Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Tuesday's Tip: Learn to Embrace Imperfection

Last Monday, in my Marriage Monday post, I talked about the importance of demonstrating hospitality.  One thing that hinders us from opening our homes to others is our desire for perfection. We feel that we have to have the perfect house, with Martha Stewart decor, cleaned to Mr. Clean perfection, and that we must be able to cook like Paula Deen, before we can even think about extending hospitality to others.

The secret to being able to offer hospitality is the same secret that will unlock the door to really enjoying life and living with contentment and joy.  Are you ready for the secret??  Believe it or not, I'm going to share it with you at no extra charge!  ;)

Here's the secret:

We must learn to quit striving for perfection and learn to embrace the messy, imperfect and even broken parts of our lives.

This summer I fell in love with the book, The Nesting Place: It Doesn't Have to be Perfect to be Beautiful, by Myquillyn Smith, aka "the Nester."  It totally inspired me in my home decorating and in my life!

The Nester encourages us to quit holding out for the "perfect house" or waiting until the circumstances are perfect before we really start living.  

I can accept the fact that my house and life and body aren't perfect, because I trust there is a greater purpose. I trust that God knows what he's doing, and I don't have to panic and attempt to make sense of it all. I've given up trying to control our circumstances and instead am determined to create a home wherever we are. and that's made all the difference.  (page 21)

You can accept the fact that your home will be imperfect and that each season of your family's life will bring different kinds of beautiful messes . . . You don't have to get perfect to have a pretty house. Most of us simply need to learn to see the beauty in the imperfect. Because life is gloriously messy. We can find rest in our less than perfect circumstances when we figure out that no amount of striving can create the perfect life we think we are looking for. True rest comes when we realize that we can't get it from trying extra hard. We find rest when we give up.  (page 56)

Our lives are speeding by; our children are growing up; we are missing "the best years of our lives" waiting for everything to be "perfect."  (Perfection is a mirage that we will never reach!) So, I encourage you to join me in taking that first difficult step in accepting your life, your house, your husband, your children such as they are right now!  Embrace the imperfect and make the best of it.  Give your broken pieces to God and let Him rebuild and restore and make your life Beautiful!


Michelle Caskey said...

Great post! I loved it when you said "perfection is a mirage that we will never reach." You're right! I struggle with this. It's much easier to be real with people when they are also real with us. This is definitely something I'm working on doing. Thanks for sharing!

Abi Craig said...

Thanks for the reminder to enjoy the imperfect blessings we have rather than strive after the things we don't have and only assume will be "perfect."

Crystal Green said...

You're so right. I have been grasping a hold of my time spent with my kids more and more with each passing day. I'm making more time for them and less time for other things that may/may not make a positive difference in our lives. I'd rather know that I'm making the time to have a positive difference on their lives verses having the perfect home, blog, or anything else right now.

This is such a great reminder and such a great way of telling us to make to enjoy being with others more.

Mama Fry said...

Thank you.

Kathryn Shirey said...

I love this! Our home will never be perfect. Our home will never be like someone else's - especially when that someone else is in a different season of life or different circumstances. We need to get okay with our today and live boldly into it - mess and all!

Shelly said...

Great post! This makes me think of a young woman I knew years ago. She openly admitted that she just wasn't good at cooking, but she loved to be hospitable. She would serve Banquet fried chicken along with a large serving of loving hospitality. Everyone always felt so welcome and loved at her home. She accentuated her gifts and found ways to work with her limitations. I hope you're having a great weekend. :) Hugs!!!

Pat Fenner said...

We'll be featuring your tip at Coffee and Conversation tomorrow. :) Thanks for sharing this post with us!

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