Monday, June 30, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Discreet Wife {link up}





Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.

Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at various characteristics of the godly wife.  Last week I focused on the sensible or sober-minded wife, who is the match of every circumstance she finds herself in. Today I'm going to explore the discreet wife.

Titus 2:4-5 reads:

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.


A discreet wife is one who considers the effect that her attitude and actions will have on others.  She is self-controlled and exercises wisdom, sound judgment, and good sense.  She is careful, courteous and considerate of others, treating them as she would want to be treated herself.

I was working on this post very early this morning, when I had to leave to take my son to work. It was his first time behind the wheel for the early morning commute and I was instructing him all along the way about the merits of defensive driving. It is crucial if you want to arrive safely at your destination that you become aware of what other cars are doing and that you anticipate the actions of other drivers. I advised him that when completing certain maneuvers, such as turning left, that he needs to be aware of not only the oncoming cars, but also the cars behind him and whether they are paying attention.  I also encouraged him in courteous driving habits.

Driving back alone, I pondered how much that driving lesson applied to the discreet wife.  

A discreet wife will be conscious of how her actions affect those in her home, others that she interacts with in her church and community, and those who observe her life from afar. She will also be aware of how her actions affect those coming behind . . . her own children and the younger generations of girls who are learning from her example.

I find that many young women long to be beautiful.  They may spend hours each day bathing, choosing stylish clothes, fixing their hair, applying make up, polishing their nails, applying their favorite scents from Bath and BodyWorks, working out to perfect their figures, and so on.  Yet, they spend very little time developing character qualities, such as discretion, that define true and lasting beauty.  

Have you ever seen a gorgeous woman and admired her beauty, only to have that ruined when she puts an ugly cigarette between her pretty, pink lips, or lets out a string of curse words, or harshly berates her husband or children? If so, then you understand the meaning of this verse: 

"As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion." (Proverbs 11:22)

A discreet woman carefully considers her actions and chooses her words cautiously.  She doesn't try to manipulate and control others, but she does maintain control over herself.  

One of my favorite verses about discretion is this one:

"The discretion of a man  [woman] deferreth his [her] anger; and it is his [her] glory to pass over a transgression." (Proverbs 19:11)

A discreet wife will overlook her husband's faults (Not talking about major sins here.) and will respond to difficult situations with self-control, good sense, and wisdom.  Are you a discreet wife??



All of the posts in this series have been designed to help you build your marriage and to be a strong, confident, suitable helpmeet who is an asset to your husband. Which one was your favorite?  



The Abiding Wife

The Respectful Wife

The Accepting Wife

The Admiring Wife

The Supportive Wife

The Humble Wife

The Grateful Wife

The Joyful Wife

The Content Wife

The Trustworthy Wife

The Kind Wife

The Sympathetic Wife

The Pure Wife

The Serene Wife

The Celebrating Wife

The Wise Wife

The Suitable Helper

The Diligent Wife

The Sensible Wife



Your Turn to Share:



I'd love to hear a testimony of how you are learning to be a woman of discretion.  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony.



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Friday, June 27, 2014

From my Front Porch ~ June 27, 2014




Welcome back to my weekly series, From my Front Porch, where I share updates from my home and family. My hope is that you'll fix yourself a cup of coffee or tea and imagine us sitting together on my front porch, chatting about life and catching up on the latest news!  I hope you'll join me each Friday on My Front Porch!  







I had to rush through our visit last week to get ready for some real life visitors to my front porch!  My Brazilian "sister" Neide, her sister Daria, and Daria's daughter and boyfriend stopped by to see me on their way home from Florida!  (They all live in the US nowadays.)





Wondering how I have a Brazilian sister? This is the scoop -- Neide lived with us during my senior year of high school as an "exchange student" from Brazil. Unfortunately for me, she spoke Portugese and I was a student of Spanish! But fortunately for me, she became a life long friend!  :)

That was 34 years ago, folks!  Can you believe it??  If you'd like to see some pictures of us back in 1979 and 1980 when Neide lived with me and my parents, click HERE.

Thanks to Facebook, email, blogs, and Skype, we've been able to reconnect in recent years!  :)





While Neide was here, I introduced her to the Lilla Rose flexi clip!  :)  She and her sister both fell in love with this amazing hair clip!  (Have you tried one yet??)  Look how great the flexi looks in her hair!






It has been another busy week here!  (I keep waiting for life to slow down!)  VBS every night at church has kept us hopping!  The fact is, almost every day I spend at least three hours in the car taking my sons to work and picking them up!!!!  I've also been trying to be more diligent about teaching Chris and Hannah to drive.  So, I've been spending a lot of time in the car this summer! I must admit that it is more fun for all concerned now that we have this cool ride!!  :)



A 1999 VW Cabrio, which we named "Rio!"  :)  Believe me, Rio is a lot more fun to drive than the White Elephant!!  (And way easier for the new drivers to learn on!!)

Now I'm wondering -- do you name your cars too??  ;)

What's new at your house?  I'd love to hear about your week!









Thanks for stopping by my front porch for a visit! I'd love for you to take a moment to "sign my guest book" (leave a comment!) so I can know that you stopped by and enjoyed your visit!  Please join me again next Friday on my front porch!  


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Thursday, June 26, 2014

Get Your Red, White and Blue On!!

Can you believe July is almost here? Where has this year gone? I can't believe it's almost half over already!

With July right around the corner, we are starting to think about our church's annual July 4th Picnic and talking about what red, white, and blue dessert we will make and whether we will make patriotic T-shirts or flip-flips again this year . . . 

Fortunately, Lilla Rose has introduced an adorable patriotic flexi clip for July, so we won't have to worry about what to do with our hair!  :)  They even released it early so we can get it in time for Independence Day!  And, on top of that, they've included it in the summer sale!   :)



Aren't those little bobbies adorable too??   Click HERE to shop my Lilla Rose website.

How do you celebrate the 4th of July??





Monday, June 23, 2014

Marriage Monday: The Sensible Wife {Link up}






Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards!

Since the beginning of the year we've been looking at various characteristics of the godly wife.  Today I want to take a look at the sensible or sober-minded wife.

Titus 2:4-5 reads:

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.



Interestingly, the words translated teach, sober, and discreet are all the same Greek word -- sophronizo.

Sophronizo means:
     to restore one to his senses
     to moderate, control, curb, disciple
     to hold one to his duty
     to admonish, to exhort earnestly
     to be of sound mind, sober-minded


Other versions of the Bible translate this word as sensible, self-controlled, or discreet.

I love what Debi Pearl has to say about this trait in Created to be His Help Meet:  


A sober wife is one who faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual, with time to do as she pleases. She knows that marriage is a joyous, but also a grave responsibility. She cannot be flighty and frivolous. She makes a commitment to be the best wife, mother and manager of the home that anyone could be. She becomes the acting CEO of a great enterprise of which her husband is the owner.

Our American culture over the past 50 or so years has devalued the roles of wife, mother and homemaker to the point that the average woman of today thinks it is a no-brainer job that requires no training, little skill or preparation, and hardly any intelligence or creativity.  That's about as far from the truth as the sun is from the earth!  It's also why so many women experience great difficulty after the births of their babies and soon decide "they aren't cut out to be mothers and certainly not stay-at-home mothers!"

There is just as much skill required to properly manage a home and family and to be a wise and efficient help meet as there is to managing a corporation!  "A sober wife is one who considers her options, makes her plans, and follows through in order to avoid the confusion of mismanagement."  (Debi Pearl)

Our most basic responsibilities as help meets include serving nutritious meals at regularly scheduled times, maintaining a clean, orderly home, cultivating a 
peaceful, loving atmosphere in the home, and meeting our husband's and children's physical and emotional needs.  In addition, we are the manager of the schedule and the coordinator of all family activities.  It's a Demanding Job . . . and not one that should be taken lightly.

Most women struggle with the basics mentioned above!  Part of being a sober-minded or sensible wife is learning to simplify our lives, homes, routines and meals to make things manageable, learning to plan and prepare ahead, and developing crucial time and home management skills. To be successful, we must be willing to acquire needed skills, invest in personal development, work on our self-control and diligence, improve our attitudes, and brainstorm creative ways to overcome obstacles.  Debi Pearl asserts: "A sober wife makes herself the match of every circumstance."

She gives the illustration of learning to put supper in the crock pot early in the day, so dinner is ready in spite of a fussy baby, sick children, or other unexpected interruptions in our day.  

While I often fail at this, I'm pleased that I made myself a match for my circumstances this past weekend by "thinking outside the box."  Our cooktop is on the blink (literally as it blinks an error message!) and my husband assumed I wouldn't be able to make him his standard breakfast of fried eggs. Wrong!  Pancake griddle to the rescue!!  ;)




Being a sensible, sober-minded, strong, and competent help meet is no easy job!  But God has called us to this task and He will enable us if we rely on Him!

I want to end with another great quote from Debi Pearl:


A wise woman doesn't ever allow herself to be a liability, but strives to always be an asset to the marriage. She looks for ways to make, save, and use money wisely. Her husband knows he is a richer man because she is his wife.


Honestly ask yourself -- Are you an asset or a liability to your husband? 

Disclaimer: I realize some women are hindered from performing the responsibilities of a help meet due to illness or disability. I do not wish to increase your feelings of guilt or disappointment.  Just know that you can still be an asset by maintaining a cheerful disposition, a posture of trust in the Lord, and by spending much time in prayer for your family.  

All of the posts in this series have been designed to help you build your marriage and to be a strong, confident, suitable helpmeet who is an asset to your husband. Which one was your favorite?  



The Abiding Wife

The Respectful Wife

The Accepting Wife

The Admiring Wife

The Supportive Wife

The Humble Wife

The Grateful Wife

The Joyful Wife

The Content Wife

The Trustworthy Wife

The Kind Wife

The Sympathetic Wife

The Pure Wife

The Serene Wife

The Celebrating Wife

The Wise Wife

The Suitable Helper

The Diligent Wife




Your Turn to Share:



I'd love to hear how you are learning to be a sober-minded, sensible, self-controlled wife. Honestly, are you an asset or a liability to your husband?? Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony.



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