Monday, February 4, 2013

Marriage Monday: Loving our Husbands When They Are Away {Link up}


Marriage Mondays


Welcome back to Marriage Monday! I am in the midst of a series on Loving our Husbands. Last week, I explored the topic: Loving Your Husband Begins in Your Mind. If you missed that post, you might want to click on the link and check it out. It was one of my more popular Marriage Monday posts.


As of this writing, my husband is out of town on a short business trip, but he will be home again tomorrow. Fortunately, except for his trip to China, his business travel usually consists of short trips where he is only away for a night or two most often. I have learned to accept that as part of his job, and never complain when he is gone. In fact, I sometimes look forward to it. (Read on to find out why!)

While watching him pack for his trip, I suddenly had visions of a time when I was a little girl and my Dad used to travel on business.  Every time he went out of town, my Mom would neatly and carefully pack his suitcase for him! What a sweet gesture! I wonder if she ever left little notes or surprises in his suitcase?



I must admit that I've never packed my husband's suitcase for him, and I don't think he would appreciate it if I did, but I do attempt to have the clothes he will need to pack washed, dried, ironed and ready to go. That is one way practical way I show my love for him.

Today, I wanted to explore some ways that we can show love for our husbands even when they are away from home. Some of you may have husbands who travel frequently or who are gone for extended amounts of time, such as on military assignments. I'm sure you will have many ideas that you can share for how to demonstrate love to your husband during such times of separation!  Here are a few ideas that I thought of.

How to Love our Husbands When They are Away from Home:

1. Accept the fact that they must travel, and don't make them feel badly by complaining about it, either before they leave or while they are gone.

2. Pray for their safety and protection while they are traveling.

3. Hide little love notes or treats in their luggage for them to find while they are gone.

4. Stay in touch while they are away through phone calls, emails, text messages, or even Skype sessions, if they are gone for longer periods of time.  

5. Be strong and competent wives, who manage things well while they are gone, so they don't have to worry if the household is falling apart in their absence.

6. Continue to live by the principles they have established for their families, even in their absence, so that they can fully trust you and have no need to worry.

7. Prepare foods they dislike while they are gone, saving their favorite meals for their return.

8. Tackle messy projects while they are gone, so they don't have to endure the mess when they are home! (I usually get my hair permed when my husband is out of town, because he can't stand the smell!!)

9. Clean out a closet, room or other clutter zone that is a source of irritation while they are gone and surprise them when they return with a gift of orderliness!

10. Send them little love messages via text or email while they are away, so they know you are thinking of them! 


Reasons #8 and 9 are why I am sometimes glad for my husband to go out of town, giving me a chance to surprise him with some task accomplished!  Right now I have three bags of clothes that my children cleaned out of their closets that are sitting out and driving my husband crazy!!!  It's just the type of project I tend to put off!  I need to dump out those bags and sort the clothes into these piles:  Give to Charity, Give to a friend from church, Try to sell on Ebay, Put into a storage container for a younger child to grow into, or Put back into a child's closet and tell him or her to keep the item and wear it!  :)

These are just a few practical ways to love our husbands even when they must travel away from home on a short-term or long-term basis.


Your Turn to Share:

Do you have some practical ways of demonstrating love for your husband when he is away from home? Please share so that we might all be encouraged to love our husbands whether they are at home or out of town!


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12 comments:

Lisa Cherry said...

Elizabeth, this is a great series! My daughters and I just read this post while driving home from a little trip away ourselves. Very convicting and helpful. We thought of another one.....being patient when they come home jet lagged, tired, or emotionally spent. Somehow we are always tempted to "dump the household" weight back on them a little too quickly. :) Visiting from Frontlinemoms.com. (Hey, I tried to comment through Wordpress, but something didn't work. Thought you might want to check on it.)

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Lisa for stopping by and adding to the list! That is a great addition! Thanks for including the reminder to allow our husbands plenty of time for "re-entry" when they get home. I know I always need that when I've been away from home! It is so OVERWHELMING to walk in the door and be bombarded with everyone's needs and schedules all at once!!! Excellent advice!

Hillary Gould said...

I NEEDED this today...and have it bookmarked to hopefully see other people's ideas. My husband is planning a two week away from home to deal with some family business very far away... In our 10 years together, we have never been that far apart...and never for that long! Three days was the most ever, I believe... So, I am really feeling a little pressure about how to handle it all...I am not looking forward to it, but know that it's something that has to be done. Thank you for this timely posting!

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Hillary for your encouraging comments. Isn't it so neat how God orchestrates things so we find the encouragement we need that speaks to exactly what we are facing?? It is encouragint to me, because I was writing another Marriage post when I felt like it wasn't the direction God would have me go in for today. So, I quickly deleted everything I had written and started over! What resulted was the post you see here! So encouraging to know that God guided my thoughts for this post! :)

A Proverbs 31 Wife said...

What a wonderful list! Hubby doesn't travel much at all, but I do like to leave little notes for him in his lunches and all that fun stuff :)

Amy M. said...

You have covered just about everything I do when my husband travels! I enjoy getting projects done to surprise him, and send a card along in every suitcase.
My husband sends me pictures via Smart Phone of his antics on trips, even as mundane as a shot of the meeting room from his perspective, or of a sunrise, etc. I send photos of children's activities or of myself doing chores or in the grocery store -- we keep each other "in the loop" this way.
Also, when he flies, I track his plane using flighttracker.com, plugging in his flight number and airline, and watching a radar depiction of his travels. We have a sort of competition to see who will get the first text message sent upon his landing (flight tracker isn't always accurate to the exact second).
Great topic!

Amy M. said...

You have covered just about everything I do when my husband travels! I enjoy getting projects done to surprise him, and send a card along in every suitcase.
My husband sends me pictures via Smart Phone of his antics on trips, even as mundane as a shot of the meeting room from his perspective, or of a sunrise, etc. I send photos of children's activities or of myself doing chores or in the grocery store -- we keep each other "in the loop" this way.
Also, when he flies, I track his plane using flighttracker.com, plugging in his flight number and airline, and watching a radar depiction of his travels. We have a sort of competition to see who will get the first text message sent upon his landing (flight tracker isn't always accurate to the exact second).
Great topic!

Lisa said...

There are many young wives, especially military wives, who can really glean a lot from this post. I'm going to forward your link to some folks I know.

Thank you for the great encouragment!

BTW, I realized after I linked up that you had asked for marriage posts. Mine is about children...I hope you don't mind!

Lisa
www.thecourageousjourney.com

busymomof10 said...

Hi Amy,

Thanks for adding your ideas to the list! I love the idea of tracking your husband's flight -- I did that when my husband flew to China and back! I also love how you and your husband send pictures back and forth! What a Great idea! Thanks for sharing! :)

Elizabeth

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Lisa! Please feel free to share the post with anyone whom you think may benefit! :)

busymomof10 said...

Hey, I thought of something to add to the list -- I like to wash our sheets and make the bed with fresh, clean sheets before my husband gets home. There is nothing like your very own bed -- and clean sheets always feel so nice! This is especially a good idea because I usually have one of the little ones sleeping with me when my hubby is out of town! :) That is a special treat that the "baby" of the family has always looked forward to! Pretty soon my "baby" will be too old to want to snuggle in bed with Mama -- so I savor it for as long as I can! ;) I'm off to switch the sheets from the washer to the dryer! :)

Mikah said...

My husband travels a few times a year, but I can use this list more when he has weeks when he works 12-14 hour days. Great ideas! -Mikah @withalljoy.com

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