Monday, March 4, 2013

Loving Your Husband: Keeping Love Fresh {Link up}

Marriage Mondays

Welcome back to Marriage Monday! I am in the midst of a series on Loving our Husbands. Last week, I talked about how to love our husbands by really listening to them. If you missed that post, you might want to click on the link and check it out. As several ladies pointed out to me in the past week, the truths presented in that post apply to listening to our children, as well as our husbands.

Today I'm thinking about young love! Isn't it beautiful to behold? What if we were able to recapture some of the excitement and thrill from when we first fell in love and infuse that into our marriages twenty, thirty or forty years down the road?!?  What would that look like?

I think couples tend to settle into a rut as they attempt to steer their marriages through the churning waters of too-much-to-do-and-never-enough-time-or-money, on their way to reach the elusive shore of "The American Dream," while navigating the overwhelming storms of life, bailing out water now and again, and just trying to stay afloat. However, too many years spent in "survival mode" can take its toll on both the health of our bodies and the health of our marriages. Eventually, we reach a point of crisis and drastic changes must be made.

The above scenario is quite common.  Is it possible to avoid such a scenario?  What do you think?  

Have you ever thought about the characteristics of young couples in love?
  • They can never see enough of each other!
  • They never tire of talking together -- on the phone, in person, via text, chat, Skype, etc!
  • They love to spend time together doing fun things . . . or just hanging out!
  • They love to gaze into each other's eyes!
  • They love to surprise each other and give gifts!
  • They love to talk about their plans and share their dreams for the future.
  • They can't stand to be apart and eagerly plan for the next time they can be together!
  • They think about the other one all day long!
What can you add to the list? 

Do you think the above characteristics describe the average couple who has been married for 10, 20, 30 or more years?  Why or why not?  

I'd love to exchange ideas on how married couples can keep the excitement and enthusiasm from their courtship, engagement and early married life as the years go by.  Do you have any thoughts on this? Are you and your husband just as lovey-dovey now as when you first fell in love?  Is your love somewhat tarnished by the trials of life?

Your Turn to Share:

Please share your ideas for keeping the excitement and enthusiasm of young love present in your marriage as the years go by. I'd love to hear your suggestions! Please share so we might all be encouraged!

If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!

Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!



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Ana Sullivan from The Lost Apron said...

Thank you for your commitment to marriage. I think (after 27 years) that commitment is a key. I also think that honesty is crucial. Only with time spent together, are you connected. Never let too much time go by without contact. Read more...

Amy said...

Thank you for your post :-)

I often watch the excitement of my almost 2yr old daughter who races to the door when papa arrives home, and feel the joy when I come home and my lot rush to greet me, how much more it would be if we RUSHED to the door to greet our man with the ENTHUSIASM of a 2yr old the WONDER, JOY & EXCITEMENT that they hold in full view of all :)

Remain Blessed Ladies xx

Elizabeth said...

Thank you Ana and Amy for your input! You are both right on target!

Lindsay Harold said...

My husband and I, after almost 3 years of marriage, still can't stand to be apart. Maybe we don't drool over each other quite like we did as newlyweds, but we've settled into a new normal that does include being very close and wanting to spend a lot of time together. We are honestly best friends as well as lovers. Even with a toddler and another baby on the way, we still spend all of our free time together and can't get enough of each other. Taking care of a child has just given us another activity to do together. I hope we never get enough of each other and we always stay close like this. I think we will because we know it's a goal worth working for.

busymomof10 said...

Thanks for sharing that beautiful testimony!!

The Provision Room said...

So great! Thanks for hosting the wonderful Link-up!

KM Logan said...

Keeping things in perspective greatly helps my marriage. Socks on the floor aren't that irritating in the grand scheme of things.

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