Last Monday, in my Marriage Monday post, I talked about the importance of demonstrating hospitality. One thing that hinders us from opening our homes to others is our desire for perfection. We feel that we have to have the perfect house, with Martha Stewart decor, cleaned to Mr. Clean perfection, and that we must be able to cook like Paula Deen, before we can even think about extending hospitality to others.
The secret to being able to offer hospitality is the same secret that will unlock the door to really enjoying life and living with contentment and joy. Are you ready for the secret?? Believe it or not, I'm going to share it with you at no extra charge! ;)
Here's the secret:
We must learn to quit striving for perfection and learn to embrace the messy, imperfect and even broken parts of our lives.
This summer I fell in love with the book, The Nesting Place: It Doesn't Have to be Perfect to be Beautiful, by Myquillyn Smith, aka "the Nester." It totally inspired me in my home decorating and in my life!
The Nester encourages us to quit holding out for the "perfect house" or waiting until the circumstances are perfect before we really start living.
I can accept the fact that my house and life and body aren't perfect, because I trust there is a greater purpose. I trust that God knows what he's doing, and I don't have to panic and attempt to make sense of it all. I've given up trying to control our circumstances and instead am determined to create a home wherever we are. and that's made all the difference. (page 21)
You can accept the fact that your home will be imperfect and that each season of your family's life will bring different kinds of beautiful messes . . . You don't have to get perfect to have a pretty house. Most of us simply need to learn to see the beauty in the imperfect. Because life is gloriously messy. We can find rest in our less than perfect circumstances when we figure out that no amount of striving can create the perfect life we think we are looking for. True rest comes when we realize that we can't get it from trying extra hard. We find rest when we give up. (page 56)
Our lives are speeding by; our children are growing up; we are missing "the best years of our lives" waiting for everything to be "perfect." (Perfection is a mirage that we will never reach!) So, I encourage you to join me in taking that first difficult step in accepting your life, your house, your husband, your children such as they are right now! Embrace the imperfect and make the best of it. Give your broken pieces to God and let Him rebuild and restore and make your life Beautiful!