Friday, January 9, 2009

Getting Back to Normal

We are slowly getting back to "normal" over here -- whatever that is!


The holidays are history now; although, some of the extra mess and pounds still linger, and we have attempted a return to routine. On Monday, we resumed our home schooling; Tiffany went back to teaching her fifth grade and music classes; and Alan returned to the daily grind at work.



The "boys" (Taylor, Joshua and Joseph) returned to school on Tuesday and rebounded from their break with the first basketball game of the new year. Ashlyn, whose departure was delayed due to car repairs, left this morning to return to her busy life of school and work in SC.



So, it is back to just me and the "little ones" (Christopher, Hannah, Luke, Matthew and Bethany) at home. The house is both pleasantly and sadly Quiet and I am trying to get used to the New Normal.



Many people may not realize how complicated it is to have young adults venturing from the nest, and young adults returning, and some preparing for their first flight, and some flapping their wings in restless anticipation. It makes for a lot of "ruffled feathers" at times! Everyone is growing and changing so rapidly, and "the pecking order" seems to be in a constant state of flux. So, it keeps the nest stirred up a bit!



Sometimes I wish all of this growing up and changing and learning who you are were easier, as it takes a lot of energy to navigate all of the changing relationships in a family!! However, I am reminded of a quotable quip from a wise homeschooling mother that I used to know -- "Smooth sailing never makes a skillful navigator!"


So, I continue to learn navigation skills! And I am learning how to say good-bye without crying!


Here are some pictures taken while saying good-bye to Ashlyn this morning . . .










5 comments:

Laurel said...

Oh the letting go of young adults ...

We have 6 young adults (ages 18-24), along with our 7 younger ones (ages 7 - 15). Friends with only younger kids often comment, "It must be sooo... easy with all of those big kids to help." They have no understanding that the "big kids" take a LOT of emotional time and energy, even though we are not physically taking care of them any longer.

I realized years ago that the younger crowd takes all of mommy's physical energy, while the teen and older crowd takes all of mommy's emotional energy. So, when you have a houseful of all ages ... they take every last drop of mommy's physical and emotional energy.


Blessings,

Laurel
mama of 13

Jules said...

"Many people may not realize how complicated it is to have young adults venturing from the nest, and young adults returning, and some preparing for their first flight, and some flapping their wings in restless anticipation. It makes for a lot of "ruffled feathers" at times! Everyone is growing and changing so rapidly, and "the pecking order" seems to be in a constant state of flux. So, it keeps the nest stirred up a bit!"

I have three sons that have left home. The eldest is now married but he came home to live for a year after living away from home for two years while studying. My second son has just returned after four years living away from home while at University, and my third son is home during vacation (I'm in the Southern Hemisphere and we're on our summer break) but will return to University in February. As for the others still at home, the pecking order has to be re-established when their older brothers come home and it's not always to their liking. I definitely understand about the nest being stirred up!

The Anderson Family said...

Your Ashlyn is a blessing to us here in SC (at Parkside Peds)! I'm so glad to be getting to know her. :)
Erika (mom of 2 young'uns and doc at Parkside)

busymomof10 said...

Erika, Thank you so much for leaving the sweet comment! I'm glad that Ashlyn is a blessing to you there at Parkside Pediatrics! I know that she is a precious and rare young woman -- which is why we miss her so much!! She has really enjoyed getting to know you and is glad that you have joined the practice! May the Lord bless you as you minister to so many little ones! ~Elizabeth

busymomof10 said...

Laurel, I love your comment -- "When you have a houseful of all ages -- they take every last drop of mommy's physical and emotional energy." Truer words have never been spoken!

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