Monday, September 29, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Virtuous Wife {Link up}

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards. 

Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at different characteristics of the godly wife. Last week we took a look at the hospitable wife.  Today I want to conclude this series by considering the virtuous wife.

Proverbs 31:10 says, "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her worth is far above rubies."

From this verse we learn that a truly virtuous woman is not easy to find, but worth searching for!  Her worth to her husband will be more than precious jewels (or a bulging bank account), as she lives her life in loving service and devotion to him, her children, her home, and, even more importantly, her God.  

This is the type of woman that our sons should look for as wives. This is the model for our daughters to strive to emulate, rather than some super model from New York or super star from Hollywood. This is the woman that we are to learn from ourselves, as we seek to live a life of virtue and honor!  

When we come to the end of our lives, the degrees we earned won't matter; the rank we achieved in our careers won't matter; the size of our houses or newness of our cars won't matter; the fancy vacations will be long forgotten.  This is what will really matter:

"Her children arise up, and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain: but a woman who feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands: and let her own works praise her in the gates."  ~ Proverbs 31:28-31

God has given us this picture of the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 so that we might learn from her and strive to be like her, by developing the skills, the character qualities, and the virtues that define her. She illustrates the abundant and fulfilling life that women long for, but try to find in all the wrong places.  

If you want a life that is honoring to God, personally fulfilling, that brings blessing to those you love, and leaves a legacy for those that follow behind, then the "Model P31" is the woman for you to get to know and emulate!

The Virtuous Woman is Known for Her:

1. Faith

The secret of the Virtuous woman is her fear of the Lord. She loves God, seeks His will for her life, and follows His ways. This is the foundation that she builds her life upon, and it stays strong during the good times and the bad. 

2. Service

The Virtuous woman lives her life in service to others.  She's not narcissistic or only focused on herself. She delights in serving the Lord, her husband and her family. She is hospitable, welcoming others into her home, and generous, reaching out to those in need.

3. Industry

The Virtuous woman diligently attends to the needs of her household. She is self-controlled, hard-working and prepares for the future. She governs herself with wisdom, not folly. She wisely uses her time to produce items needed by her family and also items that she can sell for a profit.  

4. Beauty

The Virtuous woman has an inner beauty that comes from her fear of the Lord and her godly character.  This inner beauty enhances her outer beauty, which she does not neglect or over emphasize. 

5. Strength

The Hebrew word translated virtuous here is chayil.  It means strong, mighty, valiant, army.  The Virtuous woman is strong, because her strength comes from the Lord. She knows that she is engaged in a battle with the enemy for the minds and hearts of her children, for her marriage and for her home, so she must be Mighty in God's Spirit.

I think you'll recognize that the many characteristics of the godly wife that we've been exploring here over the past several months are essential elements of being that virtuous wife that is exalted in Scripture.  

Don't become discouraged if you look at the qualities of the Virtuous woman and realize you have a long way to go -- it's a goal that will take a lifetime to reach! When we read the account of the Proverbs 31 woman, I don't believe we are focusing in on one day of her life; rather we see a panaromic view of her life!  With God's help, we can each become more and more like her as we grow in Grace and Strength (chayil).

All of the posts in this series have been designed to help you build your marriage and to be a strong, confident, suitable helpmeet who is an asset to your husband. Use this list to catch up on any posts you may have missed.

The Abiding Wife

The Respectful Wife

The Accepting Wife

The Admiring Wife

The Supportive Wife

The Humble Wife

The Grateful Wife

The Joyful Wife

The Content Wife

The Trustworthy Wife

The Kind Wife

The Sympathetic Wife

The Pure Wife

The Serene Wife

The Celebrating Wife

The Wise Wife

The Wife as a Suitable Helper

The Diligent Wife

The Sensible Wife

The Discreet Wife

The Homeworking Wife, part 1 

The Homeworking Wife, part 2

The Obedient Wife

Understanding Submission vs. Obedience

Ten Traps to Avoid as You Strive to be a Submissive Wife

The Feminine Wife 

The Gracious Wife 

The Good Wife 

The Hospitable Wife

Your Turn to Share:

What areas do you need to work on to be more like the virtuous wife of Proverbs 31 fame?  Are you willing to accept the challenge to make this your goal? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this series! Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.

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I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!

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Beth said...

My oldest son wrote me a note recently that blessed my socks off. He thanked me for some of the characteristics you've mentioned here, Elizabeth. It's hard for me to think that I am a "virtuous wife" but it's great that my son thinks I am! Thanks again for another inspirational post and for hosting. Also, congrats on your blogoversary! What an accomplishment, my friend!

Renee Birchfield said...

I am currently doing a short series on Being a Proverbs 31 wife, and as I'm writing I am finding so many things that I need to work on. I'm only 3 months into being a wife but its clear the areas that are not my strongest points. I enjoy reading your post every week thanks for hosting!

Naomi said...

Elizabeth...I love that you said that Proverbs 31 is not a look into one day of her life but a panoramic view. How true! Thank you for this wonderful series on being a godly wife. I actually had a post to link up this week. :=) Have a blessed week!

emilysestuary said...

I pretty much hyperventilated when you said this was the last post. Sigh. I hope there will be more greatness here on your blog.
I love Mondays here.

Anyway - my post is finally up.
Love and hugs sister,

Tracy Fredrychowski said...

I strive everyday to be this kind of woman. I know I fall short on one of them but with the grace of God he will see me through becoming a better Proverbs 31 Woman. Thanks for sharing this with us!

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