Monday, July 27, 2015

Marriage Monday: Project P31: Strength and Honor are Her Clothing




Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  {The need for this has never been greater!}

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 



Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
~ Proverbs 31:25

These simple words speak volumes about our P31. Her clothing, her adornment, what people notice about her most is not her well made "silk and purple," but her strength and honor.

She is physically strong, because she works hard physically from morning until night. She has no need of a "gym membership" to strengthen her arms, because her life includes physical labor, and she is no slacker!

She is also strong mentally, emotionally and spiritually, which are intricately woven together, because her life flows from a fear of the Lord, and like David, she strengthens herself in her God.

Now David was greatly distressed, for the people spoke of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and his daughters. But David strengthened himself in the LORD his God. ~ 1 Samuel 30:6

This woman's strength also comes from her character. This strength of character is what gives her honor or dignity.

She doesn't seek honor from others. She is simply an honorable, worthy, virtuous woman.

Her righteousness, her faithfulness, her wholehearted trust in the Lord all produce an inner peace and confidence, which are evident in her outward strength and honor. She is a noble woman -- a woman of great influence in her home and her community.

Of course, she has problems, and the news coming out of the city gate may be troubling at times, but she exhibits the unworried peace of someone who knows that her fate rests with God, someone who holds fast to God’s promises of protection and provision and salvation. She not only refrains from worrying about tomorrow, she actually rejoices when she thinks about her future, knowing that God is in control!

The LORD is my strength and my shield;
My heart trusted in Him, and I am helped;
Therefore my heart greatly rejoices,
And with my song I will praise Him.

Psalm 28:7


Especially for Single P31s:

Strength and honor are certainly within reach for ever single woman who fears the Lord, who rests in His providence and who waits on His timing. Forget about the latest fashions and fads, and focus on clothing yourself in the timeless beauty of peace, contentment, and holy living. 



Project P31, Mission #14:

Time for a new assignment! 

This is a good time to consider your inner and outer wardrobe --- are you clothed with strength and dignity and honor? Are the clothes hanging in your closet fitting for an honorable woman? Do you feed your mind with worthy, honorable books and entertainment?  Is your life characterized by a fear of the Lord or a fear of man and a fear of the future??


By humility and the fear of the LORD are riches and honor and life.  ~ Proverbs 22:4



Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  If you've started a home business, I'd love to hear about it!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!



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Monday, July 20, 2015

Marriage Monday: Model P31: Making Fine Linen and Selling It




Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  {The need for this has never been greater!}

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 


She maketh fine linen and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchants. 
~ Proverbs 31:24


It's easy to go from amazed and inspired to overwhelmed as we consider all the Excellent Wife was able to accomplish!  Let me remind you that this passage gives us a panaromic view of her life.  This is not a picture of just one day in the life of the P31! 

Life is full of seasons, and when she had many little ones clinging to her "skirts" she was probably not selling linen garments to the merchants!  

As the virtuous woman developed skills in meeting the needs of her family, her excellent workmanship probably drew the attention of the merchants in her community. Eventually, she had a profitable home business.

Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might.  ~Ecclesiastes 9:10

What stands out to me the most about the virtuous woman is how she was always productive, using her time wisely, meeting the needs of her family.  Then, as circumstances allowed, she extended her influence out into her community through her acts of charity and her business endeavors, all the while continuing to be a help meet to her husband and bringing him honor.


For many years, I could barely keep my head above water, with giving birth to a new baby approximately every other year and homeschooling my large family, while trying to keep on top of the never-ending cooking, cleaning and laundry!!  While those years were rewarding, they were also exhausting and all-consuming!  I could never have kept up with a blog or a home business during those years!  

However, I now find myself in a different season of life, with new challenges and new opportunities. Only half of my ten children currently live at home full time.   My "baby" is nearly 11 and my homeschool will only consist of two students this year! I'm enjoying the new opportunities that this season of life affords, such as blogging, selling Lilla Rose hair jewelry, and helping moms reclaim their energy, health and zest for life by sharing the amazing Plexus products.  

If you are still in the days of sleepless nights, changing diapers, planning your days around nap times, and teaching the ABC's and 123's, don't wish those days away!  They evaporate all too quickly!  Embrace the season of life you are in!!  Your time will come soon enough when you can take some of the skills and character that you are developing and turn them into a profitable home business.

To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven. ~ Ecclesiastes 3:2

I know many women who have been able to take what they learned in the trenches and turn it into resources or ministries that bless other moms and bring in some extra income for their own families. I'm thinking of some amazing moms who've created excellent home schooling and parenting materials, such as Donna Reish over at Character Ink, Kathie Morrissey at the Character Corner, or Kim Brenneman and her book Large Family Logistics, just to name a few.  What skills are you developing that you can use as a basis for a business/ministry to other moms??


Especially for Single P31s:

I encourage every single young woman, who hopes to have a husband and children some day, to learn skills, cultivate talents and develop abilities that might turn into a profitable home business in the future. It is getting harder and harder for families to survive on one income, but children need their mommies at home just as much, if not more, as they always have!  If you can start a home business now, it would be much easier to keep it going later, when you are in the busy years of raising young children. 

At the very least, begin to develop habits of initiative, diligence, productivity, and wise time management!  These will serve you well in your future!


Project P31, Mission #13:

Time for a new assignment!  

Prayerfully consider if this is the right time for you to consider starting a cottage industry.  Maybe you are in the season of life where you can begin to ponder and brainstorm . . . but it may be awhile before you can realistically add a home business to your life. It doesn't hurt to start dreaming  . . . 

Maybe, you are a working mom who needs to find ways to squeeze a home business into your life so that you can fulfill your dreams of being home with your precious children!  (If that describes you, I've seen many women able to accomplish this feat in a relatively short amount of time with the amazing Plexus opportunity!)

And perhaps, you've reached the season of life where you feel ready to pursue to cottage industry, but you don't know where to start.  I encourage you to begin to realistically consider your talents, your abilities, your skills.  Think about how much time you have, when you want to work, what your'e good at, what needs you see around you, etc.  What skills did you learn as you raised your children?  Ask your husband what he thinks you're good at and if he has any ideas.



Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  If you've started a home business, I'd love to hear about it!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!



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Monday, July 13, 2015

Marriage Monday: Her Husband is Known in the Gates




Welcome back to Marriage Monday!  I'm so glad you've joined me as we focus on strengthening and promoting godly marriages, both in our nation and in our own backyards.  {The need for this has never been greater!}

Today I am continuing my series for wives (and future wives) based on the ideal wife of Proverbs 31. It is both fun and challenging to look at this passage verse by verse and then examine our own lives and look for practical ways to apply these timeless principles. Please join me each Monday as we continue to examine the character and wisdom of this noble woman and learn how we can each become a Model P31! 



Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. 
~ Proverbs 31:23


Thus far, our study of Proverbs 31 has focused solely on the actions of the wife.  But, suddenly we are given a glimpse into the life of this woman's husband. This verse says he is known in the gates where he sits with the elders, or local leaders, of their community. He may have been an alderman or city councilman, or may have been a business leader, but he was certainly a man of influence.  

Why is this verse inserted into a passage that has been describing the character and accomplishments of a virtuous woman??  It's quite simply because the actions, attitudes, and character of a wife have a tremendous impact on the accomplishments of her husband! I've heard it said that when a man climbs the ladder of success, you'll find his wife holding the ladder!  :)

Although it is not popular in our culture at this present time, it is still biblical, worthy, and important for a wife to support her husband's dreams and goals and encourage his success! Men usually accomplish more when they have a good helpmeet by their sides, encouraging them and helping them!  And when a wife manages the home well, making sure there is always clean laundry to wear and nutritious food to eat, and lovingly cares for and trains the children, then her husband is free to focus on his career and/or ministry. This is God's design -- and it works!


I love the perspective of Elizabeth George in Beautiful in God's Eyes:

As I think about the husband and wife pictured in Proverbs 31, I think of them as a pair of bookends. Both of them are pillars in the community, both are known in the gates (verses 23 and 31), and both are committed to the good of others (verses 20 and 23). Although their spheres of influence are different, they both exhibit the same virtuous character as they live with the same purpose, that of serving others.

God designed a husband and wife to complement each other, not compete with one another or be copies of one another, in fulfilling the calling that He puts on their lives as a couple!  I love how we see this exemplary couple doing just that!


  • He contributes to the good of the community, while she serves as his helpmeet and also reaches out to the needy in the community.
  • He is successful in business and city management. She successfully manages their home and family, as well as some home businesses.
  • He is respected and esteemed in the community; she strengthens his reputation by her honorable conduct.
  • He has achieved some degree of worldly wealth and social status. She contributes to that success by her diligence, frugality, and enterprising spirit.
  • He exerts his influence on the life of the community as he makes decisions in the city gates; she influences the community from her home.
  • He is crowned with honor; she is his crown. (Proverbs 12:4)


Isn't that a beautiful picture??  God designed marriage as a cooperative endeavor and a couple that works together, complementing one another, is powerful indeed!! God never intended for a husband and wife to be two separate entities, pursuing two separate causes in two separate directions!  You are to become "one flesh" that is united in purpose, using your separate contributions and spheres of influence to accomplish the unique calling that God has for you as a couple and a family! (And if you're worried about being "fulfilled,"  there's nothing more fulfilling than accomplishing that which God has created you to do!)


Especially for Single P31s:

Your goal as a single young woman is to develop the talents and skills which the Lord has entrusted to you, not knowing how these may help you or your husband in the future!  Nothing is wasted with God!  As you get older, you can look back and see how He has been weaving together the different facets of your life, and how He takes different experiences and pulls them together to equip you for the job he has for you to do!  If marriage is in your future, He is also preparing you to be the perfect helpmeet for the husband He has for you!  (So, make sure you don't rush ahead -- wait patiently for the man of God's choosing!)  If marriage is not in your future, then God is equipping you and preparing you for that, as well! 

Whether talents or trials -- God has a purpose for them all!  He is preparing you for a future only He sees!  (Romans 8:28-29, 1 Corinthians 2:9)

Perhaps you are tempted to live in fear -- fear that you'll never get married and have a family, or fear that you'll live a lonely, unfulfilled existence.  However, both fear and faith require you to believe in something hasn't happened yet.  So, it's your choice whether you choose fear or faith!  I hope you'll choose to live in Faith!  :)


Project P31, Mission #13:

Time for a new assignment!  

Take time to honestly examine your life and see whether your character and actions are helping your husband succeed in his career or ministry  . . . or holding him back!  

Are you strengthening his influence and prestige in your community?  Or are you undermining it?  

Are you managing his home well, so he is freed up to focus on his calling?  Or does he have to worry about whether he will have clean clothes to wear?

Are you a crown to him . . . or more like a cancer eating away at him??  

Do you sulk, pout and complain when he is away from home working or ministering and make him feel guilty?  Or do you yield your rights to your husband's time to God?

Purpose to make any changes that you see need to occur, by God's grace! :)



Your Turn to Share:

I hope you'll take time to complete your mission for this week and share your thoughts here!  Please leave a comment here on my blog or over on my Facebook page, so we might all be encouraged! You may also email me at elizabeth@yestheyareallours.com if you wish to share a private testimony or a guest post.



If you were blessed or encouraged by this post, please consider sharing it with your friends on Facebook or other social media sites.  Thank you!



Link up:

I'd love to have you link up your blog to mine!  Please link up any past or present posts related to Christian marriage.  Don't forget to link back to my blog!  Thanks!



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NOTE:  Please link up your blog post on marriage below by entering the url of your specific post.  Where it says "Your Name" enter the title of your blog post, not your personal name!  Thanks!

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