Monday, May 7, 2012

Marriage Monday: Honoring Our Husbands {Link Up}


For the past few weeks, we have been considering the greatest need of our husbands -- which is to be respected and admired.  We are learning from Ephesians 5:33:

"However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]."

I really like the way the Amplified version gives us a clearer picture of what it looks like to respect our husbands.  Over the next few weeks, I plan to define and consider each of these words, one at a time.  Last week, we focused on the word "regard."  This week, we are moving on to the word "honor."

Honor means:

1. to hold in honor or high respect; revere
2. to worship
3. to show a courteous regard for
4. to accept as valid and conform to the requests or demands of

Honoring our husbands is challenging, and even more so because of the times in which we live.  It is extremely unpopular for a wife to honor and obey her husband!  In fact, be prepared to be ridiculed by most people in the world (and the church) for taking a stand in this area!  In this day and age, the easiest way to get a laugh is to start poking fun at those "poor, clueless men."  It is very acceptable both in the Christian community and in the secular world to make fun of men, belittle men, and look down on them for their various shortcomings.
Want to kindle a fire in your marriage and shine brightly in this dark world?  Treat your husband with honor, respect, and reverence -- both at home, at church, and out in the world!  

Many times honor or reverence is the missing ingredient in a mediocre marriage.  A wife may be loving, obedient, faithful, cheerful, kind, a good mother and a good home manager -- but still fail to honor and revere her husband.  Perhaps it is because she mistakenly believes these qualities to be old-fashioned or unnecessary.  Or it may be because she sees nothing in her husband worthy of honor.  It may even be a blind spot -- something that she is unaware that she is neglecting.

Debi Pearl, in her life-changing book, Created to be His Help Meet, says, "It is amazing how vulnerable a man is when treated with honor."  She gives examples of marriages that were totally turned around when the wife made a commitment to honor her husband, whether he deserved it or not.

One key component of this kind of honor is to quit speaking negatively about our husbands, whether when speaking to them or about them to others.  (Yes, even in prayer requests!)  We should strive to speak only words of praise and appreciation, words that honor, encourage, and build up.  Certainly, there are times when weaknesses may need to be discussed.  But, try discussing those with God alone and purposing in your heart to only praise, encourage and build up your husband!!!!  Did you know it has been proven that people tend to live up to the expectations and prophesies of others?  If you speak highly of your husband, it is quite likely that he will want to live up to the image you are creating of him!

So, what are some practical ways to honor your husband?

1. Praise him!
2. Appreciate him!
3. Admire him!
4. Listen to him!
5. Enthusiastically support his ideas!
6. Encourage him to take the lead!
7. Avoid criticizing or ridiculing him!
8. Never nag or belittle him!
9. Trust him!
10.Treat him like a VIP!

Your Turn to Share:
Can you add to this list??  Please share specific ways that you have learned to honor your husband, or testimonies of how honoring your husband has transformed your marriage!

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Nicole Searfoss-Owner, Indulgent Aromas said...

I just happened to write about this last night! Thank you for sharing this topic that is so needed today :)

What Joy Is Mine said...

What a wonderful reminder! Your list of practical things to do is right on. It takes work. Thank you for the encouragement and study on this verse. And for sharing at WJIM.

God's Most Precious said...

Thank you for linking up at TWO SHALL BECOME ONE!!
God bless you! Monica

Meghan Carver said...

I don't think I put in the name right -- I put in my name instead of the name of the blog post. Oops! Thanks for the link-up opportunity!

Homestead Mommy said...

Ouch! Thanks for this post. I try my best to honor my husband but sometimes fall into the trap of complaining during 'girl talk' with my close gal pal. I was already feeling convicted about it, but this just pushed it over the top. Thanks for the reality check! :o)

Suanna said...

Thank for the reminder. One thing I've done is support his decisions even when you think a better one could've been made. And don't say I told you so, when he realizes that he made the wrong decision.

The Mayo Family said...

Thank you for wonderful words...
P.S. Keeping you & yours in prayer

Jaimie said...

YES. You are so right on with this! Learning how to respect my husband is something I've really been working on lately. The book "Love and Respect" by Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs has been incredibly helpful to me in this area; I would highly recommend it to any couple.

Thank you so much for this post and the chance to link up and share mine!

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