Monday, October 27, 2014

Marriage Monday: How Do You Treat Your Husband? {Link up}

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards. 

I want to ask you something -- how did you treat your husband this past weekend?  Take a minute to think about it . . . 

Yesterday our pastor shared a message on how we should treat one another as Christians.  After compiling all of the scriptures that contained the phrase "one another," this was the list he gave us:

  • Prefer one another
  • Receive one another
  • Admonish one another
  • Encourage one another
  • Greet one another
  • Serve one another
  • Forebear (or put up with) with one another 
  • Be kind to one another
  • Forgive one another
  • Comfort one another
  • Edify one another
  • Exhort one another
  • Consider one another
  • Don't judge (or look down on) one another
  • Love one another

As I was thinking about his message, I thought about how we should not only be treating other people this way, but this describes how we should be treating our people.  You know, our own husband and our own children and our own extended family members.

Learning to live the Christian life starts in our own homes and moves out into our neighborhoods, and radiates into our communities, and eventually reaches into the darkest corners of the world.

Some Christians are near-sighted -- selfishly focusing on themselves and their own families and ignoring the needs of the world around them.  However, other Christians are far-sighted -- focusing on the needs in their communities or on the other side of the world and looking over the glaring needs right in their own homes.

We need to ask God for "corrective lenses" so we can have 20-20 vision to see the needs for love and acceptance and hope and comfort and sustenance that are both far away and right under noses.  Then we need to allow the love of Christ to fill us and overflow out of our hearts into the lives all around us, causing us to bless and encourage others.

If we don't treat others with love, the love of God is not in us!! 

"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God, and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love."  ~ 1 John 4:7-8

How should we love?  

See the list above for starters.  Then check out 1 Corinthians 13.

Who should we love?  

Our husbands and children (even though they're not perfect) and our nosy neighbors and difficult relatives and cranky co-workers and belligerent bosses and the person in our pew and the man who lives under the bridge and the repulsive person in Wal-mart.

Why should we love?

"In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another."  ~ 1 John 4:9-11 

So, I ask you again -- how did you treat your husband this past weekend?  Note, I didn't ask how he treated you.  Christ loved us while we were yet sinners, and we are to love with that same kind of unconditional love!

May God give us the grace to love our husbands, our children, our neighbors, our world!  May we be known for the way we love . . . 

Your Turn to Share:

If you are a Believer, how does the love of Christ spill out of your heart and into the lives of those around you?  Do you love your husband with God's amazing love??  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.

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Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!

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Blogs I link up with from week to week:

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Strangers and Pilgrims on Earth


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     Graced Simplicity

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Cheryl said...

I loved this post! I so agree that many times we can be so far-sighted and we can treat complete strangers with more love, tenderness, and respect than we treat our own husbands and children Truly, they deserve and should get the best part of us every day of our lives. God is SO good to have blessed us with them, and they are a precious treasure.

Beth said...

Hey there, Elizabeth. I tried to comment earlier and clicked the submit button but it didn't show up here. I thought maybe you needed to moderate it, but I'm wondering now if it just chewed my comment up and spit it out! Lol! Thanks for the link up and I always love the important challenges you give us each week!

Aimee said...

A great post! It is so important to monitor how we treat our men! There is enough in this world that will tear them down, we need to be the ones who build them up!

Andrew said...

Good post. This is my first visit, and came via Kim Adams Morgan's blog.

There's a Vietnamese proverb that says we should treat spouses like honored guests in our house.

It makes sense; they are guests, for have we not invited them into our lives? And do we not thus owe them the same courtesy and consideration that is due anyone who accepts our invitation?

One might say that bad behavior can nullify the obligation, but that's not so; there is never an excuse for ungentlemanly behavior. One may at times have to take a firm line, but it should always be taken in polite consideration for the other person's feelings.

I try to follow this rule; perhaps being Asian makes it easier...maybe it's in my DNA.

Andrew said...

Yeah, and I linked back to your site through mine - hope some people come your way.

emilysestuary said...

Always love your posts.
Thanks sweet lady!

JES said...

You shared some great points. When we are to love one another, it most certainly means our spouse! Oftentimes we can be cranky to our loved ones and friendly to strangers. That is definitely not God's way. In fact, our own households are our ministry and we need to work harder in that field. Thanks for sharing this on the Art of Home-Making Mondays!

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