Monday, February 2, 2015

Marriage Monday: Aspiring to Become a Model P31 {Link up}

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards. 

If you missed last week's post, you may want to click over and read it.  I shared a valuable guest post from a lovely newlywed on the hardest lesson she had to learn as a new wife!

Today I want to introduce a new series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. Often men talk about models of cars they admire and long to possess. You may hear them kick around terms like F15, MX-5, Z4, or 280Z.  So, we are going to kick around our own model number -- P31!  That's going to be our code name for the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31, which I hope we are all aspiring to become!  :)

Wait! Don't roll your eyes or close your browser! I know it seems that the Proverbs 31 woman is too perfect and too out of reach for the average woman today!  But, I want to show you that it is possible with God's help for each of us to become a Model P31! 

Perhaps it will help if you realize that it wasn't a man who gave us this description of the ideal wife -- it was a woman! This woman was the wise mother of a young prince who would one day be king!  After teaching him some important lessons about leadership in verses 1-9, she taught him the characteristics of the type of wife he should seek in verses 10-31. Because he was still a lad, she organized the list of qualities to look for in a wife into an acrostic poem based on the Hebrew alphabet. That means that each line of this section of Scripture begins with one of the 22 consecutive letters of the Hebrew alphabet. This format made it easier to memorize and recite these instructions.  So, in other words, what we have here are the ABC's of Godly Womanhood!

While the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 may seem larger than life and impossible to live out, God made sure that the Scriptures prove otherwise.  First of all, we have a real life example of the virtuous woman in Ruth (Ruth 3:11).  Secondly, we are told that a virtuous woman is a crown to her husband (Proverbs 12:4), and that many daughters have lived virtuously (Proverbs 31:29). So, we can be assured that the virtuous life of the Model P31 is not a photo-shopped image that we can never reach, but a real life goal to shoot for!

Perhaps the secret to understanding this excellent wife is that realizing while our day to day lives may not look exactly like hers, we can all learn from her spiritual and practical wisdom and her strength of character.  It's not so much what she does, but who she is!

There is no need to feel defeated when we look at the description of her life in this passage, because this is not a page torn out of her planner!  Most certainly this was not a description of one day's activity, but  more an overview of her life through many seasons.  I love what Edith Schaeffer says about the Proverbs 31 woman, "Certainly all the admirable things written about this woman did not take place in one year. It seems to me it is a summary of the great diversity of accomplishments and results of her work and imagination and talents over a long period of time." (from Common Sense Christian Living, by Edith Schaeffer)

Hopefully, this introduction to the virtuous wife has reassured you that you (yes, you!) can become a woman of excellence and virtue, just like the highly esteemed woman of Proverbs 31!  Please join me each Monday for the next 22 weeks as we examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we, too, can become a Model P31!

Your Turn to Share:

Are you intimidated by the virtuous wife of Proverbs 31?  What about her scares you?  Are you willing to put these fears and preconceived ideas behind and aspire to become a P31?  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.

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Cheryl Long said...

Oh how timely! Ten year old Destiny and I just began a Proverbs 31 study this very morning. I'll be following along!

busymomof10 said...

Oh how exciting, Cheryl! Don't you love how the Lord works? I can't wait to see the insights you will bring to the table each week! :)

homesweetgrown said...

I like how you said that its not what she does but who she is. I know so many times, I get that wrong. I loose perspective and I begin to believe that I am valued by what I accomplish rather than resting in the finished work of Jesus.

While, I love reading about the P31 women and have longed to be one, I have often times felt defeated by her.

It is great that we have the promise that He will finish the work that He began in us until the day of Christ Jesus.

I am looking forward to reading your series.

ourhomemarysmantle said...

Love it!
We should always strive to be better women, mothers, friends, wives.

Southern Lady said...

Proverbs 31 is one of my favorite passages!

busymomof10 said...

I've always loved reading, pondering and learning from the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31. I'm looking forward to digging in a bit deeper for this series!

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