Wednesday, April 6, 2011

All in a Day: Getting Children to Do their Chores






Today the All in a Day bloggers are discussing a question from a young mother concerning what to do when children don't complete their chores.


I admit that I am having an extremely hard time sitting down and focusing on this topic!  You see, we are in Fun Mode this week -- doing minimal chores and concentrating on enjoying Spring Break with Tiffany here!!  We spent all day Monday at the Beach, and Tuesday was spent celebrating Hannah's birthday with some of her friends here for the day.  Currently, Tiffany and Hannah are out shopping and dining, while I try to catch up on a few things around the house.  Then, we are headed to the Island this afternoon to browse the shops and let the children play on the playground.


So, earlier this morning, over cups of steaming coffee, I posed this question to Tiffany.  I thought it would be interesting to get her perspective as the eldest of ten children and as an elementary school teacher.   So, the following advice comes from my wiser-than-her-years, 25-year-old daughter, Tiffany!!





The purpose of giving children chores is to teach them responsibility and obedience, which is why my Mom used to call them "Character Builders" on our daily schedule.  Children need to learn obedience, diligence, responsibility, and thoroughness through daily work in the home.


Also, children need to learn that all actions have consequences, whether good or bad.  Therefore, there should be consistent positive results for chores completed well and on time, and consistent negative consequences for chores not completed correctly.  A parent (and a teacher) must do the hard job of  following through with the appropriate consequences.


Childhood is the time to learn responsibility, diligence, and respect for authority.  The problem with many adults today is they don't have personal character and responsibility, because they didn't learn it as kids.


Children need to understand what is expected of them and what the consequences of disobedience are.  A parent (or teacher) needs to rehearse this with them, to help them make the connection between what is required of them and what will happen if they do not meet the requirements.


It is essential to establish and communicate Procedures for everything.  Put a Plan in place for what to do if your instructions are not followed, and then Practice!  This Prevents problems.



What more can I say?  Thank you Tiffany for sharing your wisdom (and making my job easier!!)  :)



Now, Check out what the other All in a Day Bloggers have to say on this topic . . .


Carrie @  http://www.ourfullhouse.com/  Our Full House

Christi @ http://antsonafarm.blogspot.com/  Where the Creek Meets the Lake

Elizabeth @     http://yes-theyre-all-ours.blogspot.com/ Yes They're All Ours

Kathy @  http://www.kathymomofmany.blogspot.com/ Kathy Mom of Many

Kristy @ http://www.homemakerscottage.org/   Homemaker's Cottage

Lori @  http://1happybusymama.blogspot.com/  Happy Busy Mama

Monica @  http://www.naturalmamax4.blogspot.com/ Natural Mama

Renee @  http://bakersdozen.typepad.com/      Bakers Dozen




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1 comment:

Sam said...

Enjoy your week, and visit!

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