Friday, January 11, 2013

How Does the Wise Woman Build Her House?

As a result of feedback I received from Tuesday's post on What are you Building?, I have continued to think about what is involved in wisely building a house.

FIrst of all, I dug a little deeper into the verse:  "Every wise woman buildeth her house, but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands."  ~ Proverbs 14:1  The Hebrew word translated "house" is "bayith," which is used to refer to the physical house or dwelling place, as well as to refer to a household or family. (source:  

So, when I refer to "building a house," I am thinking of all aspects of creating a home for my family -- from home organization, decorating, cleaning, and cooking to creating an atmostphere of joy, contentment, love and acceptance in the home. Also included is being a help meet to my husband, and bearing, training, nurturing, and educating our children. This idea of building my house actually encompasses my entire life's work. (Anything else I happen to accomplish is just icing on the cake.)

As I've continued to ponder the concept of building my house, I've come up with a few more thoughts to share with you.

1.  Building a House Requires a Good Foundation

Any house is only as strong as its foundation.  A recent inspection of the house where we live revealed that a large vertical crack in the family room wall was caused by the house settling.  Many of the houses in our neighborhood are "settling."  This is really not surprising, when you consider that we live on the marsh!  

In Matthew 7:24-29, Jesus taught that the wise man [woman] builds her house on the rock, while the foolish man [woman] builds her house on the sand.  Many today are building homes and families on the shifting sand of modern philosophy and popular, politically-correct views, rather than on the solid rock of Biblical truth.  (For example, if a man and woman are living together outside of marriage and adding children to the mix; they are obviously building their house on the sand!)

If we want our homes/families to withstand the storms of life, it is essential that we build our houses on the Rock of Jesus Christ and His unchanging Word!

2.  Building a House Requires a Plan

Contractors build a house by following a blueprint, which has been carefully designed by a  master architect.  It would be ludicrous to attempt to build a house without a plan!

However, many of us attempt to build homes/families without a plan in place!  We need to know what we are trying to build and how to build it!  Furthermore, we need to understand that we can't do the building in our own strength or according to what seems right in our own eyes. We must get our building plans from the Lord!

"Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it." ~ Psalm 127:1

3. Building a House is Messy

Ever walked through a house under construction?  It's a pretty messy place with raw materials scattered everywhere.  It's impossible to figure out what the house will actually look like when just the studs are up, but gradually the rooms begin to take shape and eventually they are finished, the mess is all cleaned up, and a beautiful house emerges.  

It's the same when we are creating a home/family.  Even when trying to follow the Blueprint we have been given (in God's Word), there will be problems and setbacks and challenges.  Family life can be very messy.  Have you ever noticed this verse -- "Where no oxen are, the crib is clean: but much increase is by the strength of the ox." ~ Proverbs 14:4?  

In the messiness of raising a family, there will be times when we lose sight of how beautiful the finished product will be.  That is why we are instructed to not grow weary in well doing, for in due season we shall reap, if we don't give up.  (Galations 6:9)

4. Building a House is Costly

Constructing a new house is an expensive endeavor, especially if paying for high-quality construction.  It requires a careful analysis of the costs ahead of time, so that you don't end up with a half-finished house and no ability to obtain the resources to finish it.  Even so, every building project we've ever attempted has always held surprises and hidden costs.  

In the same way, we are wise to count the cost of building a house for the Lord.  Raising a family has never been easy.  Trying to train children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord is no simple task. If we want a different product than what we see the families around us producing, we must use different building materials or take care that we use different construction techniques.  This raises the cost of building even more!

5. Building a House is Worth the Investment

If you've ever built a house yourself or added on to a house, you know that the mess can be very tiring and wear on your patience, but once the project is done, it is worth all of the work and the mess and the aggravation!  Your new house or new rooms are so beautiful and pleasant to be in that you forget the problems associated with building and just sit back enjoy the fruit of your labors!

It is the same with building a family.  It is messy, exhausting, frustrating, self-sacrificing work, that stretches you in every way imgainable!  But totally worth it!! 

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.  ~ Proverbs 31:27-31 

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Unknown said...

Thank you so much for taking the time to write a blog like this. My husband and I became parents nearly three years ago, through the adoption of our son (after 9 years of prayer). Seven months later I gave birth to our second son. It has been such a blessing but much harder than I expected. I have been actively seeking women like you to teach me how to be a Godly woman, mother and wife and your blog has been such a tremendous blessing to me and my family. God bless you.

busymomof10 said...

Thank you so much, Tess, for such a sweet comment! It is comments like yours that encourage me to keep on blogging! :) Bless you!!

Kate said...

Excellent post!! I love the points you bring out and am heading over the read the first installment! ;)

Coming over from What Joy Is Mine link-up.

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Kate! :)

Darlene Sinclair said...

Wonderful! Great ideas - I especially like the house under construction concept. You know, messy and all. ;)

I'm nearly done with the race (in terms of kiddos at home. Two still in school, three - out of nine children - living under our roof.) And I am so appreciative of moms encouraging younger moms. It's a wonderful race, a marvelous undertaking, this building home and rearing children for God. There is nothing I would rather do.

I now have a season ahead of me that is new terrain - adult children and grandchildren. I find it to be equally busy, if not more so in a "multi-tasking" sort of way. But this, too, will be accomplished with His great help.

Thank you again. I LOVED the days when they were all home. Enjoy and cherish and don't grow weary in well doing!

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Darlene for the encouragement! I have 5 children that are now adults (18 or older) and 5 younger children, so I am beginning to enjoy the fruit of my building efforts, but must now succumb to the temptation to sit back and relax, as I still have much building to do! :)

Zamadiba said...

Wow Im a newly word and I needed to here this teaching. Thank you for the word and light.

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Watson Selvasingh said...

Thank you busymom for this excellent post. I am a Pastor in India accidently read your post. Tomorrow I need to preach in a wedding service and I am taking your post and converting to our context. Thanks.
Also, myself and my wife are parenting two girls. one is a recent arrival. jut 45 days old. Thanks. Continue your good work

busymomof10 said...

Thank you so much for your encouraging words! They were a balm to my soul today!
As you know, there are no accidents with God! I'm grateful that He allowed our "paths to cross" this day!
Blessings on your young family!

Christain Nwanne said...

I wish that yu are friend to my wife

Aimsgirl said...

What if you are not interesting in having children but still wish to live out gods will with your husband?

Aimsgirl said...

What if you are not interesting in having children but still wish to live out gods will with your husband?

busymomof10 said...

Aimsgirl . . . Personally I believe that God commands us to be fruitful and multiply. So, I believe that part of living out God's will for our marriage is to have children, if He chooses to bless us with them.

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