Wednesday, January 21, 2009

A Bad Call??

Boys B team game

I've tried. Honestly, I have.

I want to support the team whether my son is playing or not.

And I Love Basketball! It is a lot more exciting than football or baseball. (Especially Baseball!!!)

But, every time I go to a Varsity Boys game, I end up leaving feeling Frustrated and Upset and just plain Mad. I have tried to control my pit bull ever since it first reared its ugly head, but as I sit there on those cold, hard bleachers watching my son stuck on the bench, my heart begins growing hard and cold, too. The team may be winning by 20 points, but I am unable to experience the joy of victory, because I am mired in defeat.

I've honestly tried to be objective, but when the player who was last year's second leading scorer, leading rebounder, and leader of blocked shots, is left sitting on the bench until the last 3 or 4 minutes of the game, and only plays when we are ahead by at least 20 or 30 points, there is definitely something wrong.

So, I've had to make a hard call. I've decided to not go to any more varsity games this season. I will just root for the boys from home. I'll call it my home court advantage! It may be the only way I can win!


Jules said...

I wish I could offer some advice. I've been there, done that. However in our case two of our sons weren't particularly 'sporty' but were keen to play. They'd turn up for practices, be on time to games, paid their subs, yet still they'd sit on the side lines again and again and again while watching the 'better' players play and not getting a turn themselves. I found it so frustrating and had to work at not getting angry. I think what my DH found the hardest was the fact that the team represented a Christian school yet the message that came across loud and clear was that winning was everything.

I think though that our kids knew that we their parents supported them because we turned up to every game and stood on the sidelines whether or not they were playing. However I think my children were younger than your son who is playing basketball and so this may not apply. Your son may already know that you support him and may not need your tangible presence at his game.

busymomof10 said...

My son is OK with me not going to his games. I think he feels less pressure to "get in the game" when I'm not there. Also, I think it works better for me to stay home and be in a good mood ready to offer ENCOURAGEMENT when he comes home in a grumpy, door-slamming mood, than it does when I also come home in a grumpy, door-slamming mood!

Kathy - mom of many said...

Does it bother your son as much as it bothers you? I would feel like you do, but the most important thing is how he feels about being on the bench. The grumpy, door-slamming mood gives me an idea but he must have some inkling as to why the coaches have chosen to do this...or you can consider it in the light of God allowing it to grow his character. I know, easier said than done. I feel for you and I agree it's better to be an encouragement when he comes home.

busymomof10 said...

New Coach -- new approach.

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