wife

The Admiring Wife

The Supportive Wife

The Humble Wife

The Grateful Wife

The Joyful Wife

The Content Wife

The Trustworthy Wife

The Kind Wife

Your Turn to Share:

Are you a sympathetic wife? Do you take time to put yourself in your husband's shoes and understand what he's going through?  Do you seek to comfort and encourage him?  I'd love to have you share the difference it makes in your marriage as you learn to be a sympathetic wife. Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony.



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Monday, April 14, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Kind Wife {Link up}









Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards!

Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at various characteristics of the godly wife.  Today I want to consider the kind wife.  

The kind wife - that sounds rather boring, doesn't it?  I admit to thinking there are other characteristics of the godly wife that seem more interesting or challenging to tackle.  Kindness just seems so obvious.  And yet, simple kindness . . . how often I observe it missing in the world around me.



Proverbs 31:26 says this of the virtuous wife:

She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. (KJV)

I wonder how often we really allow the law of kindness to dictate what we say?  Are we mindful of speaking with wisdom and kindess when we speak to or about our husbands??  What about when talking to our husbands about other people we know?  Are we careful to speak kind words about others? What about when we speak to our children?  Do we speak kindly and gently? Actually, I take note when I hear a woman out in public places simply speaking kindly and gently and respectfully to her husband and/or her children. It is uncommon enough to really grab my attention!


Ephesians 4:31-32 is a passage I have used often with my children through the years, as I've reminded them to be kind to one another.  A principle we often forget until it looms larger than life right in our faces is that children emulate the actions, attitudes and voice inflections modeled for them.  If you want to know whether you speak with kindness in your voice, listen to how your children speak to one another or to their dolls and stuffed animals.

Reading this passage in the Amplified version is very instructive!

31 Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind).

32 And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.

Verse 31 clearly explains the qualities that we should root out of our lives: all forms of anger, resentment, bitterness, quarreling, abusive language, and evil speaking. These are the opposite of kindness.

Verse 32 plainly reveals the qualities that we should be cultivating instead: helpfulness, kindness, compassion, love, and forgiveness. 

We cannot simply decide to change the words that come out of our mouths.  For the Bible clearly teaches that out of the abundance and overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks.  (Matthew 12:34, Luke 6:45)  We have to change our hearts  . . . and only God can do that!


Our challenge for this week is to simply listen to the words that come out of our mouths and pay attention to the thoughts that fill our minds and overflow from our hearts.  Are they ruled by the law of kindness?  If our husbands, children, or friends were to describe us, would kind be one of the words used? 



To learn more about some specific ways we can do our husbands good, click on the following links to read the other posts in this series:


The Abiding Wife

The Respectful Wife

The Accepting Wife

The Admiring Wife

The Supportive Wife

The Humble Wife

The Grateful Wife

The Joyful Wife

The Content Wife

The Trustworthy Wife



Your Turn to Share:

Are you a kind wife? Do you speak to your husband and children with kind words and a gentle tone of voice? Do you treat your husband and children with compassion, love and gentleness?  Is it harder than you thought to truly be kind to those you love?  I'd love to have you share what you discover as you focus on being a kind and loving wife. Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony.



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Friday, April 11, 2014

From my Front Porch ~ April 11, 2014




Welcome back to my weekly series, From my Front Porch, where I share updates from my home and family. My hope is that you'll fix yourself a cup of coffee or tea and imagine us sitting together on my front porch, chatting about life and catching up on the latest news!  I hope you'll join me each Friday on My Front Porch!  






It has been a very busy week here . . . with no signs of slowing down!!  At least not until we make it through all the senior stuff and get past graduation and wedding season! So, I'll have to make this a quick porch chat this morning!


I just got home from taking Chris to work.  This is the reward I get for those early morning jaunts.





I just loving living on the Georgia coast and I try to never become oblivious to the amazing beauty all around me!  This week has been absolutely gorgeous with some perfect spring days!  Has spring arrived where you live??  



Bethany had a little adventure this past week -- her first broken bone after a spill on a scooter. Fortunately, it's only a buckle fracture and should heal quickly. Her cast is already covered with signatures, and isn't slowing her down too much, but sadly, may interfere with her plans to be baptized on Easter Sunday.  :(






I have a lot to do today to get ready for a big vendor opportunity I'm involved with this weekend!  I'll be representating Lilla Rose at the Blessing of the Fleet in Darien, GA. This is a huge festival, and I'm really excited about the opportunity!

Speaking of Lilla Rose, there is a spring sale going on now through Saturday night at midnight with 10% off select items!  It's a great time to shop for Easter, graduation, weddings, and senior proms!  Click here to take a look around my website. If you are a New Customer to Lilla Rose and you purchase 3 items, I will send you a coupon for a FREE flexi (up to $16 value).  Just email me and let me know you want to take advantage of the Buy 3, Get 1 Free Special!  (elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com)





People say you can't teach an old dog new tricks, but I've been stretching myself and learning how to do lots of new things thanks to Lilla Rose!  One of my recent accomplishments was to create a YouTube video introducing Lilla Rose (definitely out of my comfort zone!).  Then, I googled how to create a QR code and learned how to embed the link for the video in the QR code. Then I ordered new business cards with my QR code on them!  Aren't you impressed??  ;)   

Here's my QR code if you want to try scanning it with your smart phone!  





Or, you can just click on the link below to watch my video:

http://youtu.be/Drl_VpPIHDk


Well, I better go organize all my Lilla Rose stuff and get ready for my big weekend!  I hope you have a great weekend!  I'll look forward to seeing you here again next Friday on my front porch!













Thanks for stopping by my front porch for a visit! I'd love for you to take a moment to "sign my guest book" (leave a comment!) so I can know that you stopped by and enjoyed your visit!  Please join me again next Friday on my front porch!  








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Monday, April 7, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Trustworthy Wife {Link up}









Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards!

Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at various characteristics of the godly wife.  Today I want to consider the trustworthy wife.  







Proverbs 31:11-12 says:

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. (KJV)

I always love reading verses in the Amplified version, as it gives me a deeper understanding of the verse and often helps me better grasp how to apply the passage to my life.  Consider Proverbs 31:11-12 in the Amplified:

11 The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.  
12 She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her.


Can your husband safely trust in you?  Are you honest, reliable, and faithful? Are you worthy of his trust? 

A trustworthy wife is honest. If she tells her husband something, he can know beyond a shadow of a doubt that she is telling him the truth.

A trustworthy wife is where she is supposed to be. She is not out gallivanting around when she is supposed to be home. She doesn't tell her husband she will be one place and then go somewhere else, hoping he doesn't find out.

A trustworthy wife is faithful and guards her heart from becoming drawn to any other man, whether at work, at church, or in the Internet.  

A trustworthy wife can be trusted with her husband's income.  She will use it wisely, learn frugal ways to stretch it, and not make extravagant purchases. She would never take her husband's credit cards out for a day of "retail therapy" and run up huge bills. She will not have secret accounts (unless she is in a truly dangerous relationship and making plans to escape).  She will not make secret purchases.  She has nothing to hide from her husband. 

A trustworthy wife will keep her husband's confidences.  If he shares his heart with her, he won't find his secrets on the church's prayer list or shared on the Internet. He can trust her to guard his private life.  

Proverbs 11:13 says:

He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets, 
But he who is trustworthy conceals a matter. (NASB)


A trustworthy wife always has her husband's best interests in mind. She has his back!  She treats him well, comforts and encourages him, and according to verse 12, she does her husband good all the days of her life.  Have you ever really thought about that verse?  Can you be counted on to do your husband good every single day of your life?  

Perhaps you're not yet married -- you can still do your husband good every day of your life as you save yourself for him and as you prepare now to be a godly wife. Perhaps you're separated from your husband -- you can still do him good as you refrain from speaking evil of him and tearing down his reputation to anyone who will listen.  

On the other hand, maybe you're just an average woman, struggling to fit everything in, wondering how you can be a good wife to your imperfect man. How can you do your husband good every single day of your life?  

That is the purpose of this series.  As we look at each facet of being a godly wife, we are learning ways of becoming the wife that God would have us to be, with the goal of building strong and satisfying marriages and creating happy homes that are havens from the outside world.  

With God's help, we can cultivate faithfulness, build trust, and do our husbands good every day of our lives!  


To learn more about some specific ways we can do our husbands good, click on the following links to read the other posts in this series:


The Abiding Wife

The Respectful Wife

The Accepting Wife

The Admiring Wife

The Supportive Wife

The Humble Wife

The Grateful Wife

The Joyful Wife

The Content Wife



Your Turn to Share:

Are you a trustworthy wife?  Can your husband trust you?  Are his secrets safe with you?  Are you commited to doing your husband good all the days of your life?  I'd love to have you share how you are learning to become a trustworthy wife. Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony.



If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!



Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!



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Blogs I link up with from week to week:

What Joy Is MinePhotobuckethttp://aproverbs31wife.com/category/of-family-matters/helpmeet/ Making Your Home Sing Monday!



  


a-wise-woman-builds-her-home          Messy Marriage


   Wifey Wednesday button Wholehearted Wednesday




 A Little R & R 




Proverbs 31 Link Up     


 



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