Monday, July 28, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Submissive Wife {Guest Post & Link Up}

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards. 

Since I was on vacation with my family this past week in the mountains of Tennessee, I thought this was a perfect time to share this guest post written by a friend of mine! The amazing thing is it fits in perfectly with my godly wife series, and discusses the quality that the Lord had put on my heart to cover next!  (Isn't our God just amazing like that??)  :)

This week I watched a woman and her young daughter move out of our neighborhood.  My heart sank to see this young mother separating from her husband.. I wondered what had caused this tragedy and quickly realized that the best thing I could do for them was pray for God's presence to be manifested in their lives to help heal their marriage before it was too late.

As I was praying for them, I contemplated how many couples I have seen suffer through divorce. God directed me to meditate on the following verse: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” - Ephesians 5:22-24

Are we really living each day according to this scripture?  I know we have heard it many times -- “submission” -- that sometimes dreaded word.  Some of us first began to truly understand that word when we were saved by the grace of Christ.

It is important to understand this commandment in our homes - first submitting to Christ, then to our husbands. When we submit to Christ and study his word daily, his Spirit will begin to teach us how to honor our husbands. I believe this is one of the most important things you can do to strengthen your marriage.

In honoring your husband, you are directly protecting your family. In one of  Dr. Dobson's books, he pointed out how the state of marriage has declined since the 1950's. Much of our society has embraced the women's liberation movement that encourages women to usurp their husband's authority in the home. This is clearly a result of satan's direct attack on families.

We need to be keenly aware that satan is attacking our marriages every day in an attempt to destroy them. Please hear that again – satan is out to destroy your marriage! It can start out as that little nagging voice in your head “I can not believe my husband did ______”; “It drives me crazy when he  ________”.  Then anger starts to take hold in our hearts. This is where the dangerous process starts.  If we let the anger take root, then the seeds of dissatisfaction will lay the  ground to begin destroying our marriage.  “A wrathful man stirs up strife, But he who is slow to anger allays contention” - Proverbs 15:18.

We can instead choose the godly model of marriage by honoring our husbands and letting them make decisions for our families. We are then giving our husbands the God given authority for our household.  As we relinquish the authority to him, it allows him to be the husband God intended.  Also, pray for your husband each day, that God will help him become a stronger man of God. Our husbands will in turn be edified in our marriages and allowed to stand in their God given authority.  This will strengthen our marriages, families and homes.  

Angela shared about loving her husband during the tough times in this spot last November. God is still teaching and refining her as she walks through the fire. As she continues her desert journey, she is faithfully recording the words that God gives to her, often in the middle of the night. She is not sure if the words which she spills in the moonlight will find their way into a book of their own, or maybe a blog, or if they will stay safely tucked away in a quiet journal.  But wherever He leads, she will follow. 

All of the posts in this series have been designed to help you build your marriage and to be a strong, confident, suitable helpmeet who is an asset to your husband. Use thie list to catch up on any you may have mised.

The Abiding Wife

The Respectful Wife

The Accepting Wife

The Admiring Wife

The Supportive Wife

The Humble Wife

The Grateful Wife

The Joyful Wife

The Content Wife

The Trustworthy Wife

The Kind Wife

The Sympathetic Wife

The Pure Wife

The Serene Wife

The Celebrating Wife

The Wise Wife

The Suitable Helper

The Diligent Wife

The Sensible Wife

The Discreet Wife

The Homeworking Wife, part 1 

The Homeworking Wife, part 2

Your Turn to Share:

I'd love to hear how you have learned to be a submissive wife in a world that encourages women to "rule the roost."  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.

If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!

Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!

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Judith Kowles said...

Elizabeth, thanks for hosting such a wonderful post from your friend and also the linkup party today. I hope you had a wonderful vacation. I love Kentucky and always wanted to go to Tennessee but we only drove through a corner.

Rashel Blank said...

Hi my friend. I've missed linking up with you since I've been without a computer. As always this is post is an excellent reminder to wives! Blessings to you.

emilysestuary said...

Elizabeth, your friends post is great.
Miss you though.
Hope your summer is going well.

Sophia Reed said...

Good post. It is always good to see great article in wives submitting to their husband in a Godly way and bringing a greater understanding for others.

S.L. Payne said...

Thanks for linking up today! I enjoyed this post- submission is something our culture fails to understand because Godly submission is in our best interests when everyone is looking out for each other and seeking to follow God. When we are being selfish, not so much. What submission looks like has so been twisted in our culture and by people looking to exploit others; it is really tragic. Thanks for sharing!
-S.L. Payne,

Erin Slocum said...

Thanks for the link up. Great post too!

Farm School Marm said...

Thank you for the opportunity to link up.

I don't find "submission" as challenging as some do (probably because I have a really incredible husband), but I am really disappointed at how difficult it can be to find godly women at church who model this. I think that women in the Baby Boomer age had so much nonsense fed to them during the feminist movement, that they seem to really struggle with this. Fortunately, for those of us some distance from that original "liberation movement," we have had a chance to digest what was being foisted upon women then and take what is good (and Biblical), and toss out some of the unbiblical stuff!

Farm School Marm said...

Yikes! And I see I double posted the same link. I'm sorry - I thought I canceled the first one in time!

emilysestuary said...

Hey - I did my top ten wifing things today...

I thought you'd like it.

Joe Pote said...

Watching a divorce from a distance, not knowing what has transpired within the marriage, always brings a host of questions. It seems so appears so makes us wonder what we might have done to help...

And too often we assume the divorce was a bad thing...that the best outcome is the continuance of the marriage.

But that's not always the case. Sometimes, divorce is the best and most godly course of action for a believer who finds themself in a marriage to an ungodly spouse.

You might enjoy my recent post on this topic:

And on the topic of submission, I think many churches today have an over-emphasis on wives submitting to husbands. It is equally important that the husband submit to his wife.

As a Christian husband, I regularly and frequently submit to my wife, yielding my will to hers, out of love for her and respect for her opinion. And she does the same for me. Neither of us sees ourself as subserient to to other, and we both are open in expressing disagreement, when appropriate.

My wife's opinion is of great value to me, and I would much rather have her speak up than 'submissively' acquiesce to my preferences.

Blessings to you, as you continue to study the scriptures in pursuit of God's heart!

JES said...

Very good, sound advice... Thank you for sharing this on the Art of Home-Making Mondays!

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