Monday, September 3, 2012

Marriage Monday: Going Out for Coffee {Link up}

Marriage Mondays"

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  Last week, I shared with you about my refreshing weekend away with my husband.  But what if you don't have the resources or child care available for a weekend away? I know that many times when our children were all young, it was hard to get away for even a night, let alone a weekend!

Today I want to share another idea for connecting with your husband -- one that is simple, doesn't cost much, and can be repeated weekly -- the coffee date!

For the past several years, my husband and I have enjoyed going out for coffee as a way to be able to sit down and relax, enjoy uninterrupted conversation, and even compare calendars and make sure we were both on "the same page."  Even considering the fact that Starbucks sells an over-priced cup of coffee, it is still a cheap date!  :)  (Especially if you have older children mature enough to leave in charge for an hour or two!)

Unless you live in a remote location, it's likely that there is a Starbucks or comparable cozy coffee shop nearby, where you can sneak away for a short period of time to just enjoy some quiet conversation over a cup of coffee -- or tea or hot chocolate or whatever you enjoy!  :)  It is amazing what a weekly coffee date can do for your relationship!

Been out for coffee lately??

Your Turn to Share:

Do you and your husband have a weekly date night?  Do you go out for dinner regularly?  Have you ever tried a coffee date??  Do you find that you need to schedule a time away just to compare calendars and schedules and make a plan for staying on top of your busy lives??

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Meghan Carver said...

I love your idea of a cup of coffee at Starbucks. That truly would be a treat for this frugal family. We don't have any childcare available, but our oldest is turning 13 this November. Our youngest is 19 months. We're reluctant to leave them just yet, but probably within the next year. An hour for coffee sounds like a perfect trial run. Thanks so much for the idea!

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Meghan! A mature 13 year old should be able to handle well-trained younger brothers and sisters for an hour or so for parents to enjoy a little coffee date! Especially if said parents have a cell phone and the coffee shop is not too far away . . . As you said, it is a perfect trial run! Also, unlike ordering dinner and possibly having to leave before it arrives, you can easily pour your coffee into a to-go cup and head back home, if the need arises! said...

My husband and I are big fans of coffee dates! We get very few now a days with a little one in tow, but we try to give ourselves a quiet time together, drinking coffee every morning! It has been a staple in our marriage since day one! I have been itching for a weekend away, as of late, but we are far from family I can turn to for affordable babysitting. Thanks for posting and giving some motivation for time together with our husbands! I always yearn for it, but I'm not the best at doing what needs to be done to get a babysitter at the right times.

Elizabeth O. McBride said...

I'm a buy local kind of girl. Rather than giving money to Starbucks or any other chain first look for an independent coffee shop. They are out there, I promise you. The one in our small town is cheaper than the chains, has a unique shabby chic kind of environment, and the products are better. Otherwise, a great idea!

busymomof10 said...


Great idea! I wasn't necessarily recommending to only go to Starbucks! :) We have a great local fair-trade coffee shop owned by Christians in our community -- and I'd much rather support a Christian business, when possible! I really just used Starbucks as an example that I thought everyone could relate to! :)

Thanks for your input!
Elizabeth ;)

Lynne said...

As parents of 10 children we have been practicing a weekly date night for years. We all, including the children, consider it vital to our family's success. Thanks for the encouragement of this post.

Rebecca's Refining said...

I LOVE coffee dates!! :)
We used to have a weekly coffee date before Sunday evening service, but have had to discontinue it because of schedule changes.
Whenever the girls have an issue to talk to their dad about, they ask him for a coffee date!
I think I need to re-establish this tradition, and enjoy some much needed time alone and away with my husband! Thanks for the reminder sis! love you! :)

busymomof10 said...

Thanks for sharing! I love the idea of the girls and their Dad having coffee dates too, so they can talk about whatever is on their hearts! A Great Tradition! Wish we could have done that with our Dad growing up, rather than having "PDs!" ;)

Love you!!

Vanderhoof Family said...

We do live pretty remote. There is no Starbucks in our town, but there is one a 30 minute drive away. The coffee shop here in town is not open in the evenings. So we have created our own coffee date. In our homeschool we are reading the Little House series right now. Frequently Laura will talk about how Pa and Ma were outside talking under the stars while she, Mary, and Carie were in bed. So we have talked to our sons and they have nights on a regular basis where they go to bed early and we have our time. They do not have to be asleep or even in their beds, but they must stay in their rooms. It took the hassle out of arranging for sitters and things like that. Now we do arrange sitters once in a while, but typically we get time together through their going to bed early. Sometimes it is coffee, tea, or a candlelight dinner.

busymomof10 said...

Vanderhoff Family,

I LOVE it! HOW CREATIVE! Thanks for sharing!!! This is a Fabulous idea, and would work well for those who don't have kids old enough to babysit yet! :)


F.... said...

We both love coffee! Why have we not done this?! hahahaha. Great idea. We aren't scheduled daters, but we when do go we have a blast. Last date was rock climbing at the rock climbing gym, and we had a sweaty blast! Hahaha. Pretty sure we laughed more than we climbed.

So happy I found your blog at Women Living Well.


newequus said...

Such a simple thing but such an awesome idea! My husband and I have "car" dates. That means we have uninterrupted time driving to a lot of the weekly events. We have some of the best conversations! :)

Mindy @ New Equus - A New Creation

Debra Worth said...

We used to go out for ice cream. Now we just do stuff at home after the kids are in bed (we have a 3 year old and one year old). I probably should do better about seeing people would be willing to watch our kiddos... A walk at the park is also wonderful. If you go at about 8 or 9 then it is usually very quiet, and if you take homemade goodies it is a good alternative for people who even a couple cups of coffee might be too much to do weekly.

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