Monday, March 12, 2012

Marriage Monday: How One Became Two and Two Became One


Have you ever wondered why God did not create the first woman at the same time or in the same way as the first man?  Does it matter?

First of all, God created man and then assigned him the task of naming all the animals.  God used this little assignment as a way for Adam to become acutely aware of the fact that he did not have a suitable companion.

Genesis 2:19-2019 Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.

When God was ready to create Eve, He did not create her from the dust of the ground, as he did Adam.  Instead, He fashioned her from the man.  Is that significant?

Genesis 2:22Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

According to Virgina Fugate, author of my favorite book on biblical womanhood -- On the Other Side of the Garden -- some biblical scholars believe that the Hebrew language used in Genesis seems to indicate that the original human creation may have consisted of one body containing both the masculine and the feminine characteristics of mankind.  It is entirely possible that just as the physical material (the rib) was removed from the body of the first human and used to construct the first woman's body, the woman's essence (her soul) was also removed from the original human creation and used to animate her newly formed body.


"The first human was physically formed out of the dust of the ground, but the woman was physically fashioned out of that first human's rib.  Also, God breathed life into the first human and soul life came into existence.  Nothing, however, is said about God breathing life into the woman.  Could this be because her soul was already animated and entwined with that of the man's?  God simply molded a second human body around Adam's rib.  He then placed the female soul, which He apparently also removed from the original creation, into that second body.  In this way, the separation of the female from the original creation of mankind resulted in two distinct entities -- man and woman.  This division removed from Adam most of the feminine characteristics, leaving him predominately masculine. Conversely, the newly formed woman possessed mostly feminine characteristics. Mankind was no longer the whole, complete creation that it was in the beginning. Two separate entities now existed, each needing the other to make mankind whole again."  (On the Other Side of the Garden, p.10-11)

This theory helps to explain the mystery of marriage -- it is the rejoining of the two back into one flesh.

Genesis 2:23-24 -- 23 And Adam said:“This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman,  24 Because she was taken out of Man.”Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Ephesians 5:25-31 -- 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body,[a] of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”[b]

Was the creation of the woman an afterthought?  Of course not!  It was part of God's perfect plan from the beginning.  He created man or mankind to include both a male and a female counterpart.  

Genesis 1:27 --So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

What was God's purpose for creating the woman as He did?  God Himself declared that it was not good for the man to be alone, then He gave Adam a job to do where he would recognize his own need for a suitable companion and helper, and then God provided for that need by creating the woman from the man to be that perfect companion and help mate.  

God's purpose in forming the woman was to provide for Adam a mate corresponding to himself.  God had taken from Adam all that was necessary to form both the material and the immaterial parts, the body and soul, of a separate being.  The then returned to Adam all of these parts in the form of the woman -- a counterpart to the man."  (On the Other Side of the Garden, p. 12)

I love the term that author Linda Dillow coined -- a "creative counterpart."  That is what God's divine design is all about -- He designed the woman not to compete with her husband, but to creatively complement and complete her husband!

Next week we will discuss what it means to be a "helper" and "creative counterpart" and explore ways that we can complement and complete our husbands!  You won't want to miss it!

"As God by creation made two of one, so again by marriage, He made one of two."  

~ Thomas Adams

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Tami Lewis said...

i don't have a post to share but i wanted to say i loved your post! you hit it all dead-on! great job! i also have the book by Virginia Fugate and recommend it to everyone.

busymomof10 said...


Thank you so much for your positive feedback! Glad to hear that someone else loves Virginia Fugate's book as much as I do! :)

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