Monday, March 17, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Joyful Wife {Link up}

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards!

Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at various characteristics of the godly wife. Last week we focused on the grateful wife, and today I want to take a look at the joyful wife.

Joy begins with a thankful heart.  A thankful heart comes from choosing to give thanks, whether you feel like it or not.  "In everything give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

"Thankfulness is how you think; joy is the abundance it produces."  ~ Debi Pearl

Life is not easy, and we all live with problems, hurts, disappointments, concerns for the future, and heart-breaking situations of one kind or another all around us.  It is easy to become burdened down, weary, and discouraged; yet we are reminded in James 1:2 to "count it all joy when you fall into various trials."  

Proverbs 15:15 says, "All the days of the desponding and afflicted are made evil (by anxious thoughts and forebodings), but he {she} who has a glad heart has a continual feast." (Amplified Bible)

Each of us must choose whether we will go through life with a merry heart or a woe-is-me attitude. We can either dine on stale cracker crumbs or have a continual feast!

"A wise woman sets a joyful mood in her home. Through laughter, music and happy times, she creates a positive attitude in her children. She knows that a lighthearted home relieves her husband of stress." ~ Debi Pearl, Created to be His Help Meet.

Many wives fall into a pattern of discontentment, discouragement, and disappointment. They feel it is their duty to let their husbands know how they have let them down, whether spiritually or materially. However, Debi Pearl, in her no-nonsense, plain-speaking style puts it this way --  "Always remember that the day you stop smiling is the day you stop trying to make your marriage heavenly, and it is the first day leading to your divorce proceedings." (from Created to be His Help Meet)

Proverbs 21:9 says, "It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop [on the flat oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of weather] than in a house shared with a nagging, quarrelsome, and fault-finding woman."  (Amplified version)

This is a good time to stop and ask ourselves, "Are we generally content, thankful, joyful, and a delight to be around?"  If the answer is "No" or "I'm not sure" - then we have some work to do!  

Are you ready to join me for the Joyful Wife Challenge?  How many of these things can you do this week?

1. Smile at your husband and children (whether you feel like it or not)!
2. When you or your husband or children do something stupid or clumsy, instead of getting angry or upset, laugh at your mistake and clean up the mess with a joyful heart!
3. Thank God for His love, His grace towards you, His mercy, His blessings, for every good gift He has given you!
4. Thank God for the trials and testings He has brought into your life! Ask Him to use them to make you better, not bitter.
5. Thank your husband for the things he does to provide for you and to bless you.  (See last week's post.)
6. Sing while you work. Maybe even grab a child by the hand and dance around the house!
7. Fill your house with joyful, uplifting music.
8. Find ways to brighten up average days, like putting a bouquet of wildflowers on the table, lighting candles around the house, using the "best" dishes, wearing your favorite outfit, etc.
9.  Write notes of blessing and hide them where your husband and children will find them.
10. Find ways to make your husband smile!  :)

Who wants to join me?

Your Turn to Share:

I'd love to have you share ways that you've learned to be a joyful wife and mother!  If you join me for the Joyful Wife Challenge, please share one or two things from the list that you do this week!  Or feel free to suggest additional items to add to the list!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at if you wish to share a private testimony.

If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!

Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!

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Blogs I link up with from week to week:

What Joy Is MinePhotobucket Making Your Home Sing Monday!


a-wise-woman-builds-her-home   I Choose Joy!     

   Wifey Wednesday button Wholehearted Wednesday

 A Little R & R   Messy Marriage

Proverbs 31 Link Up       

Please link up your blog post on marriage below by entering the url of your specific post. Where it says "Your Name" enter the title of your blog post, not your personal name! Thanks! :)


Beth said...

And this spring as the temps start to warm makes the perfect backdrop for smiling, dancing and finding joy in our marriages and lives, Elizabeth! We have all had such a long, brutal winter and we're ready for a little celebrating!

I love that you're going through this series and unfolding each attribute that we need to develop and let God use in our marriages. You've challenged me each week!

Also I didn't get back to your comment on my post last week, but I really liked what you said. It's so hard to know when you're being humble, but I felt your rule of thumb is true and constant in many, if not all, situations. :-)

busymomof10 said...

As always, thanks for stopping by Beth and leaving rays of sunshine behind!

It is hard to remain joyful during the Long Winters of our lives . . . looking forward to spring, aren't you??

gentlejoy said...

A good reminder and challenge for all of many reasons to be thankful and so hard to see sometimes w/ all the problems. Being thankful is a choice. Thank you. Gentle Joy

Rashel Blank said...

A wonderful post! I have been working on that lately, being more joyful. I'm trying to lighten up and have more fun with my family. I plan to join your challenge and will try to come back and comment on how it is going.
Thank you for this reminder and encouragement.

emilysestuary said...

Love your blog series.
Last week, I told my husband how grateful I was for all he does. He was only home for a week and is currently in Israel. It's hard on all of us.
During a FaceTime Chat, he said how much it meant to him that I told him. It's not the first time I've told him, but it's been a while. They really do need to hear it.
Off to be joyful!

Schwarzen Family Missions/To Sow a Seed said...

Such a wonderful reminder. Thank you for the encouragement!

Keeper Ministries said...

Great blog! So blessed by it and looking forward to reading more! Thank you!

Lisa Lewis Koster said...

Joy is rooted in the Lord. I find I'm much better at being joyful (much better period) when I start my days out with Him and keep my focus there!

Laura Lane said...

This post has opened my eyes to a pattern that I've gotten into that I wish to change. Thank you so much for the truth.
Laura of Harvest Lane Cottage

Elizabeth said...

Thanks so much ladies for your encouraging words and your feedback! It's so easy to get I to a downward spiral! But the joy of The Lord is our strength!!

momstheword said...

I LOVE this! (I love the picture you chose too, so sweet and fun). You are so right, we have a choice. We can choose to be happy or choose to be miserable.

A couple of months ago I spoke at a woman's conference and my topic was joy in marriage. But it was just such a blessing to be able to have joy be my focus for the couple of months that led up to the conference as I (and the other speakers) prepared our speeches, prayed, studied God's Word, and shared with one another!

I accidentally posted twice (I thought I was fixing a spelling error), so if you could remove #11 for me, I'd appreciate it. Thanks for hosting and thanks for linking up to "Making Your Home Sing Monday!"

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