Monday, March 24, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Content Wife {Link up}









Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards!

Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at various characteristics of the godly wife. Last week we focused on the joyful wife, and today I want to talk about the content wife.


The content wife is sister to the joyful wife.  You will not see one without the other.

But how can we be content?  Is it even possible when we live in a time when as soon as we've finally bought the awesome gadget we've been coveting it is already yesterday's model, made out-of-date by a cooler, more amazing device??

Contentment is not something we are born with, like blue eyes and blonde hair. Nor is it a talent that we are blessed with, like musical ability. It is not even a spiritual gift that we are given at the time of salvation.  It is an acquired skill that can be learned through practice. 

In Philippians 4:11-13, Paul says:

Not that I am implying that I was in any personal want, for I have learned how to be content (satisfied to the point where I am not disturbed or disquieted) in whatever state I am. I know how to be abased and live humbly in straitened circumstances, and I know also how to enjoy plenty and live in abundance. I have learned in any and all circumstances the secret of facing every situation, whether well-fed or going hungry, having a sufficiency and enough to spare or going without and being in want. I have strength for all things in Christ Who empowers me [I am ready for anything and equal to anything through Him Who infuses inner strength into me; I am self-sufficient in Christ’s sufficiency].  (Amplified version)

Because contentment is a learned skill, we can all learn to be content wives! Our foundation is Christ -- empowering us and enabling us to choose truth over our emotions.  The truth is that God is working everything together in our lives according to His perfect plan and that He has provided everything we need for our present and future happiness!  

Once we have that foundation in place, we can build a life of contentment by not comparing, not competing, and not complaining -- these are the secret weapons for becoming a content wife!


First of all, we must learn to stop comparing.  

Comparison is definitely a killer of contentment!  To be a truly content wife, we must refuse to compare our husbands to our friend's husbands, our houses to others' houses, and our lifestyles to the lifestyle of others.  Comparison always leads to discontentment!

God has placed each of us right where He wants us, where our obedient lives can be a witness for Him and bring Him glory, and where we can share His love with those that we rub shoulders with every day.  

He also brings trials and needs into our lives to build our character and increase our faith. He wants us to cry out to Him and then He delights to answer our prayers, building our love and our faith in Him!  However, we must refrain from comparing even our trials with those of other believers, or we may grow discouraged. God knows exactly how hot to turn up the fire for each of us, so that He can use our difficulties to refine us and make us more like Himself. He also has a plan to use our life stories to demonstrate His love, grace, and redemption to the world around us.


Secondly, we must quit competing with our husbands. 

God designed the marriage relationship to be complimentary, with the woman being the perfect counterpart to the man. God could have created a unisex world with men and women being interchangeable, but he did not.  His perfect design is one man with one woman for life (unless separated by death).  He created woman to be the perfect helper and companion for the man and to be the mother of life. Contentment comes when we wholeheartedly accept and embrace our roles as women!

When we compete with our husbands to be the leaders and providers, it creates conflict. We need to learn to be content with our husband's leadership and provision. When we learn to focus our energies on complimenting and completing our husbands, we discover peace, contentment, and a thriving marriage and home life!


Finally, we must stop complaining.

We live in a world of complainers! Everywhere we go people are complaining about the weather, the wait, taxes, the government. I know, because I take part in these conversations, too!  But we will never find contentment as long as we are complaining!

" Do all things without murmuring and disputing."  (Philippians 2:14)

The opposite of complaining is thanksgiving! The only anecdote to complaining and murmuring is learning to give thanks in all things!

"In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you."  (1 Thessalonians 5:18)


We must discipline ourselves to stop complaining and start giving thanks for everything, teaching our hearts to be content with the life God has given us! 
 
"A quiet heart is content with what God gives. It is enough. All is grace."  ~ Elisabeth Elliot


Who wants to join me in a Contentment Challenge?  We will purpose to do less comparing, competing, and complaining and to do more trusting, thanking, and rejoicing!  Who's with me?



Your Turn to Share:

Are you a content wife?  Have you learned to stop comparing, competing and complaining?  I'd love to have you share ways that you've learned to be a content, thankful and joyful wife! Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony.



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8 comments:

Rashel Blank said...

God has us on the same page! Last week I posted about being joyful and this morning before coming over here I posted and part of it was related to being content, not comparing!
God is so good!
Blessings to you my friend!

Beth said...

Contentment is an area God has been challenging me on, Elizabeth. I've realized that when I complain I am letting that complaint become a wedge between me and God. When I realize that, I am so very motivated to remove it from my life because I want nothing to come between me and my God! Love your words here, my friend. They are like sweet honey and nourishing to my spirit!

~ said...

After a long, gloomy winter that still lingers in the Hudson Valley of New York with MORE snow expected tomorrow night :( I NEEDED your wise words, Elizabeth, as a Triple C shot in the arm. JUST the reminder I needed. And considering your challenge...and how God may direct me to do just that. Will be in touch. Thanks for sharing.
Sheila at LongingsEnd.com

Chelsea McCafferty said...

Love this post about being content! What a huge issue that so many of us deal with. A spiritual mother of mine once shared that our feelings of entitlement keep us from being truly grateful. Thanks for sharing!!!

Lynn said...

My testimony is long, so I will try to nutshell it. I really struggled with contentment. It was horrible. And I did not put my husband as head of our house. We did not put God first in our marriage and our marriage really suffered. My husband filed for divorce in June 2013. Part of me had wanted that for a long time, but when it actually happened God got a hold of me and told me to fight for my marriage. Well, I obeyed. My husband returned home on Christmas Eve and has told the courts to throw the suit out. Our marriage is now better than it has ever been and we are working hard to put God first as we rebuild. I am now content in my role as a wife and I am content in allowing my husband to be head of our home. We still have a lot of growing to do, but I know God will see us through it. I am living proof that God still works miracles!!!!

Blessings,
Lynn
Living Free in Christ

busymomof10 said...

Lynn, Thanks for sharing that amazing testimony of God's grace! Even reading it in the "nutshell version" gave me chills and put tears in my eyes!!! I love to hear about the miracles God is still working! Thank you so much for sharing! :)

Blessings,
Elizabeth

Jenifer Metzger said...

AMEN!

Thank you for linking up with Woman to Woman's Word Filled Wednesday. God bless!

Ashley said...

Thank you for this encouragement! For about a year God has been revealing the ugliness of discontentment in my heart and faithfully helping me change. This post was a huge blessing today as I continue trying to grow to be more like Him!

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