Welcome back to Marriage Monday! I'm writing today from my parent's home in South Carolina! It has been nice to escape from the hard work of moving and be here with them for a few days! ;)
If you missed last week's post, I talked about Loving Our Husbands during Stressful Times, such as a move!! If you missed that post, you might want to check it out! Let's face it, we will all endure trials and times of testing in this life, so it's good to be prepared for how to respond to one another when a crisis hits!
Today, I decided to share some insights on marriage from being here with my parents, who have been married for 52 1/2 years! They have had their share of difficult times, including a period of separation in their early years together (when they were advised to divorce!), times of intense suffering and debilitating illness, and many years of living together "unequally yoked." (To learn move about that, check out the series of posts that my Mom wrote for me on Living with an Unsaved Mate. I know you will be blessed by her testimony and words of encouragement!!)
As I think about my parents and their marriage, I've been pondering what it was that kept them together through the years. When I asked my Dad that question he quipped, "Lots of sugar!" ;) Then he added, "If you marry a sweet woman, you've got it made!!" :) Ha ha! :)
Thinking about his off-the-cuff comment, I'm sure that lots of "sugar" is definitely one secret to a happy marriage! ;) I also think that having a sense of humor is key! Learning to laugh at ourselves, at life, at the antics of our mates -- that must be one of the secrets to surviving many years together! Even the Bible says that laughter is good medicine! And believe me, you'd have to have a sense of humor to live with my Dad!!! :)
The main word that comes to my mind as I observe my parents, however, is commitment. Being committed to each other and to their marriage vows, regardless of circumstances - that's huge! Commitment is something that seems to have gone out of style along with poodle skirts and penny loafers. Many of the people I observe lack commitment in their marriages, in child training, in their jobs, in the church and in their relationship with Christ. When the going gets tough, they always look for greener pastures.
An offspring of commitment is choice. When it comes right down to it, love is a choice. My parents made the decision to love one another regardless of how they felt at any given moment. Marriage is not always fun. Living with another person day after day is not always easy. Life is not always "happily ever after." But my parents made the choice to love through the good times and the bad!
My Dad has demonstrated his commitment to my Mom during years of illness, both in their early years when she had reoccurring bouts of rheumatic fever that kept her bed-ridden for months at a time, and in her later years when she was diagnosed with MS, and even now as she struggles with severe stenosis of the aortic valve and lives out her last days with much pain and weakness. It is a blessing to watch him care for her so tenderly!
Likewise, my Mom demonstrated her commitment to my Dad by loving him and honoring him when he did not know or desire to serve the Lord for the first 20 years of marriage. It was heart-wrenching for her to endure years of a divided home where they served two different masters, but her commitment to God and to her marriage vows enabled her to love my Dad and pray for him as she awaited that day when God would save him!
My parents have overcome many obstacles because they both chose a life of love and commitment to each other and to God. In the process, they have grown closer to each other and have become more like Christ, and their lives are a blessing and testimony to all who know them!
I'm praising God today for my precious Mom and Dad and the godly heritage they have given me! I'm also reminiscing about the fun we had at their 50th anniversary celebration two years ago! Click here to watch the slide show I made for them and see glimpses of their fifty years together!
Your Turn to Share:
What do you think the secrets are to a long and lasting marriage? What have you learned about marriage from the successes or failures of your parent's marriage(s)? What are you teaching your own children about marriage as they observe the relationship that you and your husband live out before them? Will they want to emulate what they see? Please share so we might all be encouraged!
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