Monday, September 24, 2012

Marriage Monday: Living with an Unsaved Man - Acceptance {Link up|

Marriage Mondays"

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  Last Monday I shared the Introduction to a new series on living with an unsaved mate, written by my own precious mother, who lived with an unsaved man (my dear father) for nearly twenty years, before God brought him to Himself!

Today, I am sharing her first tip on how to successfully live with an unsaved mate.

May 11, 2012

Today let me begin with what for me was the foundation of what God would do in the years to come.


“for better or for worse, till death do us part.”

“NO!! NO!!! NO!!!" screamed my heart and my mind as my husband of two years told me he was not saved. This could not be happening!!!  My world was rocked and turned upside down as my husband told me that he had thought being a Christian was being a morally good person, going to church, doing to others as he wanted them to do to him, etc. But now that he understood what being a Christian really entailed, he realized he was not saved, and wasn’t ready to be!

Oh yes, he believed that he was a sinner and that Jesus Christ had died for him! He even believed that the Bible was the Word of God and totally true—every word of it. But it was all an intellectual belief for him, not a matter of the heart. (Even the demons believe that . . . and tremble!)

This seemed to me like some kind of a cruel joke. How could this be happening? I didn’t want to be married to a non-Christian. I had determined that I would never date or marry an unbeliever. I had seen what a home divided was like. My mother was a Christian, but my dad was not. At that time, I didn't know what God’s Word says on the matter:

         “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers…” 2 Corinthians 6:14a.

But, I did know that I did not want to be married to an unbeliever!!! But the reality was this: I was whether I wanted to be or not!!!  Now I needed to accept that fact and choose to keep my covenant vow I made to God on our wedding day  --  “for better or for worse, till death do us part!”  

Not only did I have to accept the reality of my love’s spiritual condition, but just as God accepted me “just as I am”; likewise, I had to accept my mate as a person, spiritual condition included, just as he was, while at the same time trusting God to make him into the man HE wanted him to be for His glory—not for my good pleasure.  Sad to say I was slow in learning this!

*I'm so grateful that my Mom was willing to share her experience and wisdom with us!  Come back next week for the continuation of this series!  I know you will be blessed!!*

Your Turn to Share:

Do you live with an unsaved man?  Or do you have a testimony of your husband coming to the Lord after much prayer and patiently living out Christ before him?  If you have a testimony that will encourage other women in a similar situation, please share!

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A Proverbs 31 Wife said...

Thanks for hosting ;)

Mary Beth said...

Your mom has excellent advice that is applicable even beyond being married to an unbeliever. So many problems in marriage stem from our expectations of our spouses instead of looking at reality and accepting that. Thanks for sharing!

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