Monday, November 11, 2013

Marriage Monday: Staying Physically Close during a Crisis {Link up}

Welcome back to Marriage Monday! I hope you are enjoying my series of posts on how to maintain your marriage during a crisis. There are many types of crises that couples might encounter as they navigate the storms of life together.  Many times these trials tear marriages apart, as couples lash out at each other instead of clinging to one another and to the Lord during troubled times.  My hope is that this series will encourage you to hold fast to the Lord and to your husband during the good times and the bad.

One problem that couples must overcome during a crisis (or anytime) is a lack of communication or conflicting communication styles.  To read last week's post on communicating during a crisis, click HERE.  

Have you read all of the other posts in this series?  Here they are, in case you've missed one:

Responding to Trials with Grace 

How a Wife's Unwavering Faith Strengthened her Marriage During a Crisis (Reader Testimony)

How Your Marriage Can Survive Childhood Leukemia (Reader Testimony)

How Your Marriage Can Survive a Season of Unemployment (Reader Testimony)

How Your Marriage Can Survive the Loss of a Child (Testimony of Amy Roberts)

How Your Marriage Can Survive the Fire

How Your Marriage Can Survive a Health Crisis (Reader Testimony) 

Persevering through the Trials (Reader Testimony)

How to Build up Your Marriage During a Crisis

Today I want to talk about staying close physically 
during a crisis.  Unless the crisis is of a physical nature that prevents a couple from coming together, it is important for a man and wife to maintain their intimacy even during a deep, dark valley.  

What if you "don't feel like it?"  Do it anyway!  ;)

Why?  Because you will prevent a host of additional problems by maintaining this part of your relationship.  1 Corinthians 7:3-5 instructs:

Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.  Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 

The enemy is looking for any opening he can find to get his foot in the door so he can enter into our homes and destroy our marriages and our families. Maintaining our intimate times with our husbands is one way we can help protect our marriages, as stone by stone we build a wall of protection against temptation from without and cement it together from within.  How strong is the wall around your marriage?

"I am my beloved and my beloved is mine."  ~ Song of Solomon 6:3

Your Turn to Share:

I'd love to hear your testimonies of how maintaining intimacy even during very difficult times helped hold your marriage relationship together. 

I've been receiving emails from many readers who are being blessed by this series and who have a story of how their marriage survived a time of great testing. Do you have such a story? I encourage you to share from your heart by leaving a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at to share your testimony/potential guest post.

If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!

Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!

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Blogs I link up with from week to week:

What Joy Is Mine

Happy Wives Club


The Alabaster Jar

Courtship Connection

I Choose Joy!


Messy Marriage

Wifey Wednesday button

Please link up your blog post on marriage below by entering the url of your specific post. Where it says "Your Name" enter the title of your blog post, not your personal name! Thanks! :)


Cheryl said...

Thank you so much for this gentle, sweet reminder to fulfill this part of marriage. Physical intimacy is often overlooked and cast aside when the heart is broken and things are tough. May God help us to remember what is most important. I loved what you said about building stone by stone. Each stone is important and vital, and the enemy seeks any loophole between stones he can find. I am so glad I stopped here today. Thank you for the weekly link-up, and may God bless you. Love, Cheryl

Beth said...

This is so true, Elizabeth and I'm grateful for your reminder and challenge, since this could be an area that I would easily "let slide" as I face my surgery. But, like you've pointed out here, I know just how important keeping this connection strong especially during trying times is to both me and my husband. Oh, and I love the flexi clip! It holds my hair so firmly and looks lovely too. I will be in touch about a date to highlight you very soon!

busymomof10 said...

Thank you Cheryl and Beth for your encouraging words! I think physical intimacy may be one of the most neglected areas of marriage for many busy wives and mothers, and especially so during those challenging times in our lives when it feels like "just one more thing we have to do." Yet, I know our husbands need to be consistently loved in this way, and we need it too. Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment! :)

True Agape said...

First time here! Found you from Cornerstone Confessions!

Mel Caldicott said...

There is great wisdom here. I find that when I'm going through hard times I instinctively tend to withdraw and hide away. But I'm learning that by being physically close at these times definitely makes us stronger.
Thanks for sharing at Essential Fridays.

True Agape said...

I also believe that physical touch and intimacy help some people heal! Good reminder today!

Judith Kowles said...

Thank you for leaving your link for your post. I always enjoy reading your posts.

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