Monday, December 3, 2012

Marriage Monday: Loving Your Husband When He is Sick {Link up}

Marriage Mondays

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  Last week we looked at creative ways to show love to our husbands.  Did you try any of those out this week??  I think I'm going to continue to explore the topic of loving our husbands in the weeks ahead, as the Lord leads.  Today, I want to discuss loving our husbands when they are sick. 

While it may be nothing more than a bad cold, my husband is currently sick.  I don't know about your guys, but the men in my family like to be "cared over" when they are sick!  ;)  They like a little extra attention and fussing over!

In fact, most of us are like that.  When we are sick, we feel weak and vulnerable, and we like to know that someone loves us enough to take care of our needs and to provide our little comforts. I was recently part of a conversation where a group of women were saying that even as adults, when they got sick, all they really wanted was their Mommies! :)  Why is that?  Obviously, their mothers must have cared for them and nurtured them when they were sick, making them feel loved and cherished.  (As an aside, hopefully we are doing this for our children!)

So, instead of making fun of our husbands for being such "babies" when they are sick, or resenting the inconvenience or extra work their illness may cause, how can we expend a little extra effort and make our husbands feel loved and cared for when they are under the weather??  

It may just be little things like getting them an extra blanket, taking a blanket away, getting them some medicine, fixing them a soothing hot or cold drink, putting a cold washcloth on their foreheads, trying to keep the children quiet so they can sleep, making them a pot of nourishing chicken soup, etc.  However, these little things add up and make our husbands feel loved and appreciated, which in turn make them love and appreciate us even more.
What are some ways that you care for your husband when he is sick?  How does he care for you??

I'm going to share a story with you that has vividly replayed in my mind for many years.  About 14 or 15 years ago, we attended a church in a certain city, and although I liked the pastor a lot, there came a day that I lost a great deal of respect for him.  You see, his wife and his children all came down sick with the flu.  They were very sick, and I expected him to be home as much as possible caring for his family and ministering to their needs; however, he unabashedly told the congregation that he had moved into the church and was sleeping there, because he had to be about the Lord's work and couldn't afford to get sick!!  I couldn't believe my ears! The Lord's work is ministering to others at their point of need!!!  What happened to laying down his life for his wife, as Christ did for the church??
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."  ~ Ephesians 5:25

That situation is indelibly stamped in my mind as what not to do when a spouse is sick!!  Of course none of us have time to be sick, and there may be special circumstances when it is wise to avoid exposure to illness, but the Christian response is to lay down our lives for others, serving them in love!  
 " . . . but by love serve one another." ~ Galations 5:13

Your Turn to Share:

How do you serve your husband in love when he is sick?  How does your husband serve and care for you in times of illness??  Please share!!! 

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A Proverbs 31 Wife said...

When I'm sick I just want to sleep, Mom never fussed over us but just sent us to bed.
The first time hubby got sick after we were married, I just didn't get it. He wanted me to sit there and rub his back, get him a drink, cuddle up with him. All the while I'm thinking "What in the World!?" Later I find out, that his mom did give the kids special attention when they were sick.
Funny the things you learn from each other. :)
And of course, I now baby him all he wants because when it's my turn to feel bad, I get the same attention :)

Gail @ said...

I think both my husband and I are pretty good about being attentive to each other when we are sick, but my husband is the absolute best about serving me during these times. And this is especially real to me right now as my husband is across the country serving his aging parents for a week, and I got a terrible case of the flu. Never realized how much his help made. I've had much more trouble shaking this flu trying to do everything for myself.
Makes me love him all the more! : )

What Joy Is Mine said...

Elizabeth...we spoil each other when we are under the weather. Its another opportunity to serve and love on each other. My husband does a great job of tending to me and I do my best to reciprocate when he is ill. Did you find the linky at the end of my Monday's Musings post today? I hope so. I would love to have you share your post today.

Auntie Em Stanton said...

What an apt post for me to read! My husband was in a motorcycle accident 2 weeks ago and I've been in serious caretaker mode. It's been hard on him and exhausting for me (mostly mental).
Thank you!

Lindsay Harold said...

My husband and I do a pretty good job of taking care of each other when we're sick. Thankfully, that doesn't happen very often. The most memorable occassion of this kind of care happened when were dating...and I was sick with a bad cold. That's a totally terrible day to be sick, especially when it's your first Valentine's Day to actually have a valentine. But Doug showed up with a new pair of comfy cotton pants for me to wear, a box of chocolates (always welcome, even if I don't eat them when I'm sick), and the DVD set of all the Anne of Green Gables movies, which he watched with me while we cuddled up on the couch. It was a fun day in spite of me feeling bad.

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