Monday, November 3, 2014

Marriage Monday: Do You Serve or Expect to be Served? {Link up}





Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  If you missed last week's post, you can read it here.

I want you to think about something for a minute -- in general, do you seek to be served by others or do you seek to serve?  What about in your home and your marriage -- Do you seek to serve your husband or do you expect him to serve you??


Jesus said:

" . . . but whoever desires to become great among you, let him be your servant. And whoever desires to be first among you, let him be your slave— just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many."  ~ Matthew 20:26-28 NKJV

We live in a society that esteems those who are wealthy enough to have people serving them. Yet, as Believers in Jesus, our real citizenship is in heaven! (Philippians 3:20) So, we should be living according to the laws of the kingdom of God!  In God's economy, the greatest of all is the servant of all!!

Let's bring this down on a practical level.  Does this mean we should never let others serve us?  No, but it means we should not expect to be served.  We should absolutely not consider ourselves better than others and above doing menial tasks!  And we should express true gratefulness to those who do serve us in any way!

My husband is a great example of this!  Even though he is a man in authority with many people working under him, he never considers himself better than others.  He is not above doing menial tasks.  I've known him to vacuum his office building, clean the bathrooms, and take out the trash when necessary. He recently picked up trash on the beach for several hours . . . He often helps people move.  He is a man who always has his eyes and ears open to the needs of those around him and who has hands ready to serve others!

What is your attitude about serving or being served in your home?  Many times when I overhear other women talking, it seems that they think their husbands are there to serve them!  They expect their husbands to step in the door from work and immediately take over with the kids and deal with the messes from the day while they go shopping with friends or go take a bubble bath or something.  Now, it's totally awesome if you have a husband that does that!  But what if you don't?  Let me tell you something -- Expecting to be served is a recipe for divorce!!

I'm encouraging you to change your focus to how you can serve your husband!  

If you quit expecting your husband to serve you, when he does, you are free to be delighted and grateful!  Otherwise, no matter how much he does, he will never quite live up to your expectations, and you will always be discontented and resentful!!  You will become a bitter and contentious woman!  :(

"Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman." ~ Proverbs 21:19

Perhaps JFK won't mind if I borrow his famous words:

Ask not how your husband can serve you, but how you can serve your husband!


I have to admit that in our home, my husband and I sometimes argue over who will get up at the crack of dawn and take someone to work -- not because we want the other one to do the hard task, but because we both want to serve the other one and make their life easier.  Isn't that what marriage should be like -- each seeking to outserve the other??



Your Turn to Share:

How can you change your focus from being served to serving? I'd love to hear how this simple attitude switch affects your marriage!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



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6 comments:

Beth said...

Humility is an intriguing subject for me, Elizabeth. I've been thinking about it a lot over the past year, not to mention that serving and humility were the topics my pastor spoke on this past weekend. So your timing is perfect! I don't really have any earth shattering answers to your question. But I suppose I would say that I should "serve as unto the Lord" and that would change my focus from self-preoccupation to humility and service. Thanks so much for hosting, my friend!

Joyfull said...

Loved your post today! This is a huge area for me, the blessings of humility and serving others are abundant, but it truly is a constant struggle and battle. Must continue to choose wisely and let the grace of God fill and extend.

Dianne Thornton said...

I think we all need to be reminded to serve others--especially when we are caught up in busy-ness. Sometimes I am so busy "serving my family" (aka "caught up in my own life") that I'm not always aware of others around me who are also in need. When I see others around me serving them, it's a gut-check ... "oops ... what am i missing?" And what was I missing? The JOY of serving others. Thanks for this great reminder!

Susie Jax said...

I totally agree with you on this. I do at times struggle and it is good to read it and get reminded!! God bless you! Found you via the homemaking party!

JES said...

This took me some time to figure out but once I did, it was such a blessing! And it was interesting that the more I served my husband, the more he had the desire to treat me like royalty in return. God's way of marriage is beautiful! Thank you for sharing on the Art of Home-Making Mondays.

Rashel Blank said...

I've been away from the blogging world for awhile but I so enjoyed being back and reading this post. An awesome reminder, as always.
Blessjngs!

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