Monday, April 5, 2010

A Moving Experience

Mothers love to notice and record many milestone moments with their babies -- that first precious smile, the first tooth, those first baby steps, the first day of school, the first loose tooth, and more!  What they don't typically realize is that each of these little "firsts" is taking them one step closer to a day they don't want to come -- the day their little babies are all grown up and establishing homes of their own.


Friday was a turning point in the life of our family, as our oldest daughter, Tiffany, moved out of our home and into her own apartment. This was not something we had anticipated happening any time soon!  We have always encouraged our young adult daughters to live at home until their wedding days, so that they can safely move from the authority and protection of their fathers to that of their husbands.  But, circumstances sometimes work out differently than what we envision . . .


Anyway, Tiffany had been happily living in our home since her college graduation, where she has been keeping busy teaching school, working on her MAT, being our church pianist, and taking advanced piano lessons.  Over the last year, she has become very serious about the piano again. (She was a piano performance major in college.)  Translated, that means she has been practicing three or more hours a day, starting at 6 am (before school) most days and not ending until 10 pm!  Because we have a large family in a house with hardwood floors and only one family room area -- this was becoming increasingly problematic.  Finally, after exhausting other options, Tiffany decided that the only way for her to accomplish her goals without alienating her family was to move to her own place.

After praying about this decision and researching apartments and discovering that the place she felt drawn to was full, Tiffany put her name on the waiting list and continued to wait on the Lord to reveal the next step she should take.  God seemed to be confirming that she was headed in the right direction, and sooner than we expected, she received the call that there was an opening!  So, she excitedly accepted the apartment, while I struggled to accept the inevitable changes to my home and family . . . .


I knew it was the best thing for all involved, and I knew that God had given Tiffany a peace about the move, but it was still hard for me to accept, because Tiffany and I are so close, and I knew I would miss her companionship and her help!!  It did comfort me to know that God had given her a "rhema" way back in early January, that seemed to confirm this decision.  One morning, while doing her daily reading, this verse "jumped off the page," and she knew God was speaking to her through it, even though she had no idea at the time what it meant.  She knew He was preparing her heart for a change . . .


Genesis 12:1-2:  "Now [in Haran] the Lord said to Abram, Go for yourself [for your own advantage] away from your country, from your relatives and your father's house, to the land that I will show you.  And I will make of you a great nation, and I will bless you [with abundant increase of favors] and make your name famous and distinguished, and you will be a blessing [dispensing good to others]."   (Amplified version)


That's pretty amazing, isn't it???


So, Friday was the Big Day, and I didn't shed a single tear!  I guess I was too busy to cry, and I had already shed my tears a few weekends before.  Plus, I really am excited for Tiffany as she starts this new adventure!  Here are some pictures of Moving Day.





Tiffany was blessed to have so many big, strong brothers to move all of her stuff, especially her beloved piano!  I don't know what she would have done without them.  One of Alan's friends, who worked for a piano company during college, also came to help with the relocation of the piano.






Hannah was a big help too, as she carried lots of little things to the van to be moved, and she also helped Tiffany unpack boxes in her new apartment.




These are the stairs that the boys had to get the piano up . . . it was a challenge, but they put their strong arms and legs to good use!





This is Tiffany in her new apartment.  It is small, but cozy, and has lots of light.  She is excited about having a place of her own and fixing it up cute.




Ashlyn and Bethany Cookie (Ashlyn's BFF and my adopted daughter) drove down from SC for the weekend to share in the excitement!  They wanted to be there to celebrate this milestone moment with Tiffany!







How about a quick tour?  Here are some glimpses into Tiffany's new place!









Fortunately, she is only fifteen minutes away!   :)

11 comments:

mommyx12 said...

BOOHOO! Sad but happy. I'm so not ready to lose another daughter permanently! I hate the thought of it but I know it is something that will happen. What a comfort to know the will of the Lord is going before her. Such peace that must bring. I can see how it would be the best for her considering her piano and all. I know how that piano sounds on all wood floors. Any noise for that matter. I know you will miss her terribly.

Jules said...

I know how hard it was for me to practice the piano growing up in a family of just two kids so I understand what you're saying - and I didn't practice for nearly that long each day. In fact, I'm too embarassed to admit how little I practised!

Hope you all make the adjustment quickly. You will miss her but you'll enjoy those times she comes home even more now. And hopefully those coming up through the ranks will prove themselves to be wonderful helpers just like their older sister!

Noel said...

I hope her apartment is soundproof! I know what it's like to try to get in the amount of practice a pianist needs in the midst of a family :) The din is deafening :D

AntfarmMom said...

Awwwww...yay for her and cry for you! I hope the neighbors don't complain about the piano playing! LOL! Glad she is only 15 minutes away though.

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Donna G. said...

Big hug! I had TWO move out in the last couple of months. It's hard, but there are some good parts to the kids moving out, too. Look for the positive.

(How will she practice in an ap't building?)

busymomof10 said...

Tiffany asked the apartment representative multiple times, and she assured her it would be OK for her to practice the piano all hours of the day! They must be pretty soundproof! Tiffany placed her piano on an interior wall, and I think the only problem might be with the residents below her -- but they are college students who are fond of rock music. :( So, when they turn up the beat, I think she should just give them her best Rachmaninoff!!!! ;) Hopefully, it will work out as well as she anticipates!

6blessings said...

Our oldest son moved out in Nov. He is 3 hours away. But God has given me a peace about it. I knew the job he applied for would be perfect for him and God confirmed this when he was hired. He is getting involved in a good church. We feel blessed. With Facebook, cell phones and the internet the distance doesn't seem so far.

tlmalcolm said...

Another rite of passage for our children. Tiffany must be so excited to have a space of her own!! Tim moved out several years ago but alas he is home again. The economy sure makes life uncertain at times. The worst part about them moving back is that they bring lots of "stuff" back and there is no where to put it!!

Debbie @ Cheaper by the Bakers Dozen said...

OK, Elizabeth, I was all melancholy and sad-like for you .....until I read your last line.
15 minutes away! You have the best of both worlds, sister (LOL).

My girls are each 10 hours away, and worst of all, they took my grandkids with them! This is a part of motherhood "they" don't prepare you for. One minute they won't stop hanging off your skirt hem and the next minute they leave (with 1/2 your furniture).I'm still looking for the silver lining on this one...

Now when my boys start to go (with their stinky laundry, unmade beds, and unbrushed teeth) maybe I'll have an easier time of it (although now that I think of it, I will miss their amazing backrubs, their helpful arms, and their corny jokes.)

You're 9/10 of the way to an empty nest (and I'm 4/11). Shall we start making plans for tennis lessons?

busymomof10 said...

Debbie,

You are right on all accounts!!

I'm still trying to figure out how to fill in the gaps that are here because of furniture, pictures, and decor items that moved with Tiffany! The piano being the most obvious item, as it was the main piece in our foyer. I've decided to move the buffet from my dining room into the foyer. I wish you were here with your decorator's eye to help me out!!!

Yes, I'm very lucky that Tiffany is just 15 minutes away. Ashlyn is already 6 hours away, and is likely to stay in SC.

And I'm afraid that one of those "stinky boys" is planning to come back home for next year. NOt exactly an even trade, if you ask me!!!! :)

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