Monday, August 24, 2015

Marriage Monday: Project P31: Speaking with Wisdom and Kindness




Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  {The need for this has never been greater!}

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 



She openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
~ Proverbs 31:26

This verse is short and sweet, easy to understand, and extremely difficult to live out!

Elizabeth George gets to the heart of the matter in Beautiful in God's Eyes:


Being committed to our home, running the household in an organized manner, excelling in meal preparation and homemaking, supporting our husband's advancement, giving generously to charity, and bringing in an income are all easy -- compared to opening our mouth with wisdom and kindness. Why do I say that? Because actions are external, but speech is a matter of the heart: "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks." (Luke 6:45)

While an ungodly woman lets angry, contentious, sarcastic, slanderous words spill from her mouth, the virtuous woman must carefully guard her lips, and her heart, where her words originate!  Her words should always be governed by both wisdom and kindness!  

Not only that, but her words should be measured!  Notice that the verse says, "opened her mouth!"  That implies that her mouth is shut at least some of the time!  ;) She's not one of those women that you avoid, because you know if you even say "Hello," you'll be stuck in a conversation for the next 45 minutes!  Some women amaze me with their ability to talk continuously without even pausing to take a breath!  ;) 

Our model P31 speaks wisely and kindly.  That means if she has nothing kind or wise to say, she learns to keep her mouth shut!  :) She has learned to listen more than she talks.

Here are some guidelines that every P31 should let govern her speech:

1. Speak only what is wise and kind. The result is you will only speak when you have something worth saying, and you will say it in the right way.  (Proverbs 31:26)

2. Think before you speak. "The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil." (Proverbs 15:28)  Speaking rashly always gets us in trouble!

3. Answer softly. Our natural tendency is to let the tone of our words match the tone which was used in speaking to us. It takes great self-control to answer softly when spoken to angrily. "A soft word turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." (Proverbs 15:1)

4. Avoid talking too much.  Most of us like to talk, but we need to learn to restrain our lips!  :) "In the multitude of words, sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise."  (Proverbs 10:19)

5. Listen more than you talk. "Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." (James 1:19)

6. Maintain pure speech.  "For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret." (Ephesians 5:12)  " . . .neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks." (Ephesians 5:4)

7. Speak the truth. "Therefore, putting away lying, Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor." (Ephesians 4:25)

8. Use gracious words. "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one." (Colossians 4:6)

9. Build up others with your words. "Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." (Ephesians 4:29)  "Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another." (Romans 14:19)

10. Use pleasant, healing words.  "Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones."  (Proverbs 16:24)

Wow! The Bible has a lot to say about our words, doesn't it??  


Especially for Single P31s:

Learning to control our tongues is a life-long battle. Please don't wait until you are married to learn to speak with wisdom and kindness!  :)  



Project P31, Mission #16:

Time for a new assignment! 

Pay attention to your words.  Do the majority of your words fit into the guidelines above?  If not, consider your thoughts. Since our words reflect what is in our hearts and minds, You may have to dig a bit deeper to take control of what comes out of your mouth!


Pick one of the above categories to start working on. You may want to memorize the associated verse to help you as you seek to gain control over your speech!  



Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  What is your weakness when it comes to your speech?  Which area are you choosing to work on first?

Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!



Link up:

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Monday, July 27, 2015

Marriage Monday: Project P31: Strength and Honor are Her Clothing




Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  {The need for this has never been greater!}

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 



Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
~ Proverbs 31:25

These simple words speak volumes about our P31. Her clothing, her adornment, what people notice about her most is not her well made "silk and purple," but her strength and honor.

She is physically strong, because she works hard physically from morning until night. She has no need of a "gym membership" to strengthen her arms, because her life includes physical labor, and she is no slacker!

She is also strong mentally, emotionally and spiritually, which are intricately woven together, because her life flows from a fear of the Lord, and like David, she strengthens herself in her God.

Now David was greatly distressed, for the people spoke of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and his daughters. But David strengthened himself in the LORD his God. ~ 1 Samuel 30:6

This woman's strength also comes from her character. This strength of character is what gives her honor or dignity.

She doesn't seek honor from others. She is simply an honorable, worthy, virtuous woman.

Her righteousness, her faithfulness, her wholehearted trust in the Lord all produce an inner peace and confidence, which are evident in her outward strength and honor. She is a noble woman -- a woman of great influence in her home and her community.

Of course, she has problems, and the news coming out of the city gate may be troubling at times, but she exhibits the unworried peace of someone who knows that her fate rests with God, someone who holds fast to God’s promises of protection and provision and salvation. She not only refrains from worrying about tomorrow, she actually rejoices when she thinks about her future, knowing that God is in control!

The LORD is my strength and my shield;
My heart trusted in Him, and I am helped;
Therefore my heart greatly rejoices,
And with my song I will praise Him.

Psalm 28:7


Especially for Single P31s:

Strength and honor are certainly within reach for ever single woman who fears the Lord, who rests in His providence and who waits on His timing. Forget about the latest fashions and fads, and focus on clothing yourself in the timeless beauty of peace, contentment, and holy living. 



Project P31, Mission #14:

Time for a new assignment! 

This is a good time to consider your inner and outer wardrobe --- are you clothed with strength and dignity and honor? Are the clothes hanging in your closet fitting for an honorable woman? Do you feed your mind with worthy, honorable books and entertainment?  Is your life characterized by a fear of the Lord or a fear of man and a fear of the future??


By humility and the fear of the LORD are riches and honor and life.  ~ Proverbs 22:4



Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  If you've started a home business, I'd love to hear about it!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!



Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!



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Monday, July 20, 2015

Marriage Monday: Model P31: Making Fine Linen and Selling It




Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  {The need for this has never been greater!}

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 


She maketh fine linen and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchants. 
~ Proverbs 31:24


It's easy to go from amazed and inspired to overwhelmed as we consider all the Excellent Wife was able to accomplish!  Let me remind you that this passage gives us a panaromic view of her life.  This is not a picture of just one day in the life of the P31! 

Life is full of seasons, and when she had many little ones clinging to her "skirts" she was probably not selling linen garments to the merchants!  

As the virtuous woman developed skills in meeting the needs of her family, her excellent workmanship probably drew the attention of the merchants in her community. Eventually, she had a profitable home business.

Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might.  ~Ecclesiastes 9:10

What stands out to me the most about the virtuous woman is how she was always productive, using her time wisely, meeting the needs of her family.  Then, as circumstances allowed, she extended her influence out into her community through her acts of charity and her business endeavors, all the while continuing to be a help meet to her husband and bringing him honor.


For many years, I could barely keep my head above water, with giving birth to a new baby approximately every other year and homeschooling my large family, while trying to keep on top of the never-ending cooking, cleaning and laundry!!  While those years were rewarding, they were also exhausting and all-consuming!  I could never have kept up with a blog or a home business during those years!  

However, I now find myself in a different season of life, with new challenges and new opportunities. Only half of my ten children currently live at home full time.   My "baby" is nearly 11 and my homeschool will only consist of two students this year! I'm enjoying the new opportunities that this season of life affords, such as blogging, selling Lilla Rose hair jewelry, and helping moms reclaim their energy, health and zest for life by sharing the amazing Plexus products.  

If you are still in the days of sleepless nights, changing diapers, planning your days around nap times, and teaching the ABC's and 123's, don't wish those days away!  They evaporate all too quickly!  Embrace the season of life you are in!!  Your time will come soon enough when you can take some of the skills and character that you are developing and turn them into a profitable home business.

To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven. ~ Ecclesiastes 3:2

I know many women who have been able to take what they learned in the trenches and turn it into resources or ministries that bless other moms and bring in some extra income for their own families. I'm thinking of some amazing moms who've created excellent home schooling and parenting materials, such as Donna Reish over at Character Ink, Kathie Morrissey at the Character Corner, or Kim Brenneman and her book Large Family Logistics, just to name a few.  What skills are you developing that you can use as a basis for a business/ministry to other moms??


Especially for Single P31s:

I encourage every single young woman, who hopes to have a husband and children some day, to learn skills, cultivate talents and develop abilities that might turn into a profitable home business in the future. It is getting harder and harder for families to survive on one income, but children need their mommies at home just as much, if not more, as they always have!  If you can start a home business now, it would be much easier to keep it going later, when you are in the busy years of raising young children. 

At the very least, begin to develop habits of initiative, diligence, productivity, and wise time management!  These will serve you well in your future!


Project P31, Mission #13:

Time for a new assignment!  

Prayerfully consider if this is the right time for you to consider starting a cottage industry.  Maybe you are in the season of life where you can begin to ponder and brainstorm . . . but it may be awhile before you can realistically add a home business to your life. It doesn't hurt to start dreaming  . . . 

Maybe, you are a working mom who needs to find ways to squeeze a home business into your life so that you can fulfill your dreams of being home with your precious children!  (If that describes you, I've seen many women able to accomplish this feat in a relatively short amount of time with the amazing Plexus opportunity!)

And perhaps, you've reached the season of life where you feel ready to pursue to cottage industry, but you don't know where to start.  I encourage you to begin to realistically consider your talents, your abilities, your skills.  Think about how much time you have, when you want to work, what your'e good at, what needs you see around you, etc.  What skills did you learn as you raised your children?  Ask your husband what he thinks you're good at and if he has any ideas.



Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  If you've started a home business, I'd love to hear about it!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!



Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!



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Monday, July 13, 2015

Marriage Monday: Her Husband is Known in the Gates




Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  {The need for this has never been greater!}

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 



Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. 
~ Proverbs 31:23


Thus far, our study of Proverbs 31 has focused solely on the actions of the wife.  But, suddenly we are given a glimpse into the life of this woman's husband. This verse says he is known in the gates where he sits with the elders, or local leaders, of their community. He may have been an alderman or city councilman, or may have been a business leader, but he was certainly a man of influence.  

Why is this verse inserted into a passage that has been describing the character and accomplishments of a virtuous woman??  It's quite simply because the actions, attitudes, and character of a wife have a tremendous impact on the accomplishments of her husband! I've heard it said that when a man climbs the ladder of success, you'll find his wife holding the ladder!  :)

Although it is not popular in our culture at this present time, it is still biblical, worthy, and important for a wife to support her husband's dreams and goals and encourage his success! Men usually accomplish more when they have a good helpmeet by their sides, encouraging them and helping them!  And when a wife manages the home well, making sure there is always clean laundry to wear and nutritious food to eat, and lovingly cares for and trains the children, then her husband is free to focus on his career and/or ministry. This is God's design -- and it works!


I love the perspective of Elizabeth George in Beautiful in God's Eyes:

As I think about the husband and wife pictured in Proverbs 31, I think of them as a pair of bookends. Both of them are pillars in the community, both are known in the gates (verses 23 and 31), and both are committed to the good of others (verses 20 and 23). Although their spheres of influence are different, they both exhibit the same virtuous character as they live with the same purpose, that of serving others.

God designed a husband and wife to complement each other, not compete with one another or be copies of one another, in fulfilling the calling that He puts on their lives as a couple!  I love how we see this exemplary couple doing just that!


  • He contributes to the good of the community, while she serves as his helpmeet and also reaches out to the needy in the community.
  • He is successful in business and city management. She successfully manages their home and family, as well as some home businesses.
  • He is respected and esteemed in the community; she strengthens his reputation by her honorable conduct.
  • He has achieved some degree of worldly wealth and social status. She contributes to that success by her diligence, frugality, and enterprising spirit.
  • He exerts his influence on the life of the community as he makes decisions in the city gates; she influences the community from her home.
  • He is crowned with honor; she is his crown. (Proverbs 12:4)


Isn't that a beautiful picture??  God designed marriage as a cooperative endeavor and a couple that works together, complementing one another, is powerful indeed!! God never intended for a husband and wife to be two separate entities, pursuing two separate causes in two separate directions!  You are to become "one flesh" that is united in purpose, using your separate contributions and spheres of influence to accomplish the unique calling that God has for you as a couple and a family! (And if you're worried about being "fulfilled,"  there's nothing more fulfilling than accomplishing that which God has created you to do!)


Especially for Single P31s:

Your goal as a single young woman is to develop the talents and skills which the Lord has entrusted to you, not knowing how these may help you or your husband in the future!  Nothing is wasted with God!  As you get older, you can look back and see how He has been weaving together the different facets of your life, and how He takes different experiences and pulls them together to equip you for the job he has for you to do!  If marriage is in your future, He is also preparing you to be the perfect helpmeet for the husband He has for you!  (So, make sure you don't rush ahead -- wait patiently for the man of God's choosing!)  If marriage is not in your future, then God is equipping you and preparing you for that, as well! 

Whether talents or trials -- God has a purpose for them all!  He is preparing you for a future only He sees!  (Romans 8:28-29, 1 Corinthians 2:9)

Perhaps you are tempted to live in fear -- fear that you'll never get married and have a family, or fear that you'll live a lonely, unfulfilled existence.  However, both fear and faith require you to believe in something hasn't happened yet.  So, it's your choice whether you choose fear or faith!  I hope you'll choose to live in Faith!  :)


Project P31, Mission #13:

Time for a new assignment!  

Take time to honestly examine your life and see whether your character and actions are helping your husband succeed in his career or ministry  . . . or holding him back!  

Are you strengthening his influence and prestige in your community?  Or are you undermining it?  

Are you managing his home well, so he is freed up to focus on his calling?  Or does he have to worry about whether he will have clean clothes to wear?

Are you a crown to him . . . or more like a cancer eating away at him??  

Do you sulk, pout and complain when he is away from home working or ministering and make him feel guilty?  Or do you yield your rights to your husband's time to God?

Purpose to make any changes that you see need to occur, by God's grace! :)



Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!



Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!



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Monday, June 29, 2015

Marriage Monday: A Defense of Biblical Marriage



Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards. 

That is how I introduce this series every single Monday.  Yet today, I can't read those words without tears in my eyes.  

My heart has been heavy since the news broke on Friday.  It was not unexpected, and yet, I'm an eternal optimist, always hoping for a miracle . . . 

With this new blow to biblical marriage, I cannot bring myself to continue with my series on the Model P31 today. I'll get back to it in a week or two . . . but right now my heart is too heavy.  I feel I must weigh in on the recent Supreme Court ruling . . . 

I know, you're probably tired of hearing about it and reading about it, but that's what bloggers do -- add their opinions to the mix, just because they feel compelled to share what's weighing heavy on their hearts. It's our therapy of choice!  :)

I spent some time early this morning reading some of my older Marriage Monday posts.  I revisited some of my earliest posts, where I explored How One Became Two and Two Became One and the Four Purposes of Marriage: part 1 and part 2.

In spite of what our world thinks today, marriage is not man's idea. Man did not create it and cannot recreate it on a whim.  Marriage is purely God's design and fulfills His purposes.  He has every right to establish the rules governing marriage! And while man's opinions may change, God does not change - He is the same, yesterday, today and forever! (Hebrews 13:8)

I'm thinking my grandparents would be totally shocked that I'm even having to defend a biblical view of marriage!

Do you ever wonder how we got so far off the right road?  

That one's easy -- we threw away the map!  

The Holy Bible and prayer were removed from our schools back in the early 1960s and have been being removed more and more from public life since that time. If you look at the statistics, you'll see that various positive aspects of our society, including things like student test scores, have been on the decline ever since that point, while negative things, such as teenage pregnancy or violence in schools, have been rising since that pivotal point in our nation's history!

I have news for you -- the sanctity of marriage was not destroyed in a day or a decade -- it started well over 50 years ago when a generation arose that rejected all authority and rules and moral laws and embraced the "sexual revolution."  It's foundations were destroyed when man elevated his own opinions above the mandates of God and His Holy Word.  It suffered irreparable damage when the average person started to believe that we evolved from monkeys instead of being created by a Holy God. Animals follow their instincts; they can't help but fulfill their base desires.  

If Christians had stood their ground against such societal changes, biblical marriage would have prevailed. But, when the Church became just like the world, embracing a woman's right to limit her family size via any form of birth control that seemed convenient to her, including abortion, extolling self-fulfillment vs. sacrificing for the good of the family, accepting divorce and remarriage as the norm, endorsing extramarital "affairs" and living together before marriage as acceptable lifestyles, the destruction of biblical marriage became inevitable!!!

The seeds were sown . . . and we are now reaping the harvest.

As I ponder the situation, I find it ironic that I used this picture for my early Marriage Monday posts:


  
Those of you who have seen the movie, Fireproof, will understand the significance of the salt and pepper shakers perched atop the wedding cake. But, today I realized something more.  

Matthew 5:13 says: "Ye are the salt of the earth; but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men."

Salt is a seasoning that brings out the flavor of foods and is used as a preservative.  When Christians ceased to live holy, set apart lives, they became just like the world, they lost their ability to bring a Christian flavor to society and to preserve our society from the moral decay that sin brings.  And so Christians became worthless, their views were cast out, and their beliefs trodden under foot of men as archaic.

And that is where we find ourselves today.  We have a nation full of "savorless Christians" who were afraid to stand up and speak out and be different, because someone might call them "judgmental," "narrow-minded," "holier-than-thou," "homophobic," etc.  So, we blended in.  We conformed. We compromised biblical standards to be politically correct. 

And now we have a nation that has fully rejected God and His ways. We are a modern day Sodom, a nation that has been "given over to vile passions."  (See Romans 1.)

What do we do now? Is holy matrimony an icon of the past?  What is the future of marriage??





I love this quote from The Southern Blog:


The first marriage was between a perfect man and a perfect woman. The last marriage will be between a glorified man, the Lord Jesus, and his sanctified bride, the church. Between those two weddings, humanity has marred and defaced the institution of marriage in many ways, including this new way. But the Lord Jesus will have the last say. Until then, I am doing all I can to make my marriage reflect the love of Christ for his church and to share the gospel of grace with everyone.

I encourage you to do all you can to make your own marriage a God-honoring marriage!  

I encourage you to teach your children and grandchildren that God's pattern for marriage is one man plus one woman for life!   

I encourage you to stand boldly for the TRUTH every chance you get, even though you may face ridicule and persecution.

I encourage you to ask God to help you love those who hold a different opinion or a different lifestyle, even though they are hard to love!  Hate only pushes the sinner farther away from God and causes us to grow bitter and hard. Remember: God loved us all while we were yet sinners!  (Romans 5:8)

I encourage you to offer Hope to those who are trapped in sexual sin. The only way to Truly Love them is to share the truth that sinners will never inherit eternal life . . . But, God can forgive any sin when we REPENT from it and are covered in the righteousness of Christ!  True Love is not approving them in their sins, but showing them that God has provided a way of escape!

Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God. ~ 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

And finally, I encourage you to not give up!  Fight for the future of our nation and the future of marriage . . . for the sake of the next generation!!

I think you'll be blessed to read the passionate words of my young friend, 16 year old, Dianna, and aspiring writer and world changer!!  You can read her fiery post here!

Monday, June 22, 2015

Marriage Monday: Her Clothing is Silk and Purple {Link up}





Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards. 

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 



She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. 
~ Proverbs 31:22


One thing I love about this passage is how it demonstrates that our Model P31 first saw to it that her family was prepared for winter and clothed in scarlet, and then she turned her attention to herself and her home furnishings. She wasn't all about herself -- making sure she had what she wanted and "deserved" first and foremost, nor did she neglect herself and go around like a "martyr" dressing in rags while her family was dressed in scarlet.  She achieved one of the most difficult things in the Christian life -- balance!  

As a woman of dignity and honor, and one who was obviously well off, she was dressed appropriately for her station in life.  She also dressed in such a way as to bring honor to her husband, who was a leader in their community (as we will see in the next verse).  Furthermore, her outer adornment was an accurate reflection of her inner character. (1 Peter 3:3-4)

The position our husband holds in life does affect the way we dress.  The wife of a college president, US senator, or state governor, for example, would have different wardrobe needs than the wife of a farmer, mechanic or factory worker.  One is not better than the other -- God needs faithful representatives in all walks of life!  

The primary thing for a woman to remember is that her attire should be modest, clean and neat, appropriate to the occasion, within her means, and a reflection of her character. While the Bible condemns ostentatious and immodest dressing, we can deduct from this passage that wearing attractive, appropriate, colorful, and well-constructed clothing is praiseworthy!  :)

The virtuous woman not only adorns herself attractively and appropriately, she also furnishes and decorates her house in the same manner.  The "coverings of tapestry" actually refer to her household decor, as is evident from reading this verse in the Amplified Bible:

She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry. Her clothing is of linen, pure and fine, and of purple [such as that of which the clothing of the priests and the hallowed cloths of the temple were made]. ~ Proverbs 31:22 (Amplified)

God has put the natural desire into a woman to make her house into a home.  As long as it is not overdone, there is nothing wrong with this!  It is part of the woman's role as keeper of the home to create an inviting, pleasant home that is welcoming to her family, her friends and to those whom she ministers to.

What if her husband can't afford much of a house? What if she lives in a camper or a makeshift shelter? The queen of the home may not be able to determine the type of "castle" she lives in, and it may resemble a shack more than a castle, but she is still in charge of making it beautiful and fit for her "king!"  :)  This may sound impossible, but did you know that in most cases, the woman controls whether the house is clean and organized and whether it is characterized by an atmosphere of contentment, peace, love and joy?  As much as we are able, we as women should use our creativity and love of beauty to add little personal, lovely touches to our place of residence, even just a Mason jar of wildflowers on the table.  And above all, our heart attitude and words should make it a lovely home to live in!!  

And what if money is no object?  Then it is good to remember that our goal is not to create homes that are showplaces!  We don't want to impress others -- we want to minister to others!  Our goal should be to create a home that is comfortable and cozy, a haven from the outside world, a place to be encouraged to dream and grow, and a place where all are loved unconditionally while they are growing into who they are meant to be.  




Especially for Single P31s:

You may not yet have responsibility for your own home, but you can cultivate beauty in your domain, no matter how small.  Your room, your apartment, your cubicle at work can be neat, orderly, and inviting.  Your attitude can be positive and nurturing.  You can also dress in a matter that reflects godliness and propriety.  Heart check:  Ask yourself: Am I dressing to impress others or to draw undue attention to myself?  Or am I dressing in a way that reflects well on my earthly father and my heavenly father and represents the character of a godly woman?

Also worthy of noting is that the P31 "maketh herself" these adornments for her home and body. While making your own clothing, curtains or bedspreads is certainly not a requirement for being a godly woman, it is a skill that you might want to consider cultivating as it will allow you to create beautiful and affordable items for yourself, your home, and possibly customers in your future. 



Project P31, Mission #12:

How are you doing on your homework assignments each week??  Are you ready for a new assignment?  This week's homework has two parts -- and they may take some time to complete, but will be well worth your investment!

1. Take stock of your wardrobe and get rid of anything that doesn't fit your body, your testimony, or your station in life.  If it looks cheap, is that really appropriate for a daughter of the King?  Remember, your clothing should not be used to "showcase your goods."  Nor, should it be used to hide that you are a woman!  God created you as a woman, not a man!  There should be a difference in how you dress. Above all, your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and should be adorned appropriately!  If you think God doesn't care how it is adorned, spend some time in the Old Testament reading all of the detailed instructions about the temple!  It was not just "thrown together!"  God cared about every detail of the temple!

2. Take a look around your house as if it were your first time there. Does it reflect the beauty and orderliness of your Creator? Does it feel comfortable and inviting?  Does it feel peaceful or chaotic?  Begin to make a list of things that need to be cleaned, reorganized, replaced, or refurbished.  Don't worry about a lack of resources.  Start praying and waiting patiently and you may be astonished with how God provides exactly what you need in His timing.


Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



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Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Get Your Red, White and Blue On!


Attention Lilla Rose fans!  Lilla Rose has just announced a 3-day Sale featuring the re-release of the extremely popular July Flexis-of-the-Month from July 2014, 2013 and 2012! These pretty patriotic styles will ONLY be available during the 3-day sale and while supplies last!  (Expect them to sell out quickly!) 





I love the patriotic flexis, which are perfect to wear for July 4th picnics, Veteran's Day Parades, Memorial Day observances, Flag Day . . . and any other day of the year that you want to show you are proud to be an American!  :)


Which sparkling patriotic flexi is your favorite??  

Liberty Bow??



Dazzling Sparkling Fireworks??



or Patriot's Heart??



If you're like me, you may want one of each!!  :)  If so, I'd love to have you visit my website HERE.

SPECIAL DEAL:  For First Time Customers only:  If you order 3 items from my website, I'll send you 1 free item up to a $16 value!  Must be a first time customer!  Must NOT be the customer of another Lilla Rose consultant!  :)  Email me for more details:  elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com
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