Do you feel beautiful?
I don't think I've ever met a woman or girl who was totally satisfied with the way she looked! We always wish we were thinner or at least had our curves in different places, had larger eyes or a smaller nose, a different hair color, longer legs, smaller feet, more delicate features, etc.
Not only that, but we tend to believe that if we were more attractive, we would have more friends and admirers and be much happier in this life.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss in her excellent book, Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free, has this to say on the subject of beauty:
The deception that physical beauty is to be esteemed above beauty of heart, spirit and life leaves both men and women feeling unattractive, ashamed, embarrassed, and hopelessly flawed. Ironically, the pursuit of physical beauty is invariably an unattainable, elusive goal -- always just out of reach. Even the most glamorous, admired women admit to feeling less than beautiful.
Does it really matter what we believe about beauty? According to Nancy Leigh DeMoss:
What we believe ultimately determines how we live. If we believe something that is not true, sooner or later we will act on that lie; believing and acting on lies leads us into bondage.
Bondage may seem like a strong word, until you recognize that you are helpless to escape the lies about yourself that enslave you and cause you to be in bondage to destructive thoughts and habits.
Comparison, envy, competitiveness, promiscutiy, sexual addictions, eating disorders, immodest dress, flirtatious behavior -- the list of attitudes and behaviors rooted in a false view of beauty is long. What can set women free from this bondage? Only the Truth can overcome the lies we have believed.
God's Word clearly reveals the transitory and deceptive nature of physical beauty, and the necessity of seeking lasting inner beauty instead:
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. ~ Proverbs 31:30
Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. ~ 1 Peter 3:3-4
My own lovely daughter, Ashlyn, who is truly beautiful inside and out, listened to lies that were spoken over her, rehearsed those lies until she believed them and allowed them to become a part of the fabric of her being, until she became enslaved to wrong thinking about herself. She writes:
Redefining, reclaiming, and redeeming beauty have set me free from the lies that I have allowed to define me for so long. The shame has been rinsed away by the redemption of my Savior, who died and rose again so that I maywalk in freedom. I want to be captivating, to be lovely, to reflect the beauty of Christ in a way that IS redeemed from cultural lies. And so I renounce the lie-filled sentences that were spoken over me. I refuse to let them define me. Instead, I cling to the truth I have found in Christ - I am uniquely beautiful. I am the joy for which He died, and I am a delight to Him. I reflect His creative powers and proclaim His glory.
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She has written a message that every woman needs to read! She candidly shares about her struggle with never feeling "beautiful" and never "measuring up" and reveals how she finally found freedom from this bondage. I encourage you to read her life-changing testimony on Redefining Beauty here.
If her message resonates with you, please share it with other women in your life! Let's help women everywhere redefine beauty!
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