Monday, June 22, 2015

Marriage Monday: Her Clothing is Silk and Purple {Link up}

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards. 

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. 
~ Proverbs 31:22

One thing I love about this passage is how it demonstrates that our Model P31 first saw to it that her family was prepared for winter and clothed in scarlet, and then she turned her attention to herself and her home furnishings. She wasn't all about herself -- making sure she had what she wanted and "deserved" first and foremost, nor did she neglect herself and go around like a "martyr" dressing in rags while her family was dressed in scarlet.  She achieved one of the most difficult things in the Christian life -- balance!  

As a woman of dignity and honor, and one who was obviously well off, she was dressed appropriately for her station in life.  She also dressed in such a way as to bring honor to her husband, who was a leader in their community (as we will see in the next verse).  Furthermore, her outer adornment was an accurate reflection of her inner character. (1 Peter 3:3-4)

The position our husband holds in life does affect the way we dress.  The wife of a college president, US senator, or state governor, for example, would have different wardrobe needs than the wife of a farmer, mechanic or factory worker.  One is not better than the other -- God needs faithful representatives in all walks of life!  

The primary thing for a woman to remember is that her attire should be modest, clean and neat, appropriate to the occasion, within her means, and a reflection of her character. While the Bible condemns ostentatious and immodest dressing, we can deduct from this passage that wearing attractive, appropriate, colorful, and well-constructed clothing is praiseworthy!  :)

The virtuous woman not only adorns herself attractively and appropriately, she also furnishes and decorates her house in the same manner.  The "coverings of tapestry" actually refer to her household decor, as is evident from reading this verse in the Amplified Bible:

She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry. Her clothing is of linen, pure and fine, and of purple [such as that of which the clothing of the priests and the hallowed cloths of the temple were made]. ~ Proverbs 31:22 (Amplified)

God has put the natural desire into a woman to make her house into a home.  As long as it is not overdone, there is nothing wrong with this!  It is part of the woman's role as keeper of the home to create an inviting, pleasant home that is welcoming to her family, her friends and to those whom she ministers to.

What if her husband can't afford much of a house? What if she lives in a camper or a makeshift shelter? The queen of the home may not be able to determine the type of "castle" she lives in, and it may resemble a shack more than a castle, but she is still in charge of making it beautiful and fit for her "king!"  :)  This may sound impossible, but did you know that in most cases, the woman controls whether the house is clean and organized and whether it is characterized by an atmosphere of contentment, peace, love and joy?  As much as we are able, we as women should use our creativity and love of beauty to add little personal, lovely touches to our place of residence, even just a Mason jar of wildflowers on the table.  And above all, our heart attitude and words should make it a lovely home to live in!!  

And what if money is no object?  Then it is good to remember that our goal is not to create homes that are showplaces!  We don't want to impress others -- we want to minister to others!  Our goal should be to create a home that is comfortable and cozy, a haven from the outside world, a place to be encouraged to dream and grow, and a place where all are loved unconditionally while they are growing into who they are meant to be.  

Especially for Single P31s:

You may not yet have responsibility for your own home, but you can cultivate beauty in your domain, no matter how small.  Your room, your apartment, your cubicle at work can be neat, orderly, and inviting.  Your attitude can be positive and nurturing.  You can also dress in a matter that reflects godliness and propriety.  Heart check:  Ask yourself: Am I dressing to impress others or to draw undue attention to myself?  Or am I dressing in a way that reflects well on my earthly father and my heavenly father and represents the character of a godly woman?

Also worthy of noting is that the P31 "maketh herself" these adornments for her home and body. While making your own clothing, curtains or bedspreads is certainly not a requirement for being a godly woman, it is a skill that you might want to consider cultivating as it will allow you to create beautiful and affordable items for yourself, your home, and possibly customers in your future. 

Project P31, Mission #12:

How are you doing on your homework assignments each week??  Are you ready for a new assignment?  This week's homework has two parts -- and they may take some time to complete, but will be well worth your investment!

1. Take stock of your wardrobe and get rid of anything that doesn't fit your body, your testimony, or your station in life.  If it looks cheap, is that really appropriate for a daughter of the King?  Remember, your clothing should not be used to "showcase your goods."  Nor, should it be used to hide that you are a woman!  God created you as a woman, not a man!  There should be a difference in how you dress. Above all, your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and should be adorned appropriately!  If you think God doesn't care how it is adorned, spend some time in the Old Testament reading all of the detailed instructions about the temple!  It was not just "thrown together!"  God cared about every detail of the temple!

2. Take a look around your house as if it were your first time there. Does it reflect the beauty and orderliness of your Creator? Does it feel comfortable and inviting?  Does it feel peaceful or chaotic?  Begin to make a list of things that need to be cleaned, reorganized, replaced, or refurbished.  Don't worry about a lack of resources.  Start praying and waiting patiently and you may be astonished with how God provides exactly what you need in His timing.

Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.

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Melanie Redd said...

This is a great post about marriage and about our behavior as wives. Thanks for sharing these ideas and thoughts today.

I'm glad to find your site, and I hope to stop by again soon.


busymomof10 said...

Thank you Melanie! :)

Deborah Will said...

Great, great post. Love how you took it from clothes to the home and also how you included those single P31 ladies. Your neighbor today on Titus 2.

Elizabeth said...

Thank you Deborah! :)

Melissa said...

Thank you for spending time writing things like this for whomever may need it! I am 24 years old married to a man much older and we have our first baby in this first year of marriage. Neither of us had godly examples in our parents or their marriages and it is so good to read teachings like this for advice and encouragement. I thank God for women like you and know I too have all the ability to love and serve my husband the way he needs and God loves. I just need a bit more practice leaving my selfishness in the dust:)! Thanks again!

busymomof10 said...

Thank you Melissa! I appreciate your words of encouragement!! :)

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