Monday, July 16, 2012

Marriage Monday: Reverencing Our Husbands {Link up}

Marriage Mondays"

For the past few weeks, we have been considering the greatest need of our husbands -- which is to be respected and admired.  We have been learning from Ephesians 5:33:
"However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]."

I really like the way the Amplified version expands our understanding of what it looks like to respect our husbands.  Hopefully, by taking the time to examine each word in the passage over the last several weeks, we have all gained a more in-depth understanding of this passage.  Last week, we focused on the word "admire," so it would seem that we are done with this verse; however, I keep coming back to that last word - "exceedingly."

I decided to look it up, and according to the online dictionary:

      exceedingly means:  "to an unusual degree, extremely, exceptionally"

That's Powerful! You know why?  Because, if we apply all that we have been learning to our marriages, our critics will claim we are being extreme.  However, if our goal is to be exceptional wives (not just mediocre ones), we will know that we are right on track when we are giving our husbands an unusual degree of respect and reverence, that includes noticing, regarding, honoring, preferring, venerating, esteeming, deferring to, praising, loving, and admiring our own husbands exceedingly!  :)  

Basically, this means adopting a lifestyle of putting our husbands' needs and desires above our own, day-in and day-out, whether we feel like it or not.  

(Ideally, our husbands are applying the first part of the passage and dying to themselves in their sacrificial love for us, as well.  But even if they aren't living up to their part, we aren't off the hook!  We are still responsible to obey our portion of the passage and trust God to work in our marriages!  This is why marriage is not a 50/50 proposition!  Both partners have to be willing to give 100%!)

And yes, at times, it may be exceedingly difficult, but we can do all things through Christ which strengthens us!

Your Turn to Share:

If you've been following this series and applying the exhortations from any of the previous weeks, I'd love to hear about it!  How did your husband respond?  How has it affected your marriage?  How has it affected you??

Also, do you have any suggestions for what topic you would like to see addressed here for
Marriage Monday?  I'm praying about what verse to tackle next, so now is the time to email me with your suggestions!  (

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ellieponders said...

I so appreciate this being talked about. It is a HARD thing to live out when the popular message of the day and our own inclinations are contrary to this message of this reverential respect. It is still a moment by moment struggle for me and I fail most of the time. But I'm not giving up because I have seen what God can do!

My marriage was broken beyond repair but that didn't stop God and so I want to honour His blessings and gift of redemption by pouring my life out before Him so that He can be magnified through me. A humbling thought because I'm still a big mess.

I guess I'm rambling again.... :)

Thank you for hosting this link-up - not exactly sure how I ended up here but I decided to participate and look forward to seeing who else will be here and what they will share.

Ponder Woman

busymomof10 said...

Hi Ellie!

Thanks for stopping by and linking up!

I really appreciate your transparent comment! We are all works in progress and God specializes in making something new and wonderful out of broken vessels!!! I love your attitude of wanting to magnify Him through your life!

Elizabeth said...

Thank you for this post. I honestly saw the title and thought it was going to be a post about regarding our husbands TOO highly, or too much, which I suppose can happen if we begin to put them before God. I loved this post, though, and I am so appreciative of the way you utilize scripture to support what you are saying. Thank you for posting, and I hope to become a regular here! (Also, when I linked up, I put my own name instead of the name of the post! Silly mistake!)

Gail Purath said...

The Amplified Bible is such a good source for looking deeper at a word, isn't it? And in this case it's quite convicting, but also motivating. Thanks for sharing and for hosting this link-up, Gail (BibleLoveNotes)

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Gail and Tyanne for taking the time to comment and link up your own posts!

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happy momma said...

Thank you for the link up. I will be back on mondays for more inspiration. It has been on my heart lately about how I can share more fully with my husband. The last while has been a real trial for him. he has been through four jobs in six months. It has been really hard and I have tried to help his self esteem out when he was so crushed by the blows.

busymomof10 said...

Happy Momma,

Thank you for stopping by! I'm glad you found encouragement here. It sounds like a very difficult time for your husband! What a Blessing that he has a wife like you who wants to encourage him and build him up! I hope to see you next Monday!

Beth said...

Great words, or should I say, "exceedingly great" words of encouragement! I certainly don't want to be a mediocre wife and this reminds me to do more than just getting by. :)

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Beth for your encouraging comment!

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