"However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]."
I really like the way the Amplified version gives us a clearer picture of what it looks like to respect our husbands. Over the next few weeks, I plan to define and consider each of these words, one at a time. Last time, we focused on the word "notice." This week, we are moving on to the word "regard."
To regard means:
1. to have or show respect or concern for
2. to think highly of; esteem.
So, our goal for this week is to learn how to regard our husbands. That means we should treat our husbands with kindness and respect, show concern for them, and think highly of them. We should also esteem them as more important than ourselves.
Whoa! I bet some of you bristled at that last statement! I am not talking about esteeming them as better than ourselves because they are men and we are women. God created men and women with equal value, even though He assigned them different roles! Actually, all Christians are commanded to esteem others as better than themselves! A marriage is the perfect place for living out Christian principles of laying down our lives for one another!
Have kindly affection one for another with brotherly love, in honor preferring one another. -- Romans 12:10
Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem the other better than himself. - Phillipians 2:4
First of all, we can treat our husbands kindly and with respect even if we disagree with them or think they are being ridiculous about something.
We can speak to our husbands kindly and in a respectful tone of voice, rather than snapping, yelling, belittling or speaking sarcastically.
We can "care over them" when they are sick, showing concern for their ailments (real or imagined!) ;)
We can esteem their sleep as more important than our own, when we have a fussy baby or a child wakes up sick in the night.
We can focus on their strengths, not their weaknesses.
These are some of my thoughts. What do you think? How can we show regard to our husbands? Please share your ideas. Also, I'd love for you to link up your blog post on marriage here! Please copy and paste my blog button (or a link to my blog) in your post! Thanks for joining up!