Monday, October 26, 2015

Marriage Monday: Model P31: A Woman that Fears the Lord

Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  {The need for this has never been greater!}

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord,
she shall be praised. 
~ Proverbs 31:30

While the Proverbs 31 woman certainly may have been a beautiful woman, her beauty was not "skin deep." True beauty begins in the heart and radiates outward. It doesn't depend on the perfect features or figure or the most fashionable wardrobe!

Real beauty is a result of having a heart that is yielded to God in obedience and loving submission to His will, a character that is formed by His word and work, and a desire to be beautiful in God's eyes above all. 

The world's idea of beauty is always changing.  (Have you ever considered those pictures of Victorian women? They would be considered obese by our modern anorexic standards! And while modern women may spend hours in the sun or a tanning bed to obtain the perfect sun-bronzed skin, there was a time when women wore sun bonnets to avoid getting even the slightest tan, because the goal was delicate, pale white skin!) 

Sadly, the idea of beauty in this modern age is photo-shopped perfection on the outside and emptiness on the inside. It reminds me of eggs, with their contents blown-out and their shells brightly decorated for an Easter Egg hunt.

True beauty is so much richer and fuller and takes into account the beauty of a woman who has given birth a dozen times and serves her family and community in love from before dawn until late at night.  (As I type this, I have a mental image of Marmee from the movie, Little Women. She lived a life of beautiful self-sacrificial service to her family and her community.)

The thing about beauty and charm is that they may lure and captivate, but they are fickle and fleeting. Neither outward beauty nor charm is capable of producing happiness or getting the work of life done. And neither one is lasting -- they are like a vapor, here today and gone tomorrow.

The beauty of a woman who fears the Lord is lasting and eternal. Instead of vanishing like a vapor, true beauty can actually increase with time. I truly believe my own mother is more beautiful today in the winter season of her life than she ever was!  And I'm not just talking about inner beauty!

Elizabeth George sums it up so well in Beautiful in God's Eyes:

Rather than the clothes you wear, the hairstyle you choose, the car you drive, or the house you decorate, you are to be primarily concerned about living out the holy character that God works in you as you live in His presence. You are to seek the praise of God rather than men. You are to shun the transitory vanities of this world and pursue instead the eternal beauty of the Lord. These -- not face and form -- are the interests of a womn who fears the Lord. It is your fear of the Lord that sanctifies every other part of your life and shows the internal majesty of God that is at your very core.

I love that quote! It's not that we are to ignore the outward appearance or consider it sinful to be outwardly beautiful, but we are to allow the reverential fear of the Lord to sanctify us from the inside out, creating a true and lasting beauty that impacts those around us! I believe that our appearance should incorporate the beauty, the order, and the creativity that God has woven into His creation, and should reflect well on our Heavenly Father and our earthly father and/or husband. As in every area of life, if we keep Christ at the center, everything else will fall into place!

 So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not worry, saying, "What shall we eat?" or "What shall we drink?" or "What shall we wear?" For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. ~ Matthew 6:28-33

Especially for Single P31s:

As a single P31, you may feel the pressure to conform to the beauty of this world more than anyone else! I encourage you to focus on developing true inner beauty as you cultivate a love realationship with Jesus! It will serve you well whether single or married! Don't neglect your outer appearance . . . I do think it is important, especially in the world we live in today, to look our best.  But, remember that 
a joyful spirit, a smiling face, a loving heart, and a vibrant zest for life can make even the plainest features Radiant and Beautiful!  :)

If you are a single woman who longs for a husband, don't fall into the trap of thinking you must resort to worldly charm and Hollywood's definition of beauty to get a man. One of my sons is an avid fisherman, and I notice that he uses different bait, hooks and lures based on what type of fish he is hoping to catch. If you want a "good catch" -- a godly husband who will be the spiritual leader of your home, who treats you with respect and values children, why would you try to "lure" him with worldly devices??  Stick to prayer and a godly life and trust God to bring the right man in His perfect timing!  :)

Project P31, Mission #21:

This is a good time to stop and evaulate whether you are spending most of your time and money on creating or augmenting your outer beauty or on developing your inner beauty?  I encourage you to focus on your relationship with Jesus, and allow Him to make you beautiful from the inside out!  

Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  

Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.

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Andrew said...

Well-said! I'm your neighbour from Messy Marriage.

busymomof10 said...

Thanks for stopping by Andrew! 😊

Karen Del Tatto said...

This was such an edifying post!

I carefully read the quote you shared which was so full of wisdom and insight. The verse also comes to mind to "seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you."

You have spurred me on here today. :-)

busymomof10 said...

Thank you Karen for your encouraging words!! 😊

Sarah Koontz said...

YES! We need to spend more time on our inner beauty than our outward beauty. Well said!

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