Thursday, January 23, 2014

Teaching our Children Respect, Revisited

Did you catch my post last week on Teaching Children Respect?

Since writing that post, I've continued to explore this issue of respect.  I've thought about it, talked about it with friends, looked up verses, and taught a character class on this important attribute.

And now, I'd be willing to bet that if your children are not treating you with respect that they're not obeying you either.  How do I know??  Because respect and honor are pre-requisites for obedience.  While it may be possible to give outward obedience to an authority you don't respect, it is impossible to truly obey from the heart.

That is why Ephesians 6:1-3 says, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 'Honor your father and mother,' which is the first commandment with promise; that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth."

Obedience and honor (or respect) are closely linked together.

Ephesians 6:4 addresses the parents:  "And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord."  One way to avoid provoking our children to wrath is by treating them with respect.  (For a list of 20 ways to treat your children with respect, click here.)

The Bible speaks of honor, which is another word for respect.  I did a search on blueletterbible and found all the verses that contained the word honor.  In looking at those verses, I was astonished to discover all the people that we are commanded to honor! Make a mental list really quick, and then read here and see if you are surprised too!

Whom Should We Honor?
(This is a partial list of verses, and I think I quoted all of them in the NKJV.)

1. Our Parents

Exodus 20:12 – Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you.

Ephesians 6:1-3 -- Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise; that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.

2. Government Leaders and Those in Authority 

1 Peter 2:17 -- Honor all people. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the king.

Romans 13:7 -- Render therefore to all their due: taxes to whom taxes are due, customs to whom customs, fear to whom fear, honor to whom honor.

3. Masters/Employers

1 Timothy 6:1 -- Let as many bondservants as are under the yoke count their own masters worthy of all honor, so that the name of God and His doctrine may not be blasphemed.

4. Pastors and Spiritual Elders

1 Timothy 5:17 -- Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in the word and doctrine.

5. The Lord

Revelation 4:11 -- Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.    

6. The Elderly

Leviticus 19:32 -- You shall rise before the gray headed and honor the presence of an old man, and fear your God: I am the LORD.

7. Widows

1 Timothy 5:3 -- Honor widows who are really widows.

8. Wives

1 Peter 3:7 -- Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

9. Our Own Bodies

1 Corinthians 6:20 -- For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s. (The word translated price in this passage is the same Greek word translated honor in the other verses, and also means value or worth.)

1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 --  For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality;, that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor,

10. All People

1 Peter 2:17 -- Honor all people. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the king.

Romans 12:10 -- Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;

Wow! That's quite a list, isn't it??  Are you starting to get an understanding of how important honor or respect is in our lives and in our children's lives??  I sure am!  

If your children generally treat you with respect, they are off to a great start!  However, most likely you will need to expand their understanding of honor and respect and all the people whom they should be honoring. 

If your children aren't even demonstrating respect to you, their parents, then they have a long way to go!  At least you will know what character training needs to take place in the coming year!!  :)

I'd love to hear your thoughts on teaching our children how to respect and honor those whom God has put into their lives.

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Mystiqua Kimble said...

You have a beautiful family. My husband and I were just discussing how this world lacks respect nowadays. Great words of wisdom! Be blessed. Stopping by from Welcome Home Wednesdays.

busymomof10 said...

Thanks Mystique for stopping by! I appreciate you taking time to read and comment! I hope you'll come by again!


Jenifer Metzger said...

Great word.

Thank you for linking up with Woman to Woman's Word Filled Wednesday. God bless.

Mel Caldicott said...

I was always brought up to show respect to others and I believe it taught me a lot. Surprises me how many people seem to lack in this area.
Thanks for sharing at Essential Fridays.
Mel from Essential Thing Devotions

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