Monday, April 16, 2012

Marriage Monday: Noticing Your Husband {Link Up}


Do you remember from last week what the greatest need of your husband is?  

It is to be respected, looked up to, admired.

Last Monday, I shared Ephesians 5:33, which really comes to life in the Amplified version: 

"However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]."

I really like the way the Amplified version gives us a clearer picture of what it looks like to respect our husbands.  Over the next few weeks, I think it will be helpful if we look at each of these words, one at a time.  The first word used to amplify "respect" is Notice.

Notice -- means to pay attention to or take notice of.  

That seems pretty obvious, doesn't it?  It may even seem easy; yet, how many times are we guilty of not noticing our husbands or paying them any special attention??

At times, I have been guilty of scurrying about trying to get supper on the table, or being totally absorbed in some project (perhaps even a blog post) when my husband comes home from work and barely acknowledging him.  Or, I have been so absorbed in watching a movie with the children that I didn't even notice when he slipped off to bed.  Ouch!  What a Bad Habit to fall into!!!

Also, we may be guilty of noticing our husbands' physical presence, while not taking the time and extra effort involved in noticing and paying attention to his emotional needs. Do we take the time to notice if our husbands seem tired or downcast or distressed?  Many times, we are so busy thinking our own thoughts, worrying about a discipline problem with one of the children, wondering how we will stretch the groceries until payday, thinking about a blog post we are planning to write, or figuring out how to get our child to baseball practice and our teen to work on time, that we barely notice our husband's true needs. Life is very busy and complex for everyone in this day and age, and it requires a great deal of effort to redirect our focus from our own needs or the needs of our children, to focusing on the needs of our husbands!

So, I repeat -- Notice -- to pay attention or take notice of.  

Think about it -- how can you Notice or Pay Attention to your husband this week??  

Please give this some thought, and then share your ideas here, so we can all benefit!  However, don't just think of ideas -- put them in action!  Consider this your homework assignment for the week!   To earn an "A" you need to not only come up with an idea, but actually do it, and then come back and leave a comment sharing about it!  :)

OK -- let's see how many "A students" we have!!  ;)

Every Monday, I plan to explore some aspect of marriage here on my blog.  I invite you to share your past or present marriage-related blog posts, as well.  Please link up with me by entering the URL of your specific blog post in the Mr. Linky below, and make sure you grab my blog button and add it to your post!  (Just copy the HTML code under my button and paste it into your blog post.)  It's that simple!  (If you don't want to copy my blog button, just insert a direct text link to my blog.  That works too!!)

I also welcome your comments!  You don't have to agree with everything I've said -- all I ask is that you share your opinion respectfully. 


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What Joy Is Mine said...

Good morning. I was able to link up your post to Monday's Musings. Yay!! So, you are linked up. What a great post, too! I know I slack in that area of noticing my husband more but I am going to take the homework and do it this week. Thank you for sharing. Have a blessed day.

Miranda said...

Great point. Just like I like to be told by my hubby that I'm beautiful, I'm sure he'd love compliments too.

Kim said...

It's about being able to look beyond our selves and our needs, I think, and tend to theirs. I read somewhere recently the definition of marriage was two people trying to out-serve each other. I love that!

We also have to be careful to nurture the important rather than just always attending to the urgent. We actually did that this past weekend and I wrote about it today.

busymomof10 said...

Thank you ladies for taking the time to comment and participating in the homework this week! :)

Kim, that is an Outstanding definition of marriage! I think if more couples went into marriage looking at how they could serve, instead of how they could be served, there would be far fewer divorces!

Nicole said...

I think this is such an important aspect of that verse- noticing our husbands! So simple, yet as you said, not always something we do! It definitely takes effort sometimes. I have this issue too- and I need to put forth the effort and notice him. I think it is also helpful in serving him as your husband, if you take notice you can know his preferences, likes, etc. -Nicole at Working Kansas Homemaker

Ryan and Carly said...

I think welcoming him with excitement when he walks in the door after work is a major way to show him you notice, respect, and appreciate him! I will stop whatever I am doing, and greet him with a hug and kiss (not a peck!).

Thanks for the idea and spurring us on to love our husbands well

Carly @

busymomof10 said...


You bring up a great point!! We have to take time to Notice what our husband likes/dislikes. It reminds me of the part in the movie Fireproof about how we need to study our spouse to better understand them. Thank you for the excellent reminder!


busymomof10 said...


That has been my goal all these years -- to stop what I am doing and welcome my husband when he comes in the door after work. However, I realized that I had become lazy in this. :( Also, my husband often works late into the evening, so I never really know when to expect him. It might be 6 pm or 10 pm. So, it makes it much harder to "freshen up" and be ready to greet him when he comes through the door. Thanks for the excellent suggestion!


Michelle @ Changed By The Maker said...

Wonderfully written, and so valuable. I have found that, when we go to bed and have that few minutes of quiet together, the day comes back to me and I can remember to thank him for what he's done for our family that day. Sometimes I just need a break in the action to recall the day's events! I found your post at What Joy is Mine!

Lisa Cherry said...

Thanks for your inspiring post. I'm going to invest some eye contact and attention in my husband today.

busymomof10 said...

Lisa -- I love the reminder to establish Eye Contact! Noticing our husbands is not talking about our day while we browse our email or Facebook!!!!! ;)

Lindsay Harold said...

I linked up with my blog post on how to write love notes to your husband. It's something I do to remind my husband how much I love and appreciate him.

busymomof10 said...

Thank Lindsay for linking up!

~A said...

Linked up with you!

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