"However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]."
I really like the way the Amplified version gives us a clearer picture of what it looks like to respect our husbands. Over the next few weeks, I plan to define and consider each of these words, one at a time. The last word we focused on was the word "honor." This week, we are moving on to the word "prefer."
Prefer means to set or hold someone or something above other persons or things in estimation; to like better; to choose rather than; to give priority to.
When we stood at the marriage altar and said, "I do," we were saying in effect that we preferred that man to all others, that we liked him better and that we chose him over all other men, and we pledged to give priority to our relationship with him.
How quickly we forget that!
It really doesn't take long before we begin preferring to spend time with our girl friends, with our babies and children, with our online friends, with a good book or TV show, or even with our own thoughts, rather than with our husbands. We must guard against this occupational hazard and make sure we continue to make spending time with our husbands a top priority!
I know that my husband sometimes feels that he is way down my list of priorities. Sad, but true. :( With ten children and a ginormous to-do list every day and week, it can be very easy to put the needs of others or myself ahead of him. Every time we go in the bedroom and shut the door to talk, a line forms outside the door! When we go out to eat or out for coffee, it seems that the older kids suddenly all start texting me! Sometimes, I am distracted by Facebook, email or blogging when he wants to spend time with me. Many times when he is ready for bed for the night, one of the older kids is engaging me in a deep conversation. Any parent of young adults knows that the only time these teens and twenty-somethings want to share their hearts is Late at Night! So, I may find myself in a deep conversation for another hour or two . . .
Life with a big family and life in the 21st century are both very complex, demanding endeavors that require a lot of flexibility, wisdom, and creativity to manage. There are no easy answers to the challenges we all face in trying to "fit it all in." We all face the reality of being overwhelmed and being pulled in many different directions at once, and struggling to prioritize what claims our time and attention. We may know that God and our husbands should be our top priorities, but may fail to really live that out in a practical manner day by day. Yet, part of giving our husbands the honor and respect they crave, is to prefer them.
Your Turn to Share:
Please share specific ways that you have learned to prefer your husband and let him know that he is a top priority in your life. How have you overcome the common obstacles that get in the way? Do you have a secret for making your husband feel that he is number one?? Please share!!!! I'm hoping for a lot of comments on this one!
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