Many have messaged me to let me know that you've missed my marriage posts, so I'm trying to get back in the groove here! I was sidelined by computer problems and the busyness of the holidays back in December, and thought I'd be back to regular blogging come January. I had no idea how busy January would be with my youngest 3 kids all playing basketball! January has been (and continues to be) full of daily practices and games!
We had games every night last week and that's how the rest of January will play out! I do enjoy a good basketball game, and love cheering for my two younger kids, who are playing on rec league teams, and for 16-year-old Luke, who is playing on a Varsity Christian school team, but it has made it hard to get the ball rolling again here on my blog!
Since I hear basketballs bouncing and whistles blowing in my brain, I've come up with a basketball analogy for today's marriage post! I hope you enjoy it! :)
First of all, it should be obvious that in the "basketball game" of marriage that the husband and wife are playing on the same team! Yet, it seems that many couples I observe have suited up in different uniforms and are playing on opposing teams. I see them trying to outmaneuver one another, attempting to score more points than the other, and even committing fouls against one another! Unfortunately, it's often the children who end up playing the role of referee in such games.
Believe me, there is no winner in such a contest!
Here are a few rules from the "Official Rule Book" for the couple who wants to create a winning team!
1. Play on the Same Team
It would help to start off wearing the same "uniform" and to make sure you are both wearing the same team name. (I don't mean to offend, but when a couple marries and the wife refuses to wear the team name of her husband, I see trouble ahead.)
To create a winning team, you've got to make sure you are playing on the same team! Don't bounce the ball off your own foot! Make sure you are working together and shooting at the same goal! Work hard to build team spirit and unity!
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. ~ Genesis 2:24
2. Follow the Point Guard
A basketball team always has a point guard - this is the player who helps bring the ball down and then calls the play. Imagine how ridiculous it would be if another teammate refused to play a subordinate role and insisted on calling his/her own play! The team would be forced into a position of choosing which one to listen to, and would be torn apart and become totally ineffective!
The whole idea of a team is that one player calls the play (after getting a word from the Coach) and then everyone on the team works together performing their unique roles to make that play successful. When a husband calls the play, and the wife and children work together to run the play, you end up with a winning marriage/family!
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. ~ Ephesians 5:22
3. Work together as a Team
Many teams have a BH, otherwise known as a "ball hog!" This is the person that wants all the glory for himself, and dribbles down and attempts to shoot a 3-pointer time after time.
A successful team works together, passing the ball around, looking for the person who is open and has the best chance of scoring.
A successful marriage involves a couple who works together to reach a goal, incorporating the children as they become old enough to be a part of the team. Working together, they are able to accomplish their goals.
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. ~ Philippians 2:3-4
4. Bond as a Team
A good team encourages and supports one another, helping the weaker players become stronger. Tearing down one another does nothing but destroy the spirit of the team.
Teams win together and lose together. When one person lets down the team, the whole team suffers. That's why entire teams run "suicides" together when one team member is late for practice, doesn't come to a practice or game, or otherwise causes harm to the team.
A successful couple and family encourages and builds up one another, supporting each other through the triumphs and trials of life. They recognize that marriage and family life is a "team sport" and that creating a unified team is the only way to victory!
Fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. ~ Philippians 2:2
Are you and your husband a winning team??
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