Do you remember from last week what the greatest need of your husband is?
It is to be respected, looked up to, admired.
Last Monday, I shared Ephesians 5:33, which really comes to life in the Amplified version:
"However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]."
I really like the way the Amplified version gives us a clearer picture of what it looks like to respect our husbands. Over the next few weeks, I think it will be helpful if we look at each of these words, one at a time. The first word used to amplify "respect" is Notice.
Notice -- means to pay attention to or take notice of.
That seems pretty obvious, doesn't it? It may even seem easy; yet, how many times are we guilty of not noticing our husbands or paying them any special attention??
At times, I have been guilty of scurrying about trying to get supper on the table, or being totally absorbed in some project (perhaps even a blog post) when my husband comes home from work and barely acknowledging him. Or, I have been so absorbed in watching a movie with the children that I didn't even notice when he slipped off to bed. Ouch! What a Bad Habit to fall into!!!
Also, we may be guilty of noticing our husbands' physical presence, while not taking the time and extra effort involved in noticing and paying attention to his emotional needs. Do we take the time to notice if our husbands seem tired or downcast or distressed? Many times, we are so busy thinking our own thoughts, worrying about a discipline problem with one of the children, wondering how we will stretch the groceries until payday, thinking about a blog post we are planning to write, or figuring out how to get our child to baseball practice and our teen to work on time, that we barely notice our husband's true needs. Life is very busy and complex for everyone in this day and age, and it requires a great deal of effort to redirect our focus from our own needs or the needs of our children, to focusing on the needs of our husbands!
So, I repeat -- Notice -- to pay attention or take notice of.
Think about it -- how can you Notice or Pay Attention to your husband this week??
Please give this some thought, and then share your ideas here, so we can all benefit! However, don't just think of ideas -- put them in action! Consider this your homework assignment for the week! To earn an "A" you need to not only come up with an idea, but actually do it, and then come back and leave a comment sharing about it! :)
OK -- let's see how many "A students" we have!! ;)
I also welcome your comments! You don't have to agree with everything I've said -- all I ask is that you share your opinion respectfully.