Monday, November 17, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Secret Ingredient to a Satisfying Marriage {Link up}

Marriage Mondays"

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards. If you missed last week's post, you can read it here.

During this Very Busy Holiday Season (which I simply cannot believe is here again!), I've decided to make my to-do list a bit more manageable by revisiting some of my earlier Marriage Monday posts.  So, here is one of my favorites from the archives:

A few weeks ago, while in South Carolina helping my parents, I sat down with my Mom's Recipe book and started copying some of her recipes that I didn't already have.  While doing this, an interesting detail caught my eye.  Many of her recipes had notes in parentheses or in the margins saying things like, "Dave prefers less sour cream."  "Dave much prefers noodles to rice."  "This wasn't Dave's favorite."

These little notes stood out to me, because they clearly illustrated how my Mom had adapted her cooking through the years to please her husband.  It also convicted me of how many times I expect my husband to eat food the way I like it prepared, instead of going out of my way to prepare food to his liking.  Ouch!

My Mom applied the truths of Ephesians 5:22 in her marriage, from the big decisions of life right down to the dinner table.

"Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as a service to the Lord."  (Amplified version)

I think this may illustrate why my parents recently celebrated 52 years of marriage and why my Dad came to truly know the Lord after rejecting Him for so many years.

"In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands (subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them) so that even if any do not obey the Word (of God), they may be won over not by discussion but by the (godly) lives of their wives." ~ 1 Peter 3:1 (Amplified version)

Most modern women reject these biblical truths as "old-fashioned," "out-dated," "oppressive to women," and "utterly ridiculous."  Yet, I don't see many of the women who angrily and boldly express these views in happy marriages.  Yes, there are some exceptions.  But God's ways work!  His Word is Timeless and True in every generation!

I observe many young women entering into marriage with the thought that "he will make me happy."  Such a marriage will be rocky from the start!  In reality, marriage involves dying to self and living to make the other person happy.  That is the secret ingredient in the recipe for a long lasting, satisfying marriage.

My precious parents, May 2010

Your Turn to Share:

How have you learned to adapt to your husband in the little things as well as the big things?  Do you agree that dying to self and learning to please your husband above yourself is the secret ingredient to a successful marriage?  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged!  You may also email me at if you wish to sare a private testimony or a guest post.

If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!

Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!

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Blogs I link up with from week to week:

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     Graced Simplicity

Hearts for Home Blog Hop   Hope In Every Season       Faith Along the Way


Julie Filter said...

Thanks for the opportunity to share each week through this link up! Great lessons need an audience =0) Thanks for sharing your heart on the blog. ~Shalom!

busymomof10 said...

Thank you Julie! Blessings to you!!

LeeAnn Taylor said...

So sorry, I accidentally linked up twice!

busymomof10 said...

No Problem! :)

Beth said...

I got to the party a little late, Elizabeth! I've had internet issues all day on top of a super busy day, but I'm glad I could finally make it! I agree that making service and submitting our will and desires for the sake of our marriages is the best and really only way to have a meaningful and loving marriage. Great thoughts and thanks for the linkup!

emilysestuary said...

Hey Elizabeth.
I'm so glad you are blessed & busy.
I am too. Totally understand.
I mentioned you today.
Love and hugs,

JES said...

What a beautiful example!

Thank you for sharing your encouraging posts on the Art of Home-Making Mondays each week. What a blessing to us!

Have a lovely weekend of faith, family, food and fellowship :)

Judith Kowles said...

I loved this post. I love the picture of your parents. Precious. I try to do even just the one thing that my husband asks even when it seems hard. He is tired and doesn't always have the energy at the end of a work day.

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