Monday, June 18, 2012

Marriage Monday: Praising our Husbands {Link up}

Marriage Mondays"

For the past few weeks, we have been considering the greatest need of our husbands -- which is to be respected and admired.  We are learning from Ephesians 5:33:
"However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]."

I really like the way the Amplified version expands our understanding of what it looks like to respect our husbands.  I have been examining each word in the passage one at a time in order to gain a more in-depth understanding.  Last week we focused on the word "defer."  This week, we are moving on to the word "praise."

According to the online dictionary: 
praise means to express approval or admiration of.
From what I've observed through the years, husbands don't receive much praise from their wives.  I often hear husbands being slandered, cut down, criticized, made fun of, and even verbally abused by their wives.   I hear wives talking bad about their husbands and to their husbands when at Wal-mart, at the beach, at the mall, at church, and on Facebook.  

Think about it -- when was the last time you heard a woman praise her husband??  Take it a step farther, when was the last time you praised your husband??

When with a group of women, husband-bashing seems to be a popular pastime, and brings in a lot more laughs than husband-praising, even among Christian women.  However, I don't think this fits the description of the Virtuous Woman of Proverbs 31.

Proverbs 31:12 ~ "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."

Proverbs 31:26 ~ "She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue is the law of kindness."  

So, as Christian women, we need to be the ones to turn the tide, to help change the popular hobby of husband-bashing into husband-praising!  But how?  Here are a few suggestions!

1.  Make a list of your husband's admirable qualities.  
2.  Compliment and praise your husband at least once a day for things you sincerely appreciate about him!
3.  Every time you catch yourself criticizing him, make sure you counteract that with a positive affirmation!
4.  Look for opportunities to thank your husband for things he does for you, such as going to work everyday to provide for the family, filling your car with gas, stopping by the grocery store on his way home from work so you don't have to go out, etc.
5.  Share positive things about your husband with others.
6.  Don't participate in husband-bashing when with a group of women, and try to steer the conversation in a different direction.
7.  Tell your husband that you appreciate him every chance you get!
8.  Praise your husband in front of your children!
9.  Praise your husband on Facebook!
10.  Remember that public praise is double praise!!

Your Turn to Share:

How do you praise your husband??  How do you resist the temptation to enter into husband-bashing when with other women?  Please share!

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Lindsay Harold said...

Praising our husbands is defintely a habit worth cultivating. I made it a habit while we were dating to tell him what I appreciate about him. I also thank him for various things (killing bugs, taking out the trash, etc) and tell him he's wonderful a lot. It's really easy to do once you get in the habit and it really builds our relationship. Words of Affirmation is probably the main love language for my husband and he really appreciates me taking time to praise him.

busymomof10 said...

Great habit you have fostered, Lindsay! I agree with you that it is easy too praise our husbands once we get in the habit. That's why it is also so easy to bash our husbands if we allow that habit to form. The best course of action is to start off with good habits that build a great marriage. But, it's never too late to change! :)

Thanks for sharing and linking up! I appreciate your perspective! :)

Piper said...

This is the second blog post I have hopped to that has reminded me of something that I need to do for my husband. He has needs just as I do.... but he rarely ever voices those needs. May I remember that he is a gift from God and that I need to show him some praise!!

CharityElaine said...

I'm blessed to be surrounded by gals who don't talk bad about their men - very grateful!!

lholmes79 said...

Can I just say that your post totally convicted me? I am a naturally strong minded woman, and I am having to re-learn to honor my husband and what that truly means. Thank so much for this post; be blessed! :) Lauren, :)

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Ladies for commenting and linking up your posts!

It is always good to be confronted and convicted where we need to make changes! Not easy, but good!

Charity, you are blessed to have girl friends who don't bash their guys! that makes it so much easier!

Jenny Ervin said...

Excellent! How important a word of encouragement to our man is, vs tearing him down! Thanks for linking up with Wisdom Wednesday!

What Joy Is Mine said...

Elizabeth...praising my husband is definitely something I have be intentional about. Sometimes I can take for granted he knows that I think he is awesome. Thank you for a fabulous post and for linking up at WJIM. Tomorrow, you are my featured blog. :o) I'm glad to feature you.

JenRae said...

This is an awesome post!

Luckily, my husband and I don't have any trouble remembering to tell each other how much we appreciate one another, but it's always nice to read something like this to remind myself that we need to continually do it and how important it is to our marriage!

Thanks for your insight!

And it really is the truth about how much a husband appreciates praise that is posted on facebook... I posted a short bit of a sweet conversation we had a couple of days ago on my wall for my friends and family to see and my husband was incredibly excited to see that i appreciated his gesture so much as to show it off to everyone! I highly recommend this!

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