Monday, April 28, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Pure Wife {Link up}

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards!

Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at various characteristics of the godly wife. Last week I talked about the sympathetic wife, and today I want to spend some time considering the pure wife.

God has called women, both married and unmarried, to be pure.

"that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed." - Titus 2:4-5 (NKJV)

What does it mean to be pure?  These definitions are from the Merriam-Webster online dictionary:


  1. unmixed with any other matter <pure gold> 
  2. free from dust, dirt, or taint <pure springwater>
  3. free from what vitiates, weakens, or pollutes 
  4. containing nothing that does not properly belong
  5. free from moral fault or guilt
  6. marked by chastity 

A pure woman keeps her life free from anything that would pollute or weaken her body, her spirit or her testimony. Click here to tweet this.

Purity starts in the heart.  

Titus 1:15-16 says, "Everything is pure to those whose hearts are pure. But nothing is pure to those who are corrupt and unbelieving, because their minds and consciences are corrupted. Such people claim they know God, but they deny him by the way they live. They are detestable and disobedient, worthless for doing anything good." (NLT)

Wow!  Aren't those powerful verses??  Because we can only be pure if our hearts are pure, we are instructed in Proverbs to diligently guard our hearts.   

"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life."  (Proverbs 4:23)  

Just as the quality of life of the physical body is determined by the health of the heart, so also the quality of spiritual life is determined by the health of the "heart." 

The daily battle for purity occurs in the mind. 

That's why we are instructed to bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ and to train our minds to dwell on what is right and pure.  

"Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." - Philippians 4:8

So, a pure wife keeps not only her body, but also her heart and mind, pure and undefiled.  She is modest, chaste, and self-controlled.  She doesn't flirt or flaunt her body -- she reserves her mind, body, and emotions for her husband alone and treats other men as "brothers."  She is also careful what she puts into her heart and mind, realizing that she must keep her heart pure and think pure thoughts for her actions to be pure and virtuous.

I'm often shocked by the books that Christian women read and the movies and TV shows they watch. To be pure, we have to carefully guard what we allow to enter our minds and hearts through our eyes and ears.  

1 John 1:5 says "that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all." That means there are no "Shades of Grey" for a woman seeking a life of godliness and purity!

Now is a great time for all of us to search our hearts and lives and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to us anything that may be defiling us and keeping us from being pure and chaste brides for our husbands and our Husband.  

"That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish."  - Ephesians 5:27

Click on the following links to read the other posts in this series:

The Abiding Wife

The Respectful Wife

The Accepting Wife

The Admiring Wife

The Supportive Wife

The Humble Wife

The Grateful Wife

The Joyful Wife

The Content Wife

The Trustworthy Wife

The Kind Wife

The Sympathetic Wife

Your Turn to Share:

Are you a pure wife? Have you allowed yourself to be stained by the world? What changes do you need to make to be pure, holy, and undefiled for your husband?  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at if you wish to share a private testimony.

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Beth said...

This post is one of my favorites you've had so far in this series, Elizabeth! I think it is so essential to our growth spiritually and our unity with our hubbies. Thanks for hosting and reminding us of the need to guard our hearts, my friend!

busymomof10 said...

Thank you Beth! You are always so encouraging! :)

Andrea said...

Great post! Ill be sure to link up next time I have a wife post! And your family is amazing!! You are a rock star!!


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Bonnie Way said...

These are great thoughts. I've always dressed modestly and been careful about what I read, but lately I find that I have to pay attention to what I watch. That's hard with what Hollywood puts out these days, of course, but movie ratings do help. Thanks for sharing!

WholeHearted Home Judith Kowles said...

I love stopping by to read this series. It is exceptional.

busymomof10 said...

Thank you ladies for taking the time to read and comment! Your kind words are a blessing to me! :)

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